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Private Rites by Julia Armfield
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“Life, she understands, is a collapsing down, a succession of memories held not in sequence but together, occurring and recurring all at once.�

After falling head over heels for Armfield’s Our Wives Under the Sea a little while back, I was totally stoked for the release of this novel. I’m sorry to say, I feel a bit disappointed this time around. Maybe my expectations were too high, but I couldn’t quite muster up the same level of enthusiasm for it! As far as the prose, on a sentence level this was equally masterful. The story itself is what left me feeling kind of enervated. A bit limp. Maybe it was all that rain and dreariness that did it. After all, the book is set during a dystopian world where rain dominates everything.

“It rains constantly and the fact of the rain, of the rain’s whole great impending somethingness, runs parallel to the day-to-day of work and sleep and lottery tickets, of yoga challenges, of buying fruit and paying taxes, of mopping floors and taking drugs on weekends and reading books and wondering what to do on dates. It’s exhausting, as it always was, to live with such a breadth of things to take up one’s attention � exhausting, the way there can be too much world, even in its final stages. Exhausting, to be so busy and so bored with no time left for either.�

See what I mean about the writing � yes! It's the stuff about memory (like that first quote above) and family and sisterhood that jazzed me up the most. The gist of this story is that three sisters are left to deal with the death of their father. And the three sisters aren’t all too warm and fuzzy � with one another or with the reader. And good ole pop wasn’t exactly the poster boy for fatherhood either. That’s okay though. I didn’t mind that part. Family dynamics always intrigue me. Armfield alternates points of view between Irene, Isla and Agnes. Oh, even the City has a little voice interspersed here and there. I liked that quite a lot. There’s an underlying current of something eerie, and the rain adds to that feeling. I did like the interplay between distorted memory and distorted view due to that excess of water. Even the people seem to have transformed due to the constant deluge.

“Irene often feels she can detect a certain amphibious quality in the people with whom she shares transportation, shares offices, shares the ingrown cramp of city space.�

Throughout the entirety of the novel, I was expecting this to go somewhere and knock me for a loop. Instead, my kneejerk reaction at the end was “Oh, come on. Really?!� Well, I can’t tell you why. It might be just your thing, but it wasn’t mine. I was a bit relieved when it was all over. Enough of that rain! I happily basked in a small patch of sunlight that managed to creep through the picture window in the living room. It’s warming my back on this frigid, snowy day as I type this review, too. Read Our Wives Under the Sea if you want the perfect introduction to Julia Armfield!

Here are a few of my favorite quotes, because like I said, many of her sentences captivated me!

“How, she wondered, was one supposed to grieve an absence when that absence was familiar? What, she wondered, was grief without a clear departure to regret?�

“The first time you lose a parent, a part of you gets trapped there, trapped less in the moment of grief than in the knowledge of the end of childhood, the inevitable dwindling of the days.�

“Sisterhood, she thinks, is a trap. You all get stuck in certain roles forever.�

“The problem with love, of course, is that it frequently asks too much of unlovable people. It can be hard,on even the best of days, to compel oneself to be selfless and patient and undemanding or even halfway reasonable when one is not given to any of those behaviors. But these are nonetheless the qualities that love demands.�

“Love, it seems, is bizarre in its moment of realization, too blatant to speak aloud.�

“At what point, she wanted to say, do we stop being the direct product of our parents? At what point does it start being our fault?�
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Reading Progress

June 16, 2024 – Shelved
June 16, 2024 – Shelved as: to-read
June 16, 2024 – Shelved as: dystopia
June 16, 2024 – Shelved as: literary-fiction
December 29, 2024 – Started Reading
January 11, 2025 – Finished Reading

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message 1: by Linda (new)

Linda Sorry this was a disappointment. Great review, though. I loved your quotes.


message 2: by Antoinette (new)

Antoinette You are right- beautiful quotes- the one about losing a parent for the first time really spoke to me. I have her first book on my TBR thanks to you, so hopefully will get to that one. Excellent review, Candi!


message 3: by Fran (new)

Fran Candi...wonderful review. Sorry you didn't enjoy this read more!


message 4: by Diane (new)

Diane Barnes That last quote explains a lot. I know a lot of people who never get to that point.


message 5: by Pedro (new)

Pedro “A dystopian world where rain dominates everything�?? The author is clearly English!!

