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“My wife and I just don't have the same feelings for each other we used to have. I guess I just don't love her anymore and she doesn't love me. What can i do?"
"The feeling isn't there anymore?" I asked.
"That's right," he reaffirmed. "And we have three children we're really concerned about. What do you suggest?"
"love her," I replied.
"I told you, the feeling just isn't there anymore."
"Love her."
"You don't understand. the feeling of love just isn't there."
"Then love her. If the feeling isn't there, that's a good reason to love her."
"But how do you love when you don't love?"
"My friend , love is a verb. Love - the feeling - is a fruit of love, the verb. So love her. Serve her. Sacrifice. Listen to her. Empathize. Appreciate. Affirm her. Are you willing to do that?”
― Stephen R. Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change

“Forget what hurt you in the past, but never forget what it taught you. However, if it taught you to hold onto grudges, seek revenge, not forgive or show compassion, to categorize people as good or bad, to distrust and be guarded with your feelings then you didn’t learn a thing. God doesn’t bring you lessons to close your heart. He brings you lessons to open it, by developing compassion, learning to listen, seeking to understand instead of speculating, practicing empathy and developing conflict resolution through communication. If he brought you perfect people, how would you ever learn to spiritually evolve?”
― Shannon L. Alder

“The hands that help are better far than lips that pray.”
― Robert Green Ingersoll, The Works of Robert G. Ingersoll, Vol. IV

“Opportunities will come and go, but if you do nothing about them, so will you.”
― Richie Norton, The Power of Starting Something Stupid: How to Crush Fear, Make Dreams Happen, and Live without Regret

“Always try to be joyful and proactively benign to the people.
By doing so everyday, people have no control at all over my mood.”
― Toba Beta [Betelgeuse Incident], Betelgeuse Incident: Insiden Bait Al-Jauza

“The weaker mind reacts.”
― Toba Beta, My Ancestor Was an Ancient Astronaut

“I say if it's going to be done, let's do it. Let's not put it in the hands of fate. Let's not put it in the hands of someone who doesn't know me. I know me best. Then take a breath and go ahead.”
― Anita Baker

“People who end up with the good jobs are the proactive ones who are solutions to problems, not problems themselves, who seize the initiative to do whatever is necessary, consistent with correct principles, to get the job done.”
― Stephen R. Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change

“We have within us the power to choose how we respond to a hurtful situation. We cannot control the actions of others, but we can control how we will respond. As we understand our power to choose, we see that we are in control. Our life is not a result of our environment or upbringing, but a result of our choices. We have the ability to determine the kind of life we want to live and the type of person we wish to be.”
― Cameron C. Taylor, 8 Attributes of Great Achievers

“There's lower wisdom in comment.”
― Toba Beta, Betelgeuse Incident: Insiden Bait Al-Jauza

“Be proactive not reactive, for an apparently insignificant issue ignored today can spawn tomorrow's catastrophe.”
― Ken Poirot

“I can wait for life to shape me in whatever manner it chooses. Or I can shape me to make life whatever I choose.”
― Craig D. Lounsbrough

“You must always be proactive”
― Sunday Adelaja

“Patience is acknowledging that the sum total of the information needed to move forward may have not yet come forward in order to keep us from moving backward.”
― Craig D. Lounsbrough

“Better to parry the sword than heal the wound it made in the flesh.”
― F.C. Yee, The Dawn of Yangchen

“This eye,' Lucien gestured to the metal contraption. 'It can see things that others... can't. Spells, glamours... Perhaps it can help me find her. And break her curse.' He glanced at Elain, who was again studying her lap. 'I'm not needed here. I'll fight if you need me to, but...' He offered me a grim smile. 'I do not belong in the Autumn Court. And I'm willing to bet I'm not longer welcome at h- the Spring Court.' Home, he had almost said. 'But I cannot sit here and do nothing. Those queens with their armies- there is a threat in that regard, too. So use me. Send me. I will find Vassa, see if she can... bring help.”
― Sarah J. Maas, A Court of Wings and Ruin

“Take a deep breath and focus on your purpose—your Yes—in this situation. Ask yourself what you really want and what is really important here. In other words, shift from being reactive and focused on No, to being proactive and focused on Yes.”
― William Ury, The Power of a Positive No: How to Say No and Still Get to Yes

