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Memorial by Bryan Washington
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it was amazing
bookshelves: contemporary, literary, lgbtqiap, favourites-2021, hall-of-fame, favourite-authors-literary

Meet Benson and Mike. In Benson's own words:
It's like we're in some fucked-up rom-com, I said. It's like we're both fucked up rom-com villains.
These are two flawed men shaped by many things but most especially their families. The story is told entirely in reported speech. There are no quotation marks to showcase dialogs. The vignettes are brief and don't give you any chance to percolate before you're bombarded with the next memory, fight, moment, feeling.

This book questions a lot about life. It's a slice of life story with no plot to speak of just following the messed up love lives of Benson and Mike.

As a budding existentialist, this book left me with a lot to think about.

On existence... Are we other people thinking of us?
You’re taking up space in another human’s brain, she said. You’re a foreign entity. A parasite. That’s a lot by itself.


Wait until you’re our age, she said. See who’s still around.
On living...
what if it doesn’t work out? I asked. What if you don’t know? Nobody ever knows if it’ll work, said Ximena. That’s why you do this shit. To find out.


we take our memories wherever we go, and what’s left are the ones that stick around, and that’s how we make a life.
On loving... Loving your person over many years
loving a person means letting them change when they need to. And letting them go when they need to. And that doesn’t make them any less of a home. Just maybe not one for you. Or only for a season or two. But that doesn’t diminish the love. It just changes forms.
The writing is lyrical and beautiful. Few words are chosen but they pack a punch. This is the kind of book that stays with you. That makes you turn it over again and again asking yourself if you missed something. It also assumes its reader is really smart. Unfortunately for it, my attention deficiency isn't designed to inhale a book continuously until an unspoken interlude. I had to constantly reread chapters because I had missed something or had overlooked something (I had). The book is also a bit interactive, a fictional memoir that also has photographic evidence of where our characters are.

Mike is Japanese and Benson is black. Their stories are immersive, evocative, authentic. I learnt so much about Japan that I realised how little I actually knew about Japan. Washington successfully created a tapestry of life that simultaneously made me a voyeur and a participant. I was there when Benson was cooking with Mike's mother. I was there when Mike was fighting with Eiku. I was there when our MCs were reliving moments from their pasts that were pivotal to who they were as adults.

However, the book promptly let go of my hand when it approached the ending. I'm still not sure what I think happened is what actually happened. Does that mean I will read this book again? But, of course.

EXTRAS
But this is life too, said the guy, smiling.
Yeah?
Yeah. It’s different. But it’s still happening.


If you'd like a taste of Bryan's work, here is a . It has Bryan's aversion to quotation marks and affinity for food.
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Reading Progress

January 26, 2021 – Started Reading
January 26, 2021 – Shelved
January 26, 2021 –
page 20
6.25% "This book moves so fast and you either keep up or shut up. *cracks knuckles*

description"
January 27, 2021 –
page 67
20.94% "What the hell are you doing Benson"
January 27, 2021 –
page 100
31.25% "This is a very character driven book. So little is said but so much is heard. Seen. Read?? I'm getting alot out of it even tho it's very economical."
January 28, 2021 –
page 111
34.69% "Few things:

This book will make me singlehandedly keep the Japanese food isle in my local supermarket in business.
Lydia is remarkably unpleasant.
Benson is playing with fire. Kinda?"
January 28, 2021 –
page 113
35.31% " Afterward we’re just two guys in a car, performing an impossible yoga.

What an interesting way to refer to front seat sex. This book has an extraordinary way with words."
January 28, 2021 –
page 117
36.56% "description

NOT A GODDAMN MOTHERFUCKING POV SWITCH"
January 28, 2021 –
page 136
42.5% "Aiyayaiyaiyaiyai Mike."
January 28, 2021 –
page 143
44.69% "I have no idea what I'm hoping will happen but I'm so hooked by where this story is going."
January 30, 2021 –
page 183
57.19% "What is even happening"
January 31, 2021 – Shelved as: contemporary
January 31, 2021 – Shelved as: literary
January 31, 2021 – Shelved as: lgbtqiap
January 31, 2021 – Shelved as: favourites-2021
January 31, 2021 – Finished Reading
March 26, 2022 – Shelved as: hall-of-fame
March 25, 2025 – Shelved as: favourite-authors-literary

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message 1: by Fran (new)

Fran "Washington successfully created a tapestry of life that simultaneously made me a voyeur and a participant" mwana...an excellent write up of a book leaving you with much to ponder. 💖


Mwanamali Fran wrote: ""Washington successfully created a tapestry of life that simultaneously made me a voyeur and a participant" mwana...an excellent write up of a book leaving you with much to ponder. 💖"

Thank you Fran. Books that leave me with a lot to think about seem to be my new faves 💕


Ariana  (mostly offline) Super review, mwana! Sounds special. 😘


Mwanamali Ariana wrote: "Super review, mwana! Sounds special. 😘"

Thank you Ariana. It's an amazing book that captures an aspect of black life in the US without the haze of systemic traumas. I love and appreciate such slice of life stories.


message 5: by Ezi (new) - rated it 3 stars

Ezi Chinny Just bought this hardcover. I can't wait to read it


Mwanamali Ezinwanyi wrote: "Just bought this hardcover. I can't wait to read it"

I'm so envious. I need to afford shipping now 😢


Left Coast Justin I loved your comment that you had to go back and re-read chapters in case you'd missed something. This is a strong endoresment about how invested in the story (or lack of story) you were.


message 8: by Mwanamali (last edited May 23, 2022 04:26AM) (new) - rated it 5 stars

Mwanamali Left Coast Justin wrote: "I loved your comment that you had to go back and re-read chapters in case you'd missed something. This is a strong endoresment about how invested in the story (or lack of story) you were."

There is definitely a story, Benson and Mike's story but the sentences are very short and the chapters as well. You may end up reading too fast and getting somewhere and feeling like you've missed something. But it was worth it to go back


message 9: by Federico (new)

Federico DN Sounds wonderfully insightful. So much to think about. So much to confuse about too lol. Great review Mwana!


Mwanamali Federico wrote: "Sounds wonderfully insightful. So much to think about. So much to confuse about too lol. Great review Mwana!"

Thank you Frederico. It's definitely one for the keener crowd but I absolutely adore it.


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