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We Do Not Part by Han Kang
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it was amazing
bookshelves: english-translation, korean-lit

I don’t want to box this book in as just a tale about the Jeju Island April 3rd Massacre. If you’re expecting a history lesson packed with facts, you might end up more confused than enlightened. Han Kang’s writing is all about the people - especially women - and it’s drenched in raw emotions. The way she paints the scene using weather, objects, and imagery really grabs you and doesn’t let go.

Instead of fixating on a “massacre of civilians,� it seems Han Kang is more interested in diving into the deep, lasting pain that survivors have had to carry. The book actually blends together 2 separate massacres in Korean history.

Potential Spoilers Ahead

It all kicks off with a dream - black trees, heavy snow, and seawater - that Han Kang actually experienced after finishing her earlier work, Human Acts, about the 1980 Gwangju Uprising. That haunting shadow follows the character Kyungha, who’s tormented by nightmares. Imagine lying in an overheated apartment, sweating through cold showers, drifting in and out of sleep while drowning in relentless, scalding nightmares. That’s how the uprising subtly weaves its way into her life.

As the story shifts into winter, Kyungha gets a call from an old friend, Inseon, who lives on Jeju Island. Inseon, having injured her finger while woodworking and now in a Seoul hospital, urgently needs help to care for her pet white bird, Ama. After battling through heavy snow and nearly impossible roads, Kyungha finally arrives at the wooden house - only to find Ama dead. This journey sets the stage for the first part of the novel, filled with Kyungha’s memories of Inseon, her rebellious past, her small but vivid family tales, and even hints of films about Vietnamese comfort women and the early days of Korean massacres.

The second part shifts into this almost surreal space between life and death. In a cabin buffeted by a blizzard, Inseon - who was supposed to be in a hospital - returns to narrate another horror: the Jeju Island Massacre (1948-1950) alongside the Korean War. 30,000 civilians died in the first year and nearly 300,000 in the second, including Inseon’s own family. These painful memories, pieced together from old newspapers, letters, and her mother Jeongsim’s fragmented recollections, build a raw tapestry of historical grief.

Then comes a brief third part that centers on a promise running throughout the book. Kyungha once mentioned to Inseon that maybe planting those dreamlike black trees and photographing their snow-covered stumps would help banish her nightmares. Inseon, already on that path, shows Kyungha the land set aside for that project. When Kyungha felt like giving up, Inseon reminded her, “But I’ve already started.� Through this long, winding narrative, it becomes clear that Inseon’s quest is really about honoring those who died under brutal, dictatorial oppression.

Looking back after finishing the book, I realized something poignant: Inseon’s desperate call for Kyungha to save the pet was already too late - the bird was dead. Just like trying to undo history, some things can’t be fixed, though at least Kyungha made sure the bird got a proper farewell. Despite years of government silence and denial, the pain of the past still lingers, with families never stopping their search for missing loved ones.

There are some truly gut-wrenching moments in the book. For example, before we even learn that Inseon’s mother was a survivor, she casually mentions keeping a saw under her mattress to fend off nightmares - a detail that later hits you with its deep symbolic pain. Then there’s that disturbing scene where a young mother, in an attempt to help her bleeding sister, bites off her own finger and forces it into her sister’s mouth - a grim image that stays with you. And later, Inseon herself has to endure having her stitched finger pricked every few minutes in the hospital, a painful reminder that sometimes, suffering is just part of being alive.

I believe Han Kang spent over 7 years crafting this book not to lay out a historical account but to capture and preserve the raw, unfiltered pain of the past. The scene where Inseon gets her finger treated struck me the most - it showed a calm, resilient strength in the midst of suffering. It reminded me that while some people might have seemingly peaceful lives, others are battling storms we never see. Life is this quiet sorrow we all endure moment by moment, and in the grand scheme of things, goodbyes and endings don’t change that. The past lingers, unforgotten.

All in all, this is a captivating book with a lasting impact. It makes you feel what it’s like for those who suffer so deeply that even breathing can hurt, yet somehow, they still find the strength to move forward.

5 / 5 stars
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Reading Progress

August 15, 2023 – Started Reading
August 21, 2023 – Finished Reading
February 5, 2025 – Shelved

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message 1: by Annette (new)

Annette Excellent review Taufiq. You pick very challenging reads. Kudos to you.


Jaclyn~she lives! catching up on reviews~ I love your review. I feel similarly, though I rated it lower than you.


message 3: by Berengaria (new)

Berengaria Powerful review!


Oz✿ (semi hiatus) I love this! Amazing review & im glad you enjoyed it so much 👏🏼


message 5: by JanB (new)

JanB Very powerful poignant review Taufiq!


message 6: by Rosh (new)

Rosh Well done, Taufiq! Truly well done!


message 7: by Alexandra (new)

Alexandra Superb review, Taufiq!


message 8: by Maddy � (new)

Maddy ✨   ~The Verse Vixen This is such a beautifully written review! You perfectly captured how Han Kang’s writing isn’t just about historical events but the raw, lingering pain of those who lived through them. The way you described the book’s atmosphere, symbolism, and the haunting impact of its scenes is so powerful. That final reflection on suffering, resilience, and the way history lingers is especially poignant. Absolutely deserving of 5 stars!


message 9: by Jenny (new)

Jenny Lovely powerful review Taufiq. 7 years spend crafting a novel is such a long time, it seems like it paid off.

