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Family Happiness by Leo Tolstoy
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This early novella by the famous Russian author won’t strike the reader as provocative or subversive like some of his later works. “Family happiness� explores the predictable conflicts of marriage within the frame of convention, leaving little space for questioning the social conditions of Russia in Tolstoy’s days.

After her widowed mother dies, Masha, a young noblewoman of seventeen, starts looking at the family friend and land owner of thirty-six, Sergey Mikhlaylych, in a romantic way. The difference in age prevents Sergey from expressing his reciprocal love, but after several years of tentative courting they finally get married.
What ensues is ritualistic dance of two people joined at first with the blinding passion of first love but with essentially different expectations that will eventually puncture the bliss of the newly married couple.

The story might be simple in its plot developement, but Tolstoy’s narrative skill shines as bright as ever. The characters are incredibly human because of their complex and often inconsistent natures, making their emotions easily universalizable and therefore, recognizable to the reader. Masha’s need for excitement after the thrill of the first months of marriage embodies the common disatisfaction that affects most humans at some point in life. Sergey’s patient understanding of Masha’s evolution is fatherly but also condescending, which somehow speaks of Tolstoy’s rather traditional outlook on the role of men and women in the family unit.

“Family Happiness� is far from the exultant ode to love that Turgenev professed in “First Love� but a cautionary tale about the fleeting effects of young infatuation, where gratitude for the mundane and tolerance towards disillusionment bespeak of maturity and acquired wisdom. Maybe unimaginative, but also a compassionate tale on marriage, a recognition to those who walk side by side, in spite of everything, surviving the hard edges of time.
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Reading Progress

March 22, 2018 – Started Reading
March 22, 2018 – Shelved
March 22, 2018 –
page 46
47.92% "“It was for nothing that he said that in life there is only one certain happiness - living for others.�"
March 23, 2018 – Finished Reading
March 24, 2018 –
page 96
100.0% ""All at once I felt clearly and calmly that the feeling of that time had gone never to return, like the time itself, and that to bring it back now would be not only impossible, but painful and forced.""

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message 1: by Lisa (new)

Lisa Reading the three words "family", "happiness" and "Tolstoy" next to each other, my brain suffered a bit from confusion. But your review set it all straight (or crooked) again, and I will add this instantly!


message 2: by Jo (new)

Jo I love a simple story well done so this sounds just my kind of book, thanks for bringing it to my attention Dolors.


message 3: by flo (new) - added it

flo “Family Happiness� is far from the exultant ode to love that Turgenev professed in “First Love�... Count me in. :P
Joking aside, I already had this one on my TBR, but a Dolors review is all I need to make something a priority. It's amazing how complex a seemingly simple story can get due to some extraordinary writing. After (recklessly prejudging first and then) reading Anna Karenina, I can no longer discard so easily something by Tolstoy.
Thanks for this wonderful review.


message 4: by Samra (new)

Samra Yusuf A delight to read you again my lovely Dolors,was just not very active for couple of weeks,I am soon expecting to get my graduation done,so just stuck in academic occupancies :( a high time for me.You've peeled off neatly what tolstoy has in store for us here,and I am actually more bent to first love you mentioned ,as I just finished turgenev's fathers and sons last night,will likely be exploring him more...:)


message 5: by Seemita (new)

Seemita The master appears even more in charge in your distilled words of wisdom, D. I am sure this work contained the sparks that were to become raging fire in his later outings. That you mentioned it alongside 'First Love is good enough to up my intrigue. Keeping this on my radar!


message 6: by Steven (new)

Steven Godin I found some of his lesser known work better to read, especially when knowing little about them. Haven't read this yet, but you put a good case forward to do so.


message 7: by Laysee (new)

Laysee Beautifully written, Dolors. I may read this for a gentle introduction to Tolstoy’s work. Love GR and reviewers like you for widening my book choices. Thanks, Dolors.