Excellent review, friend.
And yes, those quotes�


message 6: by Sara (new)

Sara Hate when I fall for a book by an author and the next is a let-down. I did enjoy your review, though, and love that you are able to take away what is good with a novel, even when the overall feeling is disappointment.


Candi Linda wrote: "Sorry this was a disappointment. Great review, though. I loved your quotes."

Thank you, Linda. I'll still be on the lookout for Armfield's next book! :)


Candi Antoinette wrote: "You are right- beautiful quotes- the one about losing a parent for the first time really spoke to me. I have her first book on my TBR thanks to you, so hopefully will get to that one. Excellent rev..."

I haven't lost a parent yet, Antoinette, but I thought the quote was quite apt. I'll be excited to hear what you think of Our Wives. Thanks so much!


Candi Fran wrote: "Candi...wonderful review. Sorry you didn't enjoy this read more!"

Many thanks, Fran! It's ok - I might want all of the books to be 5 stars, but that's not very realistic! :D


message 10: by Barbara K (new)

Barbara K Those are great sentences, Candi. Sorry the full book was a disappointment.


message 11: by K (new)

K I appreciate your thoughts about this one. I do like the quotes you included in your review, but I think I'll read Our Wives Under the Sea because you recommend it. I know it's a bit of a letdown when you expect to like a book because you enjoyed a previous one by the same author. Hope your next read is a 5-star one!


message 12: by Taufiq (new)

Taufiq Yves Fair assessment & wonderful review, Candi.


message 13: by Laysee (last edited Jan 29, 2025 03:34AM) (new)

Laysee The mention of rain reminded me of Niall Williams� Faha. Ah, but the rain here seemed to have a dampening effect on the story overall. I must say the prose is beautiful from the quotes you shared. There are some thoughts about family that may well ring true. Fab review, Candi.


message 14: by Fionnuala (new)

Fionnuala There's a little patch of low January sun on my wall right now. I'm happy we share this kind of pleasure:-)


Candi Diane wrote: "That last quote explains a lot. I know a lot of people who never get to that point."

Agreed, Diane! :)


Candi Pedro wrote: "“A dystopian world where rain dominates everything�?? The author is clearly English!!

Excellent review, friend.
And yes, those quotes�"


Haha! I did think of you and that tormenting English rain, Pedro :D Thanks a bunch. I'm sure you understand that the writing is important but it's not the only thing :)


Candi Sara wrote: "Hate when I fall for a book by an author and the next is a let-down. I did enjoy your review, though, and love that you are able to take away what is good with a novel, even when the overall feelin..."

When it's a new book by an author, I have even higher hopes than when reading the backlist, Sara. But it doesn't always work out, unfortunately. Thank you for your kind comment, my friend :)


message 18: by Marcy (new) - added it

Marcy Thank you for this review! I also loved Our Wives Under the Sea, but I probably won’t rush to read this one.


message 19: by Violeta (new)

Violeta It's pouring as I'm reading this, but it's so very welcome in our parts. Still, too much of a good thing is actually, at times, enough! But that's not true about the quotes you always choose, Candi. Move on to sunnier reads, my friend.


Candi Barbara K wrote: "Those are great sentences, Candi. Sorry the full book was a disappointment."

They are indeed, Barbara! I'm sorry I didn't love it as I wished, but I still have lots of respect for Armfield's writing :)


Candi K wrote: "I appreciate your thoughts about this one. I do like the quotes you included in your review, but I think I'll read Our Wives Under the Sea because you recommend it. I know it's a bi..."

Thank you, K! I think about Our Wives Under the Sea quite a lot actually. And I still mention parts of it to people here and there too! So it's a strong recommendation from me. I'll be on the lookout for this author's next book regardless of the fact this one wasn't quite my thing :)


Candi Taufiq wrote: "Fair assessment & wonderful review, Candi."

I really appreciate your kindness, Taufiq! :)


Left Coast Justin Rain is fine, at least for a while. I hope your next book has more heft.


message 24: by Ilse (new)

Ilse Candi, I can see your enthusiasm on sentence level - maybe the moment the insight from the last quote dawns marks the ultimate transition to true adulthood? Seeing enough of rain in real life and not needing more in a dystopia, I’ll pass on this one and look for the other watery novel of hers that you loved instead. Hopefully your next book turns out a more rewarding read.


