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“As I bite into the banana bread, I realize if all around me is the evidence of what happens without my asking, doesn’t that mean that there’s possibility for more? A more trusting love where I could let myself ask for things, let myself be vulnerable and imperfect and even dispensable? A more magnanimous, forgiving kind of love where sometimes people give me what I ask for and sometimes they don’t and it’s okay? Where it’s okay to be disappointed and it’s okay to be disappointing—where we can love each other and ourselves regardless?”
― Lamya H., Hijab Butch Blues

“I hit rock bottom and found something solid there.”
― Matt Haig, The Midnight Library

“When . . . the therapist registers an unexpected shift of mood in herself when she is with a patient, she begins a private inner dialogue with herself as to what it might mean. First she checks herself out, as though she is an object of study. What does the patient evoke in her? Why did she feel uptight just then? Why did she feel sad when the patient was making a light remark? Did the patient hit a particularly personal nerve? Such emotional states, which the therapist notices in herself, are called the counter-transference. As she cordons off the feelings and reflects on them, their dissonance alerts her: something difficult needs understanding. Her body, her emotional state, become a stethoscope-like instrument for hearing what might be askew.”
― Susie Orbach, Bodies

“There will come a time when being raw will be the norm. Don’t be embarrassed for being sensitive and vulnerable.”
― Mitta Xinindlu

“I crack jokes and pull pranks to draw people toward me, to entertain friends without ever having to share anything intimate. I keep everyone at a bit of a distance, so it’s not as crushing when they do inevitably leave.”
― Lamya H., Hijab Butch Blues

“In part, our culpability lies in our choice to deal with the challenging issues that dominate our lives, though certainly not everyone has the time, resources or inclination to hire a therapist to help facilitate the process—that was my method, and it is a particularly white, middle-class, Western approach to self-knowledge.”
― Karyn L. Freedman, One Hour in Paris: A True Story of Rape and Recovery

“Therapy approaches which strengthen the client’s resilience are much more suitable than the identity affirmation model which has been generally adopted.”
― Dr Val Thomas, Cynical Therapies: Perspectives on the Antitherapeutic Nature of Critical Social Justice

“CSJ is fundamentally incompatible with the enlightenment values and scientific worldview of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT).”
― Dr Val Thomas, Cynical Therapies: Perspectives on the Antitherapeutic Nature of Critical Social Justice

“We need to build an honest relationship, remain interested in the client as a unique, individual person, and stay curious about underlying issues, family dynamics, personality traits, and childhood experiences.”
― Dr Val Thomas, Cynical Therapies: Perspectives on the Antitherapeutic Nature of Critical Social Justice

“One example of taking a male-friendly approach [in therapy] is the view that traditional masculinity is not the root cause of men’s mental health problems, and, in fact, might contain valuable resources that can enhance mental health. This viewpoint allows therapists to understand men in a way that is more likely to foster better rapport between therapist and client, facilitating a more successful therapy.”
― Dr Val Thomas, Cynical Therapies: Perspectives on the Antitherapeutic Nature of Critical Social Justice

“Male-friendly therapy is an approach that recognises there are some differences in how men and women deal with their mental health issues. Further, it tries to accommodate these differences in therapy. For example, there is evidence that men tend to prefer a more solution-focused approach to deal with their problems.”
― Dr Val Thomas, Cynical Therapies: Perspectives on the Antitherapeutic Nature of Critical Social Justice

“External narratives such as [Critical Social Justice] CSJ are not designed to talk about an individual’s internal struggles.”
― Dr Val Thomas, Cynical Therapies: Perspectives on the Antitherapeutic Nature of Critical Social Justice

“In my clinical experience, always trusting your feelings or jumping to conclusions that you know what others are thinking, without any supporting evidence, are seen as examples of cognitive distortions.”
― Dr Val Thomas, Cynical Therapies: Perspectives on the Antitherapeutic Nature of Critical Social Justice

