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Normal People by Sally Rooney
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Normal People starts out beautifully. Marianne is a loner in high school with no friends, while Connell is the popular football player. His mom works as a cleaner at Marianne's house, so they run into each other when he stops by to pick up his mom. Over time, they start to thaw around each other, growing closer as they realize that they can be their true selves when they are together.

Rooney captures so well the vulnerability and awkwardness of teenage years, along with its exuberance and infinite possibility. It was sweet to follow along to Marianne and Cornell's developing relationship. Even though there is the stress of school and the pressure of being teenagers, when they are alone together, they can be free to express themselves and be who they really are.

Then they are off to college, and the dynamics change. Marianne becomes the popular one, and Connell becomes the loner with no friends. At this point, I start to realize Rooney captures a very black and white version of high school and college. You are either part of the popular obnoxious crowd or you are a nobody with no friends, and there is nothing in between. And everyone's ultimate goal was to be in the popular crowd. But that isn't the school experience I remember, so it became harder and harder for me to connect with this book. In my experience, people had several different groups of friends, and no one liked obnoxious people. Most were working so hard that they didn't have time to worry about popularity and how others regarded them, especially in college.

This story has a very YA feel to it, where the characters are filled with angst and lack emotional maturity. While that made sense when Marianne and Connell were in high school, as the story progressed through their college years, it didn't anymore. The two seem to love each other, and yet, they are so sensitive to perceived slights that innocent conversations would quickly escalate to a breakup. Honest communication would clear this up immediately, but they don't do that. Instead, they circle and prod each other until they are back together again. Then the cycle repeats. It's all very dramatic, but it left me pretty apathetic by the end of the book.

This book also tackles the subject of abuse, but I think it was a missed opportunity here. Rooney portrays abuse as if some people just want to be abused, so they will let anyone abuse them, and even go around looking for it until they find it. That's not right. Victims have trouble escaping because abusers are often the people they love most, who treat them well most of the time and express regret after an incident. But there is no love or good treatment in this book, so it doesn't make sense that the victim would just put up with it.

In the end, I thought the first half of this book was wonderful, but everything stagnated in the second half. The main characters never really grew up, so they repeated the same mistakes over and over again. Their lack of maturity and insight into themselves and their relationships grated on me. I went into this book with really high hopes, but ultimately it didn't live up to its potential.

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May 29, 2019 – Shelved
May 30, 2019 – Started Reading
May 31, 2019 – Finished Reading

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JanB Great review Yun. We disagree on some points about the college experience and the effects of abuse, but I respect our differences. I wish we could sit down over a cup of coffee and discuss it! 😊


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Yun JanB wrote: "Great review Yun. We disagree on some points about the college experience and the effects of abuse, but I respect our differences. I wish we could sit down over a cup of coffee and discuss it! 😊"
Thanks, Jan! For sure, this would be a terrifically interesting book to discuss. I've really enjoyed reading everyone's differing reviews on it. :)


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MarilynW Wonderful review Yun, I think this could be a tedious read for me. I get frustrated when people don't say things that could fix a situation, just circle around it. Of course, that happens in a lot of books because if it didn't, there wouldn't be a problem. 🤣


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Yun marilyn wrote: "Wonderful review Yun, I think this could be a tedious read for me. I get frustrated when people don't say things that could fix a situation, just circle around it. Of course, that happens in a lot ..."
Marilyn, I totally get what you are saying. Since a lot of conflicts in books are a bit contrived, when I do come across a book where the conflicts are real and not due to people acting silly/stupid, I just love those so much more! Unfortunately, this one wasn't that for me.


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I'm sorry this didn't finish well and if it felt YA I understand why it wasn't a good fit!


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Yun Dita wrote: "I'm sorry this didn't finish well and if it felt YA I understand why it wasn't a good fit!"
Thanks, Dita! So many others loved this book and didn't mind the YA feel, so I'm definitely the outlier here with my lukewarm feelings. It's always disappointing when a book starts out strong, but ends up petering out.


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It so is! It's tough to finish well, I'm sure, but you owe it to your readers who've hung in there with you for an entire book!


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Yun Dita wrote: "It so is! It's tough to finish well, I'm sure, but you owe it to your readers who've hung in there with you for an entire book!"
Yep, I totally agree!