Dolors Lisa wrote: "Reading the three words "family", "happiness" and "Tolstoy" next to each other, my brain suffered a bit from confusion. But your review set it all straight (or crooked) again, and I will add this i..."

Hah Lisa, I totally get you. Give this short tale a go, please do. Because happiness is tinted with a huge dose of reality in this story. Tolstoy is Tolstoy at the end of the day! ;P


Dolors Jo wrote: "I love a simple story well done so this sounds just my kind of book, thanks for bringing it to my attention Dolors."

Thanks to you for being so open about new reading journeys, Jo! And for always finding something nice and kind to say.


message 10: by Markus (new)

Markus Quite right, Dolors. Sometimes it is the story and sometimes it is the style that makes us love a book.


message 11: by Deea (new)

Deea Oh, how nice to read this exactly now. I was reading in the morning a short essay by Siri Hustvedt on falling in love and she was saying that we should be tollerant with people who fall in love. When in love, we all have magic dust in our eyes. We can be warned by anyone that our chosen one is gonna be trouble as much as possible and we would still not listen to reason. This magic dust makes us irrational and impractical, but oh, the pangs of this "falling in love"... aren't they sweet poison? The characters from this story find themselves in real life after the magic dust is gone apparently and this should be a good reminder on what's on the other side of the magic spectacles. How many of us though will remember this cautionary tale when infused with the magic dust? :).


Dolors Florencia wrote: "“Family Happiness� is far from the exultant ode to love that Turgenev professed in “First Love�... Count me in. :P
Joking aside, I already had this one on my TBR, but a Dolors review is all I need ..."


Heh, I know how you feel about Turgenev's passionate love, Flo...and I can guarantee you this one is at the other side of the spectrum. Tolstoy is able to draw a familiar tale dressing it with great doses of reality, and romanticism is not glorified, quite the opposite! I don't know why I stray far from the great authors, whenever I pick one of their works I kick myself for having gone months without reading them. You're much wiser, my friend! :)


Dolors Samra wrote: "A delight to read you again my lovely Dolors,was just not very active for couple of weeks,I am soon expecting to get my graduation done,so just stuck in academic occupancies :( a high time for me.Y..."

Oh wow! Congratulations, Samra!! A graduation is a milestone to celebrate, and you surely deserve it. I am glad to hear you liked Turgenev's most famous work, which I still have to read, and I have no doubt you'll make it justice when and if you decide to write down your impressions. Thanks for taking the time to go through my latest ramblings, my dear friend!


Dolors Seemita wrote: "The master appears even more in charge in your distilled words of wisdom, D. I am sure this work contained the sparks that were to become raging fire in his later outings. That you mentioned it alo..."

Tolstoy will always be Tolstoy, Simi...he is among the great ones. I didn't know what to expect from this tale, but I have to admit some of the characters' thoughts and attitudes appealed directly to some situations I've lived in real life. Only a great master can capture reality and add a touch of literary grace that will make it a unique piece of work... Thanks for your warm, beloved words!


Dolors Steven wrote: "I found some of his lesser known work better to read, especially when knowing little about them. Haven't read this yet, but you put a good case forward to do so."

That might not have been my case, as I loved both W&P and AK, but I am truly surprised by the quality of his shorter works so far. Thanks for taking the time to read, Steven.


Dolors Laysee wrote: "Beautifully written, Dolors. I may read this for a gentle introduction to Tolstoy’s work. Love GR and reviewers like you for widening my book choices. Thanks, Dolors."

Thanks to you taking the time to read this review, Laysee. Tolstoy is one of those great authors that I will keep by my side as years go by. This simple but realistic tale might be a good plunge into his otherwise gentle, humane prose. I hope you'll find this tale to your taste if you ever decide to give it a go!


Dolors Markus wrote: "Quite right, Dolors. Sometimes it is the story and sometimes it is the style that makes us love a book."

Absolutely, Markus! The story is not original here, but the way Tolstoy presents it makes all the difference...