We are lucky enough to have relatively peaceful life, we dont think enough about those who suffers on daily basis.
Thank you for sharing your opinion on this one Taufiq!


message 10: by Sofia (new)

Sofia heartfelt Taufiq


message 11: by Rain (new)

Rain This is such a painful yet powerful review. I don’t know if I could handle this story, but I appreciate that you did and wrote such a wonderful review.


message 12: by Zaynab (new)

Zaynab Seems quite a powerful read with so many layers! Wonderful review, Taufiq.


message 13: by Chrissie (new)

Chrissie I adore Han Kang's writing - she excels in harsh topics to beautiful, but devastating effect. I am avoiding spoilers, but will revisit your review after reading the book.


message 14: by Federico (new)

Federico DN Have never read the gal but for what I hear Han Kan can sure be terribly gut-wrenching and heartbreakingly emotional! Looking forward to The Vegetarian, and maybe this one too, someday :). Fantastic review Taufiq!


message 15: by Theresa (new)

Theresa Alan Sounds like a captivating read. Great review!


message 16: by Maureen (new)

Maureen Lovely thoughtful review Taufiq!


message 17: by K (new)

K Stellar review, Taufiq. I've read The Vegetarian and remember the read as haunting and impactful.


message 18: by Chris (new)

Chris Terrific review


message 19: by Linda (new) - added it

Linda Moving review


message 20: by Ulana (new)

Ulana Rey A wonderful review, Taufiq. Very well done.


message 21: by Jsiva (new)

Jsiva Very powerful review Taufiq!


Norma ~ The Sisters Wonderful review, Taufiq!


Taufiq Yves Annette wrote: "Excellent review Taufiq. You pick very challenging reads. Kudos to you."

Thanks, Annette.


Taufiq Yves Jaclyn~she lives! catching up on reviews~ wrote: "I love your review. I feel similarly, though I rated it lower than you."

Thanks, Jaclyn.


Taufiq Yves Berengaria (semi-hiatus) wrote: "Powerful review!"

Thanks, Berengaria.


Taufiq Yves Oz� (on & off - works killing me) wrote: "I love this! Amazing review & im glad you enjoyed it so much 👏🏼"

Thanks, Oz.


Taufiq Yves JanB wrote: "Very powerful poignant review Taufiq!"

Thanks, JanB.


Taufiq Yves Rosh wrote: "Well done, Taufiq! Truly well done!"

Thanks, Rosh.


Taufiq Yves Alexandra wrote: "Superb review, Taufiq!"

Thanks, Alexandra.


Taufiq Yves ~Maddy � wrote: "This is such a beautifully written review! You perfectly captured how Han Kang’s writing isn’t just about historical events but the raw, lingering pain of those who lived through them. The way you ..."

Thank you! I'm so happy you connected with what I was trying to convey about Han Kang's writing.


message 31: by Taufiq (last edited Mar 03, 2025 12:52AM) (new) - rated it 5 stars

Taufiq Yves Jenny wrote: "Lovely powerful review Taufiq. 7 years spend crafting a novel is such a long time, it seems like it paid off.

We are lucky enough to have relatively peaceful life, we dont think enough about thos..."


Thank you! I agree, it really makes you appreciate a peaceful life.


Taufiq Yves Sofia wrote: "heartfelt Taufiq"

Thanks, Sofia.


Taufiq Yves Rain wrote: "This is such a painful yet powerful review. I don’t know if I could handle this story, but I appreciate that you did and wrote such a wonderful review."

Thanks, Rain.


Taufiq Yves Zaynab wrote: "Seems quite a powerful read with so many layers! Wonderful review, Taufiq."

Thanks, Zaynab.


Taufiq Yves Chrissie wrote: "I adore Han Kang's writing - she excels in harsh topics to beautiful, but devastating effect. I am avoiding spoilers, but will revisit your review after reading the book."

Thanks, Chrissie.


Taufiq Yves Federico wrote: "Have never read the gal but for what I hear Han Kan can sure be terribly gut-wrenching and heartbreakingly emotional! Looking forward to The Vegetarian, and maybe this one too, someday :). Fantasti..."

Thanks, Federico.


Taufiq Yves Theresa wrote: "Sounds like a captivating read. Great review!"

Thanks, Theresa.


Taufiq Yves Maureen wrote: "Lovely thoughtful review Taufiq!"

Thanks, Maureen.


Taufiq Yves K wrote: "Stellar review, Taufiq. I've read The Vegetarian and remember the read as haunting and impactful."

Thanks, K.


Taufiq Yves Chris wrote: "Terrific review"

Thanks, Chris.


Taufiq Yves Linda wrote: "Moving review"

Thanks, Linda.


Taufiq Yves Ulana wrote: "A wonderful review, Taufiq. Very well done."

Thanks, Ulana.


Taufiq Yves Jsiva wrote: "Very powerful review Taufiq! "

Thanks, Jsiva.


Taufiq Yves Norma ~ The Sisters wrote: "Wonderful review, Taufiq!"

Thanks, Norma.


message 45: by Ilse (new) - added it

Ilse It reminded me that while some people might have seemingly peaceful lives, others are battling storms we never see.
How true, Taufiq. So much suffering from the unforgotten past that isn't visible to the eye, lingering on. Thank you for this thoughtful and profound review of what sounds a tough and excellent book to read.


message 46: by Jonas (new)

Jonas Brilliant and powerful review, Taufiq. I will be reading this one soon.


message 47: by Canadian Jen (new)

Canadian Jen Great review, Taufiq. I haven't heard of this story but I've read a couple that take place on Jeju island. I'm interested in learning more.


Sandysbookaday Wonderful review Tauriq. I know nothing of this piece of history. I prefer character driven to plot driven novels, so thei sounds right up my alley. Thank you. 💖📚


Akankshya Brilliant review!! You've captured exactly how gut-wrenching this read was. I didn't know Han Kang spent 7 years on this one...


message 50: by Darla (new)

Darla A captivating review for a captivating book.


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