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This book was so bad I didn't even want to mark it on goodreads but I want to keep track of everything so here we go.
It wasn't the *worst* book I've ever read, but it was the most disgusting thing I've ever laid eyes upon... and I used to read smut on wattpad.
The writer went around Wikipedia and Google looking for some random food or plant names which was painfully obvious. It made the process of reading more difficult and the story way more boring without any reason or pay off.
The book does go through some realistic scenarios and situations but the main character is so unrelatable and out of touch that it didn't make a difference from all the unrealistic so-called "useless" love stories the book mentions so many times that "do it wrong".
It is as biased as a book can be (worst of all in the therapy sessions) and romanticizes lying, bullying, and hurting your partner, and most of all STAYING with a partner that bullies, hurts, and lies to you just because "awww they were scared :((" Well tough! Everyone's scared. Life is scary. That doesn't justify this behaviour. And the average rating of this book is so alarming to me. For the love of god people don't listen to this book. Don't stay with someone who doesn't respect you because "there isn't going to be a better choice". Yes there could be. Sure, maybe no-one is 100% compatible with you but that doesn't mean you have to tolerate someone who is different from you in every aspect of life. Being alone is better that that. If you made a mistake, a wrong choice, that's sad but alright; admit to it and move on. Don't stay in an F-ed up marriage just because separation or divorce isn't aesthetically pleasing.
Being from the Middle East is, as ever in the modern western world, played as a political agenda, "oh nu he experienced war :("but then that same character can't handle the smallest inconvenience... Racist much?
And don't even get me started on the sexism. At first it was just internalized sexism and I thought the writer just didn't know (doesn't make it any better but it can at least be tolerated.) I don't want to go around quoting all the things I despised about this book (if I were to do that I'd have to type out the entire book and nag about it.) But this one just broke me: «...her knowledge of what might be going on under a car bonnet (the sorts of things which women let down by their fathers at a young age seem to be particularly good at).»
So remember kids, the next time a woman has a general idea of how cars work, you can go ahead and assume she has daddy issues. God forbid a woman having traditionally un-feminine knowledge without it surrounding men!
The main character is a self-righteous hypocrite who treats people nicely only in aspects that he needs people to be nice to him as well. The book calls this a character development of him becoming a "good" person. That's not the case. If you're good to another person because you are in need of their goodness, or as the book puts it: «He is readier to be generous, too, from a sense of how much he needs the charity.» Then you are not a good person. It's pretty simple. Let me quote our lord and saviour, Steven Moffat, from my favorite TV show, Doctor Who, to explain this: "Only in darkness are we revealed. Goodness is not goodness that seeks advantage. Good is good in the final hour, in the deepest pit, without hope, without witness, without reward. Virtue is only virtue in extremis."
And looking at it from the other way, it's still wrong. The book constantly keeps mentioning that you have to be hurt to know not to hurt others. Again, bullshit. Do you have to have your arm chopped off to know that chopping off people's arms is wrong and hurtful?
Furthermore, it says that normal life is as cool as epic stories which... okay this one isn't as fundamentally wrong as the previous points I mentioned but comparing ancient mythology to buying groceries just doesn't sit right with me.
Anyway, I want to be fair so I'll say that the text of the book had some smart and subtle word-plays that I liked. Plus there were a couple of philosophies mentioned that I agreed with, to an extent, but the way they were unfolded in the story just made me hate my own stance.
I'm not even gonna rate this out of ten. Just sitting here waiting for the day goodreads makes zero stars a thing.