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Family Happiness
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This early novella by the famous Russian author won’t strike the reader as provocative or subversive like some of his later works. “Family happiness� explores the predictable conflicts of marriage within the frame of convention, leaving little space for questioning the social conditions of Russia in Tolstoy’s days.
After her widowed mother dies, Masha, a young noblewoman of seventeen, starts looking at the family friend and land owner of thirty-six, Sergey Mikhlaylych, in a romantic way. The difference in age prevents Sergey from expressing his reciprocal love, but after several years of tentative courting they finally get married.
What ensues is ritualistic dance of two people joined at first with the blinding passion of first love but with essentially different expectations that will eventually puncture the bliss of the newly married couple.
The story might be simple in its plot developement, but Tolstoy’s narrative skill shines as bright as ever. The characters are incredibly human because of their complex and often inconsistent natures, making their emotions easily universalizable and therefore, recognizable to the reader. Masha’s need for excitement after the thrill of the first months of marriage embodies the common disatisfaction that affects most humans at some point in life. Sergey’s patient understanding of Masha’s evolution is fatherly but also condescending, which somehow speaks of Tolstoy’s rather traditional outlook on the role of men and women in the family unit.
“Family Happiness� is far from the exultant ode to love that Turgenev professed in “First Love� but a cautionary tale about the fleeting effects of young infatuation, where gratitude for the mundane and tolerance towards disillusionment bespeak of maturity and acquired wisdom. Maybe unimaginative, but also a compassionate tale on marriage, a recognition to those who walk side by side, in spite of everything, surviving the hard edges of time.
After her widowed mother dies, Masha, a young noblewoman of seventeen, starts looking at the family friend and land owner of thirty-six, Sergey Mikhlaylych, in a romantic way. The difference in age prevents Sergey from expressing his reciprocal love, but after several years of tentative courting they finally get married.
What ensues is ritualistic dance of two people joined at first with the blinding passion of first love but with essentially different expectations that will eventually puncture the bliss of the newly married couple.
The story might be simple in its plot developement, but Tolstoy’s narrative skill shines as bright as ever. The characters are incredibly human because of their complex and often inconsistent natures, making their emotions easily universalizable and therefore, recognizable to the reader. Masha’s need for excitement after the thrill of the first months of marriage embodies the common disatisfaction that affects most humans at some point in life. Sergey’s patient understanding of Masha’s evolution is fatherly but also condescending, which somehow speaks of Tolstoy’s rather traditional outlook on the role of men and women in the family unit.
“Family Happiness� is far from the exultant ode to love that Turgenev professed in “First Love� but a cautionary tale about the fleeting effects of young infatuation, where gratitude for the mundane and tolerance towards disillusionment bespeak of maturity and acquired wisdom. Maybe unimaginative, but also a compassionate tale on marriage, a recognition to those who walk side by side, in spite of everything, surviving the hard edges of time.
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March 22, 2018
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March 22, 2018
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"“It was for nothing that he said that in life there is only one certain happiness - living for others.�"
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""All at once I felt clearly and calmly that the feeling of that time had gone never to return, like the time itself, and that to bring it back now would be not only impossible, but painful and forced.""
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Joking aside, I already had this one on my TBR, but a Dolors review is all I need to make something a priority. It's amazing how complex a seemingly simple story can get due to some extraordinary writing. After (recklessly prejudging first and then) reading Anna Karenina, I can no longer discard so easily something by Tolstoy.
Thanks for this wonderful review.





Hah Lisa, I totally get you. Give this short tale a go, please do. Because happiness is tinted with a huge dose of reality in this story. Tolstoy is Tolstoy at the end of the day! ;P

Thanks to you for being so open about new reading journeys, Jo! And for always finding something nice and kind to say.



Joking aside, I already had this one on my TBR, but a Dolors review is all I need ..."
Heh, I know how you feel about Turgenev's passionate love, Flo...and I can guarantee you this one is at the other side of the spectrum. Tolstoy is able to draw a familiar tale dressing it with great doses of reality, and romanticism is not glorified, quite the opposite! I don't know why I stray far from the great authors, whenever I pick one of their works I kick myself for having gone months without reading them. You're much wiser, my friend! :)

Oh wow! Congratulations, Samra!! A graduation is a milestone to celebrate, and you surely deserve it. I am glad to hear you liked Turgenev's most famous work, which I still have to read, and I have no doubt you'll make it justice when and if you decide to write down your impressions. Thanks for taking the time to go through my latest ramblings, my dear friend!

Tolstoy will always be Tolstoy, Simi...he is among the great ones. I didn't know what to expect from this tale, but I have to admit some of the characters' thoughts and attitudes appealed directly to some situations I've lived in real life. Only a great master can capture reality and add a touch of literary grace that will make it a unique piece of work... Thanks for your warm, beloved words!

That might not have been my case, as I loved both W&P and AK, but I am truly surprised by the quality of his shorter works so far. Thanks for taking the time to read, Steven.

Thanks to you taking the time to read this review, Laysee. Tolstoy is one of those great authors that I will keep by my side as years go by. This simple but realistic tale might be a good plunge into his otherwise gentle, humane prose. I hope you'll find this tale to your taste if you ever decide to give it a go!

Absolutely, Markus! The story is not original here, but the way Tolstoy presents it makes all the difference...

Wise reflections you (and Siri!) share here, Deea... And this is Tolstoy's main approach in this short novella. To warn the reader about the dangers of allowing that magic dust to cloud our judgement. So in a way, this is a cautionary tale, but with a somewhat happy ending, because the feat of Tolstoy's characters is that they grow up and mature beyond their romantic expectations, regretting a bit the loss of their magic spectacles, as you call them, but embracing the intimacy and the contentment only couples who have gone through troubles and beaten them enjoy. Not bad advice, right? ;P


And a sign of a good writer, which you are Doloros.

Ah Eliot... I have been musing about re-reading Middlemarch, as I read it ages ago and probably when I still didn't appreciate a certain kind of literature (too much Austen is my guess! ;P)
Tolstoy, at least for me, is always a sure shot. I know I'll relate to the characters and the gentle tonality of his voice. He is a great and humane writer, and generally, maybe except in his late works, he fills even dismal situations with a unique kind of light.
And so do your words, Ilse! Thank you.

And a sign of a good writer, which you..."
Wow, you have improved my self-esteem with your kind comment, thanks Henry! My guess is you'll probably devour this short tale in one sitting...and that I'll read one of your galloping reviews soon enough! :))


Oh...I could have written the exact same comment, Katie. W&P surpassed all my expectations in so many ways... Do not put up your expectations too high though, this is a much simpler tale.


Hell yes, you might be right, Henry. W&P and AK are among the best books I ever read. Couple them with Le Miserables and the Brothers Karamazov and you might harvest four books that will remain with you for a lifetime...