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“I know things need to change, but I worry he won’t be open to changing.â€� “It’s too hard. I’d rather not talk.â€� “I’d almost rather keep doing things my way than have to explain a new way to my spouse.â€� “I’m not used to asking for help; I’m used to doing it all.â€� “I don’t want to admit that I need help—that I can’t do it all.â€� “The idea of sitting down with my spouse to discuss all that I do in a day makes me want to scream.â€� “I don’t want to have to tell him what to do.â€� “I worry that he’ll become defensive and we’ll end up in a fight.â€� “I’m not even sure what to ask for.â€� “I can just hear him now—‘I already do more than most guys and now you want me to do moreâ€�?â€� “I shouldn’t have to ask for help; he should be able to figure it out.â€� “In the time it takes to sit down and talk, I can just do it.â€� “Maybe I’m scared; maybe I’m proud. Whatever it is, I’m not comfortable asking for help.â€� “What happens if he says no?â€� “What happens if I realize I don’t have the partnership I thought I had?”
― Eve Rodsky, Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do

“Are you making time for activities and interests that elevate your own sense of worth?”
― Eve Rodsky, Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do

“invisible workâ€�: invisible because it may be unseen and unrecognized by our partners, and also because those of us who do it may not count or even acknowledge it as work . . . despite the fact that it costs us real time and significant mental and physical effort with no sick days or benefits.”
― Eve Rodsky, Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do

“We need to hold ourselves accountable for whatever voluntary steps we took toward losing sight of our right to be interesting and turn on our heels and find ourselves again.”
― Eve Rodsky, Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do