Candi Laysee wrote: "The mention of rain reminded me of Niall Williams� Faha. Ah, but the rain here seemed to have a dampening effect on the story overall. I must say the prose is beautiful from the quotes you shared. ..."

You are quite right, Laysee! I'd much rather shiver under the Faha rains than here though. The characters in Williams' stories warmed my heart, but the ones here left me cold! I'm sure you would admire the prose as well, but we often need something more :)


Candi Fionnuala wrote: "There's a little patch of low January sun on my wall right now. I'm happy we share this kind of pleasure:-)"

Ah yes, Fionnuala. I can imagine you basking in that little patch :) It's now February, there is a blanket of fresh snow outside, a track of deer prints across the front lawn, and the sun is again shining through this window as I reply to you!


Candi Marcy wrote: "Thank you for this review! I also loved Our Wives Under the Sea, but I probably won’t rush to read this one."

Thanks for reading my thoughts on it, Marcy! This is completely different from Our Wives, except both make use of water throughout :)


message 28: by Candi (last edited Feb 02, 2025 05:01PM) (new) - rated it 3 stars

Candi Violeta wrote: "It's pouring as I'm reading this, but it's so very welcome in our parts. Still, too much of a good thing is actually, at times, enough! But that's not true about the quotes you always choose, Candi..."

Ah yes, you need the rain there! Here, it's snowing once again this evening. This is certainly a much different winter from last! I'm delighted that my choice of quotes appeals to you, friend. I think you are onto something with your wish for sunnier reads. I should make a point of reading something with a setting that is much warmer and brighter! Perhaps after I read Han Kang's latest which isn't the least bit sunny at the moment :D


Candi Left Coast Justin wrote: "Rain is fine, at least for a while. I hope your next book has more heft."

Everything is tolerable in moderation, Justin! I've got a couple of heftier ones going at the moment and am a content reader :)


Candi Ilse wrote: "Candi, I can see your enthusiasm on sentence level - maybe the moment the insight from the last quote dawns marks the ultimate transition to true adulthood? Seeing enough of rain in real life and n..."

I'm right about those sentences, aren't I, Ilse?! :) You are quite perceptive about that quote. Perhaps some never make that transition to true adulthood then. Wishing you brighter days instead of wet and dreary ones, my dear! I'm reading something very gratifying right now and hope you are, too :)


message 31: by Lisa (new)

Lisa I think all of the quotes you selected are brilliant. This one has me thinking:

“Sisterhood, she thinks, is a trap. You all get stuck in certain roles forever."

I don't think it's just sisterhood. I think we get stuck in our roles within the whole family dynamic, which in my case includes MANY aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. I know how hard I had to work to change everyone's perceptions of who I "should" be as I grew from people pleaser child into my clear, determined adult self. It's so easy to fall back into a role as well, even years away from the demarcation.


Candi Lisa wrote: "I think all of the quotes you selected are brilliant. This one has me thinking:

“Sisterhood, she thinks, is a trap. You all get stuck in certain roles forever."

I don't think it's just sisterhood..."


Lisa, I really wish the story itself held up better for me, because the insight in those quotes is sharp. I agree - there are many ways to get stuck in our roles within a family structure. A lot of people don't like change, particularly when it doesn't suit their own needs!


message 33: by Jennifer (new)

Jennifer Welsh I do adore her prose, thanks for all the juicy tidbits. Since my expectations are down, I’ll probably love this one, lol. She is a writer I’m so glad you introduced me to 🙏🏻🌸


message 34: by Theresa (new)

Theresa Alan I'm sorry this disappointed you. Great review.


Candi Jennifer wrote: "I do adore her prose, thanks for all the juicy tidbits. Since my expectations are down, I’ll probably love this one, lol. She is a writer I’m so glad you introduced me to 🙏🏻🌸"

There's some really good stuff there, Jennifer! Ha! Well, lowering expectations might not be a bad thing :D If you do read this someday, I'll be super curious about your thoughts on it!


Candi Theresa wrote: "I'm sorry this disappointed you. Great review."

It happens, Theresa! Thanks so much :)


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