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I read this book last year - it's the only book that I did not review. While I enjoyed the book, I did not find it to be anything 'special.' I believe that it took courage to write it and publish it, for sure. I admire that. But I am unable to give it more thn 3 stars. While reading it I felt, 'ho-hum. I've read many other books on this topic over a long career...

So this is my dislaimer: I have studied polyamory, open marriage, etc. for roughly 4 decades. I have a great many books on the subject, dating back to the O'Neils in 1984 (?) and others. I am a psychologist who has worked with couples, and individuals, in open marriages. Further, I have had my own experiences in the subject - not open marriage per say, myself, but with others, clubs, 'open' scenarios, groups. So, I do know a bit about it....[ being a third in an open marriage] is another experience.

The #1 biggest issue is always the green eyed monster - jealousy. Always, in my experience. Now, it goes without saying that this topic has changed so very, very much since I started studying it 40 - 50 years ago. Even since my own experiences 25 years ago, so much has changed, it is literally incredible. Back then it was about always driven by males - that is still more common - but not nearly as much. The women's movement changed much of this. Like a whole lot of it. Women are now more likely to speak up about their needs, wants, desires. More willing to try it or even suggest it.

I read countless reviews of this book on Å·±¦ÓéÀÖ, and I am going to say that IMHO it is very simplistic and inaccurate to blame the husband, i.e. he 'drove' the entire open marriage. This is blatantly inaccurate (yes, I am a guy, but I have never stood up for males when they are wrong (for lack of a better word). As time passes we see Molly becoming more involved, on her own, and in fact *not* wanting it to end. So, I see many reviews of 1-2 stars that are simply off-base by placing all of the 'blame' on the husband. He 'coerced' her, etc. he refused to end it. Not true by my reading. Go read interviews with Molly, etc. This is their opinion, which is fine, but it's not in line with the entire context of this memoir.

As a memoir it's ok. It's in no way titillating (IMHO), it is the experience of one woman with her husband (they are still together with 2 children) in an 'open marriage. If this interests you, the book may be worth reading - it does tend to drag, to me at least. A follow-up could be intriguing...

Other books that I would recommend? 'Polysecure', The Ethical Slut' I consider a classic, 'More than Two' is very good, 'Opening Up' by Tristan Taormino is very good (all of her books are very good). There are many others compared to when I started looking at this topic - it's 2025! So these are my thoughts. 3/5 stars. Read whatever you can find on the net if you want more info. I may edit this if I find something particularly worthwhile....