Holly I was expecting more maturity/growth from either of them - but nope. Instead we get (view spoiler)


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Yun Holly wrote: "I was expecting more maturity/growth from either of them - but nope. Instead we get [spoilers removed]"
(view spoiler)


A.Rosalind Agreed with you on almost all points about this book. I felt it had potential to be so much more of a love story 🙃


message 12: by Yun (new) - rated it 3 stars

Yun A.Rosalind wrote: "Agreed with you on almost all points about this book. I felt it had potential to be so much more of a love story 🙃"
Thanks, A.Rosalind! Yes exactly. Sorry you ran into the same issues!


Maureen Brilliant review Yun! 💗


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Nancy Hudson I hate when characters don’t grow up or act their age. I guess I need to remove this book from my TBR.


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Yun Maureen wrote: "Brilliant review Yun! 💗"
Thanks, Maureen! 💖


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Yun Nancy wrote: "I hate when characters don’t grow up or act their age. I guess I need to remove this book from my TBR."
Obviously, I have mixed feelings about this book. On the one hand, the portrayal of the characters in high school made sense. But then they kept not growing up as they became adults... that's when my patience ran out lol.


message 17: by Ren (new) - rated it 4 stars

Ren This was very well said! Especially the abuse part!


Miya (severe pain struggles, slower at the moment) I felt the same way. I expected so much from the hype.


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Yun Ren wrote: "This was very well said! Especially the abuse part!"
Thanks, Ren! Glad you felt the same about the abuse part, and it wasn't just me.


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Yun Miya wrote: "I felt the same way. I expected so much from the hype."
Glad you felt the same, Miya! Yes, it definitely fell short from all the hype.


Susan  (on hiatus) I agree with your comments about the college experiance and beyond - people are too busy. Too bad the second half was as good as the first.💖🌷


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Yun Susan wrote: "I agree with your comments about the college experiance and beyond - people are too busy. Too bad the second half was as good as the first.💖🌷"
Thanks, Susan! Right? Who are these weirdos with so much time on their hands as to care about their popularity lol! 😅 I always hope a book ends on a high note, so it was a little disappointing that this one didn't. 💖


ChrissiesPurpleLibrary You summed up the abuse troupe perfectly. Great review.


message 24: by Baba (new) - rated it 4 stars

Baba A well thought out review Yun. I can't believe a gave this book Four Stars, in hindsight I agree with the Three Stars you gave it; although I too also very much enjoyed/preferred the first half, which may have influenced my grading. Maybe I missed the book's intentions, but I thought it was also looking at how 'BDSM submissives' because of their sexual fantasy leanings/yearnings can end up being abused?


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Yun Christina wrote: "You summed up the abuse troupe perfectly. Great review."
Thanks, Christina! That abuse trope is so silly and misleading... very frustrating to read.


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Yun Baba wrote: "A well thought out review Yun. I can't believe a gave this book Four Stars, in hindsight I agree with the Three Stars you gave it; although I too also very much enjoyed/preferred the first half, wh..."
Thanks, Baba! The first half really was stellar, so I can totally see why you gave it 4 stars. Was it related to BDSM submissives? Huh, I totally didn't get that at all... figures! I'm not sure if that would change my feelings on this though. I'll have to give it some more thought. :)


Mark  Porton Another brilliant review from the House of Yun, Yun.....shame you only gace it a mediocre 3, I loved this one, there's a lot of heavy themes in this one isn't there?


NILTON TEIXEIRA Great review Yun! You are awesome! I found this book extremely boring, but I do want to watch the adaptation for the TV, which I heard is a lot better.


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Yun Mark wrote: "Another brilliant review from the House of Yun, Yun.....shame you only gace it a mediocre 3, I loved this one, there's a lot of heavy themes in this one isn't there?"
Hahaha House of Yun! 🤣 Thanks a bunch, Mark! So many readers loved this one and I'm glad you did too. Definitely an interesting read, even if the second half didn't quite live up to expectations for me.


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Yun NILTON wrote: "Great review Yun! You are awesome! I found this book extremely boring, but I do want to watch the adaptation for the TV, which I heard is a lot better."
Thanks a bunch, Nilton! Looks like we both found this a little disappointing, though I got a bit more out of it than you. Ha, my tbw is getting almost as long as my tbr at this point! :)


Kat (Books are Comfort Food) Sorry to hear it started strong and then did a nose dive of sorts. Still glad you got something from it and I appreciate your honest review.


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Yun Kat (Books are Comfort Food) wrote: "Sorry to hear it started strong and then did a nose dive of sorts. Still glad you got something from it and I appreciate your honest review."
Thanks, Kat! Yes indeed, I enjoyed some parts of it, so I can't complain! :)


Dorie  - Cats&Books :) Great review Yun, I passed on this one and now I'm glad that I did. I just didn't think it was for me !!


