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“Perfectionist parents seem to operate under the illusion that if they can just get their children to be perfect, they will be a perfect family. They put the burden of stability on the child to avoid facing the fact that they, as parents, cannot provide it. The child fails and becomes the scapegoat for family problems. Once again, the child is saddled with the blame.”
― Susan Forward Ph.D, Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life

“Unhealthy families discourage individual expression. Everyone must conform to the thoughts and actions of the toxic parents. They promote fusion, a blurring of personal boundaries, a welding together of family members. On an unconscious level, it is hard for family members to know where one ends and another begins. In their efforts to be close, they often suffocate one another’s individuality.”
― Susan Forward, Toxic Parents: Overcoming Their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming Your Life

“Good parents use the mistakes they did in the past when they were young to advice the children God gave to them to prevent them from repeating those mistakes again. However, bad parents always want to be seen as right and appear "angelic and saintly" as if they never had horrible youth days.”
― Israelmore Ayivor

“Being a bad parent is a sign of not having learned from experience.”
― Mokokoma Mokhonoana

“Don’t you just love children? If they’re not disappointing you, they’re dead.”
― Shawn Wickersheim, The Penitent Assassin

“A mother's life is sacred. Even a badly behaved mother's life is sacred—witness my foul cousin Clytemnestra, adulteress, butcher of her husband, tormentor of her children—and nobody said I was a badly behaved mother. But I did not appreciate the barrage of surly monosyllables and resentful glances I was getting from my own son.”
― Margaret Atwood, The Penelopiad

“I found this affection difficult to reciprocate. You can imagine. There I would be, strolling hand in hand with my apparently fond male parent along a cliff edge or a river bank or a parapet, and the thought would occur to me that he might suddenly decide to shove me over or bash me to death with a rock. Preserving a calm facade under these circumstances was a challenge.”
― Margaret Atwood, The Penelopiad

“He looked at his own arms and realized, in his earthly body, he was now older than his father. He had outlived him in every way.”
― Mitch Albom, The Five People You Meet in Heaven

“Through it all, despite it all, Eddie privately adored his old man, because sons will adore their fathers even through the worst behavior, It is how they learn devotion. Before he can devote himself to God or a woman, a boy will devote himself to his father, even foolishly, even beyond explanation.”
― Mitch Albom, The Five People You Meet in Heaven

“The hands on Eddie's childhood glass then were hard and calloused and red with anger, and he went through his younger years whacked, lashed, and beaten. This was the second damage done, the one after neglect. The damage of violence. It got so that Eddie could tell by the thump of the footsteps coming down the hall how hard he was going to get it.”
― Mitch Albom, The Five People You Meet in Heaven

“By this point—already a strapping young teenager—Eddie only nodded back. Unbeknownst to him, he had begun the ritual of semaphore with his father, forsaking words or physical affection. It was all to be done internally. You were just supposed to know it, that's all. Denial of affection. The damage done.”
― Mitch Albom, The Five People You Meet in Heaven

“Some of these [hovering and oversupervising] parents may think that making sure their children do whatever it takes to succeed in advance courses helps their children develop "grit." But grit is often misunderstood as perseverance without passion, and that's tragic... Perseverance without passion is mere drudgery.”
― Greg Lukianoff & Jonathan Haidt, The Coddling of the American Mind: How Good Intentions and Bad Ideas Are Setting up a Generation for Failure

“Daddy, I want to be a pop singer when I grow up.â€� There, it’s out, I’ve dared to voice my dream, to say it out loud. Dad is the only adult I know who has some interest in music, even if it is Petula Clark, and now I've told him, I've taken the first step towards making my dream real. Dad will know what to do, how to get me started, point me in the right direction.
'You're not chic enough.' I don't know what the word chic means but I know what he means. I understand from the tone of his voice that I'm having ideas about myself that are way above my looks, capabilities and charms, and I believe him. He must be right, he’s my father.
Dad and I walk along in silence. I think, He didn’t ask me if I can sing - but obviously that doesn’t matter. I’m just not chic enough.”
― Viv Albertine, Clothes, Clothes, Clothes. Music, Music, Music. Boys, Boys, Boys

“Of course, when a parent's strong approval is won only for performing or behaving well, it fails to nurture the child anyway, because she senses she is not loved for who she is but for what she does.”
― Arnold M. Washton and Donna Boundy

“Abandonment by narcissistic parents has caused children to live in fear, guilt, rejection, resentment, and negativity eventually they have become narcissistic Adults.”
― Shaila Touchton

“If you have no family, you will feel sad sometimes â€� but if you have the wrong kind of family, you are doomed for life!”
― Shon Mehta, Lair Of The Monster

“Kallade pappa mig nyss för den här killens engÃ¥ngsligg?”
― Colleen Hoover, November 9

“I gÃ¥r kväll träffade jag en kille som gjorde mig lycklig. I morse förklarade mina föräldrar hur fel jag hade. Hur fel jag är som blir kär i killar”
― Callum Bloodworth, Berätta tre saker

“People who want children often become excellent parents. People who don’t want children are usually bad parents.”
― Wayne Gerard Trotman