“Breaking new ground is never easy. When I embarked on this career, I had no notion how to do it. There were no road maps or guidebooks. There were few local role models or contacts I could call upon, except my teachers, so I had to learn to be creative and resourceful. I think that the American proactive mentality really helped and taught me to not wait for something to happen but to get out there and make things happen. I learnt quickly that I had to carve my own path.”
― Siow Lee Chin

“If we’re not thinking about ‘howâ€� we’re thinking, we’re not thinking.”
― Craig D. Lounsbrough

“Remind yourself that you can take neither the full credit nor blame for the outcomes in your life. There is always a factor of randomness involved. However, you should try your best, be proactive, and strive toward having a sense of control in life.”
― F. R. Amoeno, 55 Life Lessons from Amoeno’s Island

“Viewing violence as an extreme form of aggression situates it on a spectrum of increasingly agonistic behaviors. Aggression has been described as -the behavioral weapon of choice for individuals to gain and maintain access to desired resources (food, territory, mating partners), defend themselves and their progeny from rivals and predators, and establish and secure social status/hierarchical relationships-. This is applicable across numerous species and is true of human aggression as well.”
― Candace Alcorta, Evolutionary Perspectives on Religion and Violence

“Proactive aggression involves lower physiological arousal on the part of the aggressor, yet is likely to result in more lethal outcomes. Lack of social communication, the targeting of vulnerable body parts, and the goal-directed psychology of this type of aggression render it more akin to predation than to reactive aggression. Indeed, the same neural circuits that are activated during predatory behavior are engaged during proactive aggression.”
― Candace Alcorta

“Being forgiving is one of the most noble virtues of a proactive person.”
― Scott Shumway, The Invisible Four-letter Word: The Secret to Getting What You Really Want in Life.

“Anytime we think the problem is out there, with others or in circumstances, that very thought itself is the problem. Because we empower what's out there to continue to control us.”
― Stephen R. Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change

“The best way to destroy something is to forbid its construction.”
― Craig D. Lounsbrough

“It is time to look back and be appreciative. It is also time to look forward and be proactive. It is Thanksgiving season.”
― Gift Gugu Mona, The Gift of Thanksgiving

“It is time to look back and be appreciative. It is also time to look forward and be proactive. It is Thanksgiving season!”
― Gift Gugu Mona, The Gift of Thanksgiving

“Young people should never live idle in the world, nor old ones neither, unless when the rheumatize gets hold of them. - Uncle Venner (pg 59, ch 4)”
― Nathaniel Hawthorne, The House of the Seven Gables

“At one seminar where I was speaking on the concept of proactivity, a man came up and said, "Stephen, I like what you're saying. But every situation is so different. Look at my marriage. I'm really worried. My wife and I just don't have the same feelings for each other we used to have. I guess I just don't love her anymore and she doesn't love me. What can I do?"
"The feeling isn't there anymore?" I asked. "That's right," he reaffirmed. "And we have three children we're really concerned about. What do you suggest?"
"Love her," I replied.
"I told you, the feeling just isn't there anymore."
"Love her."
"You don't understand. The feeling of love just isn't there."
"Then love her. If the feeling isn't there, that's a good reason to love her."
"But how do you love when you don't love?"
"My friend, love is a verb. Love -- the feeling -- is a fruit of love the verb. So love her.
Sacrifice. Listen to her. Empathize. Appreciate. Affirm her. Are you willing to do that?"
In the great literature of all progressive societies, love is a verb. Reactive people make it a feeling. They're driven by feelings. Hoolywood has generally scripted us to believe that we are not responsible, that we are a product of our feelings. But the Hollywood script does not describe the reality. If our feelings control our actions, it is because we have abdicated our responsibility and empowered them to do so.
Proactive people make love a verb. Love is something you do: the sacrifices you make, the giving of self, like a mother bringing a newborn into the world. If you want to study love, study those who sacrifice for others, even people who offend or do not love in return. If you are a parent, look at the love you have for the children you sacrificed for. Love is a value that is actualized through loving actions. Proactive people subordinate feelings to values. Love, the feeling, can be recaptured.”
― Stephen Covey

“Proactive people do not demand rights; they live them”
― Henry Cloud / John Townsend, Boundaries