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Gay Bar by Jeremy Atherton Lin
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it was amazing
bookshelves: queer, memoir-biography, non-fiction, queer-studies, favorites

I remember visiting my first gay bar. I remember trembling with anticipation and fear. I remember stepping inside and feeling the beat of the music vibrating on my skin, and the energy of the people around me vibrate in my soul. I remember feeling like suddenly, I knew where I belonged.

It is a difficult thing to watch as the spaces that provided me and my community safe haven shutter and close. This book asks the question; what are we losing? It also asks all the questions in between.

While exploring his past through stories of gay bars, pubs and clubs he's visited, Lin, magically takes us along with him evoking nostalgia, lust, and excitement through his words. While describing his own experiences I began to reflect on my own. It makes you wonder how many shared experiences gay men have of their times in these spaces.

I simply loved the idea of this book. I loved all the thought provoking questions and musing Lin offered up as well as just reading about his own stories.

It all simply worked, and I think any gay man of a certain age will truly enjoy the trip down memory lane that can be found in these pages. And if you're not of a certain age, this is a great way to step into the mind of a generation of gay men that came before, are still here now, and have plenty of nights out ahead of them!
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Reading Progress

March 5, 2021 – Started Reading
March 18, 2021 – Shelved
March 18, 2021 – Shelved as: queer
March 18, 2021 – Finished Reading
February 16, 2023 – Shelved as: memoir-biography
February 16, 2023 – Shelved as: non-fiction
January 2, 2024 – Shelved as: queer-studies
May 26, 2024 – Shelved as: favorites

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Dennis Holland Ditto. I found all the questions the book asked me to ponder fascinating, as well. The question “have gay bars kept me in my place?� particularly stood out for me. It has made me reflect and question myself and made me realize how much (especially I) have changed since walking into my first gay bar. Was it the space or my own head space? I finished the book some time ago but I am still thinking about it and likely will be for quite awhile. In fact, when I am no longer thinking about it, I will know it is time to pick it up again and reflect some more.


That One Ryan I love that! Have we held onto these spaces too long to try on hold on to the people we were when we visited them. Are we still those people?

So many question, so much insight! As you said, the words will stick with you for some time and I concur!


That One Ryan Andrew, I do love Greek Mythology though I haven’t read a ton on the subject! I will have to look into your recommendation though! I’m all for gay Greek myths!


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Gregory I gotta read this.


That One Ryan Gregory, you should pick it up! Well worth a read!! I highly recommend l! Especially to gay men who’s coming of age involved gay bars


message 6: by Gregory (new)

Gregory Awesome. Hopefully that works for me who’s been 20 since 2002.-)


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