Jaidee Is it ok if I throw this book at Rooney...I wouldn't of course but I would silently shoot eye daggers at her.

I enjoyed your half and half approach Yun !


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Yun Dorie - Cats&Books :) wrote: "Great review Yun, I passed on this one and now I'm glad that I did. I just didn't think it was for me !!"
Thanks, Dorie! It's definitely not for everyone, so I totally understand where you're coming from. :)


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Yun Jaidee wrote: "Is it ok if I throw this book at Rooney...I wouldn't of course but I would silently shoot eye daggers at her.

I enjoyed your half and half approach Yun !"

Thanks, Jaidee! Ouch, it looks like you enjoyed this less than I did. At least I got some enjoyment out of the first half.


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Bharath Great review Yun. Good themes, but sad it did not live up to its potential.


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Yun Bharath wrote: "Great review Yun. Good themes, but sad it did not live up to its potential."
Thanks, Bharath! Maybe my expectations were just too high after all the rave reviews.


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Lucy This is one I haven’t yet gotten around to reading. Glad to see your thoughts on it 😉.


Karina I love it when I see characters mature and become better people throughout and when they don’t I feel the same as you� dissatisfied�. Maybe it’s bc you went from Anxious People to Normal People�? Lol�


Kayci Nicole Agree 100%� kept waiting for them to grow up and communicate their feelings/needs and ended up feeling a little bored of them by the end!


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Yun Lucy wrote: "This is one I haven’t yet gotten around to reading. Glad to see your thoughts on it 😉."
Thanks, Lucy! When you get to it, hope you enjoy a bit more than I did! 🤗


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Yun Karina wrote: "I love it when I see characters mature and become better people throughout and when they don’t I feel the same as you� dissatisfied�. Maybe it’s bc you went from Anxious People to Normal People�? Lol�"
Hahaha! I see what you did there! 🤣 For me, if it's a character driven story, I always need character development. Otherwise, what am I reading for, you know? Lol.


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Yun Kayci wrote: "Agree 100%� kept waiting for them to grow up and communicate their feelings/needs and ended up feeling a little bored of them by the end!"
Thanks, Kayci! Glad I'm not the only one who felt this way! Yes, just talk to each other... yeesh!


Terence M - [Quot libros, quam breve tempus!] Another significant and worthwhile review, Yun😊!
Significant because you don't seem to have actually caught the "Rooney" fever, and worthwhile because, having bought "Beautiful World ..." on a whim (ok, because I love Aoife McMahon's reading), I am not tempted to buy "Normal People". And now, I am unlikely to read "Beautiful World..." either!


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Akona Awesome review, Yun. Hundred percent agree, the characters were frustratingly immature. So much so I couldn’t finish the book. I tried watching the series and found I still had the same issue.


Sarah I get your frustration with Connell and Marianne. I was frustrated with them too, though for me they still felt like realistic characters, and though they didn't mature much, I felt like they did move forward some towards the end. And honestly, not everyone does mature. IMO the take on abuse was more about the character unconsciously seeking out the same patterns, which is quite common with abuse victims, so I found that believable. Also, when the abuse situation occurs in a family setting and has gone on probably since the victim was quite young I think that's hard to break free from for a myriad of reasons. Personally I feel like Rooney's characters are very nuanced and real, so things happen more in the grey areas and aren't clear cut. I do get that she's not for everyone though. It's even kind of hard for me to explain why her work touches me like it does.


Barbara lol! It is a YA-feel! Rooney does angst well; it's just difficult to read. I liked this a bit more than you, but maybe it's because I listened to the audio. I agree with everything in your review Yun. Nicely done!


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Yun Terence M (Often away with the pixies) wrote: "Another significant and worthwhile review, Yun😊!
Significant because you don't seem to have actually caught the "Rooney" fever, and worthwhile because, having bought "Beautiful World ..." on a whim..."

Thanks a bunch, Terence! Ha, don't let me dissuade you from Beautiful World! I have that one on my tbr, and everyone seems to love it. I have also heard that her audiobooks tend to go down a little less YA feeling than reading her books, so there's that. Will be curious to see your thoughts if you ever get to Beautiful World. :)


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Yun Akona wrote: "Awesome review, Yun. Hundred percent agree, the characters were frustratingly immature. So much so I couldn’t finish the book. I tried watching the series and found I still had the same issue."
Thanks, Akona! Glad I'm not the only one! Ah, good to know the series isn't much better! I had it on my list of shows to watch, but maybe I'll pull it off my mounting tbw pile lol.


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