Dolors Deea wrote: "Oh, how nice to read this exactly now. I was reading in the morning a short essay by Siri Hustvedt on falling in love and she was saying that we should be tollerant with people who fall in love. Wh..."

Wise reflections you (and Siri!) share here, Deea... And this is Tolstoy's main approach in this short novella. To warn the reader about the dangers of allowing that magic dust to cloud our judgement. So in a way, this is a cautionary tale, but with a somewhat happy ending, because the feat of Tolstoy's characters is that they grow up and mature beyond their romantic expectations, regretting a bit the loss of their magic spectacles, as you call them, but embracing the intimacy and the contentment only couples who have gone through troubles and beaten them enjoy. Not bad advice, right? ;P


message 19: by Ilse (new) - rated it 3 stars

Ilse Your fine and thoughtful musings on how different expectations might soon affect a couple after marriage not only reminds me it has been far too long ago I have been reading Tolstoy (apart from two ultra short stories last year) and what a delight it was to read him, but also are for me so timely as reading on other literary couples in the same era struggling with similar disillusions when reality seems miles away from what they dreamt of before marriage, in Eliot. Needless to say that thanks to your exquisite write-up I look forward to read this too, Dolors :).


message 20: by Henry (new)

Henry Avila Your analyst is always on target, and being a big fan of Tolstoy this interest me, and will always make anyone curious about the book, a great achievement...
And a sign of a good writer, which you are Doloros.


message 21: by Dolors (last edited May 16, 2018 02:01AM) (new) - rated it 4 stars

Dolors Ilse wrote: "Your fine and thoughtful musings on how different expectations might soon affect a couple after marriage not only reminds me it has been far too long ago I have been reading Tolstoy (apart from two..."

Ah Eliot... I have been musing about re-reading Middlemarch, as I read it ages ago and probably when I still didn't appreciate a certain kind of literature (too much Austen is my guess! ;P)
Tolstoy, at least for me, is always a sure shot. I know I'll relate to the characters and the gentle tonality of his voice. He is a great and humane writer, and generally, maybe except in his late works, he fills even dismal situations with a unique kind of light.
And so do your words, Ilse! Thank you.


Dolors Henry wrote: "Your analyst is always on target, and being a big fan of Tolstoy this interest me, and will always make anyone curious about the book, a great achievement...
And a sign of a good writer, which you..."


Wow, you have improved my self-esteem with your kind comment, thanks Henry! My guess is you'll probably devour this short tale in one sitting...and that I'll read one of your galloping reviews soon enough! :))


message 23: by Deanna (new)

Deanna Fantastic review, Dolors!!


Dolors Deanna wrote: "Fantastic review, Dolors!!"

Thanks a bunch for your encouraging words, Deanna! :)


message 25: by Katie (new)

Katie Never heard of this, Dolors. I've been thinking of giving War and Peace another read to see if t's still my favourite novel of all time.


message 26: by Dolors (last edited May 18, 2018 02:05AM) (new) - rated it 4 stars

Dolors Katie wrote: "Never heard of this, Dolors. I've been thinking of giving War and Peace another read to see if t's still my favourite novel of all time."

Oh...I could have written the exact same comment, Katie. W&P surpassed all my expectations in so many ways... Do not put up your expectations too high though, this is a much simpler tale.


message 27: by Henry (new)

Henry Avila Thinking more about Tolstoy... call them deep thoughts...ha ha, he is probably the second greatest writer who ever lived. W&P and Anna, how can anyone top those, Dolors?


message 28: by Dolors (last edited Jun 14, 2018 06:59AM) (new) - rated it 4 stars

Dolors Henry wrote: "Thinking more about Tolstoy... call them deep thoughts...ha ha, he is probably the second greatest writer who ever lived. W&P and Anna, how can anyone top those, Dolors?"

Hell yes, you might be right, Henry. W&P and AK are among the best books I ever read. Couple them with Le Miserables and the Brothers Karamazov and you might harvest four books that will remain with you for a lifetime...


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