“There is also a risk that repeatedly telling people they are victims may lead them to develop a sense of “learned helplessnessâ€� and a belief that they have no control over their lives, leaving them vulnerable to depression. Yet, CRT would accuse anyone from a minority group who expressed such contrary views of having “internalised oppressionâ€� or of “acting whiteâ€�.”
― Dr Val Thomas, Cynical Therapies: Perspectives on the Antitherapeutic Nature of Critical Social Justice

“A CSJ-driven approach to psychotherapy would exacerbate and worsen problems for individuals seeking psychotherapy. A CSJ-driven approach teaches clients to see their emotional experiences as harmful and blame their emotional experiences on oppression. Clients would learn to be constantly focused on racism, sexism, homophobia, and oppression as the cause of their problems.”
― Dr Val Thomas, Cynical Therapies: Perspectives on the Antitherapeutic Nature of Critical Social Justice

“No matter what therapeutic approach is provided, if the relationship between therapist and client is not established or is perceived by the client as problematic, then it is unlikely that the therapy will be successful.”
― Dr Val Thomas, Cynical Therapies: Perspectives on the Antitherapeutic Nature of Critical Social Justice

“Both the client and therapist are not primarily seen as human persons in relation to each other and the socio-cultural world around them. Instead, they are viewed as defined by their intersecting group identities and, importantly, the differences and inequalities these identities create. Dynamics of oppression are at the heart of the CSJ-driven therapy relationship.”
― Dr Val Thomas, Cynical Therapies: Perspectives on the Antitherapeutic Nature of Critical Social Justice

“A presence-based relationship with core characteristics like openness and receptivity where the therapist strives for an attitude of un-knowing cannot manifest where both client and therapist are pre-determined in their identities and their relationship is essentially seen as oppressive from the outset.”
― Dr Val Thomas, Cynical Therapies: Perspectives on the Antitherapeutic Nature of Critical Social Justice

“You are never too broken to be fixed,
You are never too fixed to be broken.
Life is a dance between hurt and heal,
sometimes psycho, sometimes surreal,
To wake up to life you gotta be shaken.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Sapionova: 200 Limericks for Students

“You are never too broken to be fixed,
You are never too fixed to be broken.
Life is a dance between hurt and heal,
Sometimes psycho, sometimes surreal.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Sapionova: 200 Limericks for Students

“If I write about a good experience, or a beautiful place, I feel uplifted. If I write about taking ecstasy in a nightclub, I experience the sensations of the drug. If I write about a traumatic experience, I relive it, and it serves as therapy. In a similar way, hypnotherapists and psychologists have their patients relive their past experiences, or trauma, as part of their healing process.”
― Jack Freestone

“The past seems like a smashed windscreen after a car crash. All crazy opaque pieces barely held together by the laminate.”
― Angel Capelli, Losing our Marbles?

“Look for safe people to whom you show your vulnerability and rawness. Not everyone deserves that privilege.”
― Mitta Xinindlu

“It is possible that some may use your vulnerability and rawness against you. Don't worry much. Just place plan B into motion to combat their actions.”
― Mitta Xinindlu

“Remember how raw you were with your mother when you were a toddler? Now, remember the reaction that you received. Was it good, was it bad? Have you made any actions to resolve those feelings? Reflect.”
― Mitta Xinindlu

“What feelings are coming up for you?
I can't think of anything to say. Should I literally do what the question asks, stick two fingers down my throat and vomit up the strange, dark monster that has made its home inside of me? We could interrogate this creature instead.”
― Julie Mayhew, Red Ink

“Insanın kendini yaÅŸam nehrine bırakması ve sorunun akıp gitmesine izin vermesi gerekir.”
― Irvin Yalom

“All the world's an asylum,
All the people are lunatics.
Some are but loonies of love,
Some loonies run by prejudice.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Insan HimalayanoÄŸlu: It's Time to Defect

“All the world's an asylum,
All the people are lunatics.”
― Abhijit Naskar, Insan HimalayanoÄŸlu: It's Time to Defect

“He thought back to what his therapist had taught him. Uncover your thoughts first, feelings next.”
― Melanie Summers, A Hollywood Ending