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“I have met many, many severely distressed people whose daily lives are filled with the agony of both remembered and unremembered trauma, who try so hard to heal and yet who are constantly being pushed down both by their symptoms and the oppressive circumstances of post traumatic life around them.”
― Carolyn Spring

“As a child, did you feel like you fell short, disappointing a parent, stepparent, or caretaker because you weren’t good enough, didn’t do enough, or just weren’t able to please, no matter how hard you tried? Did you feel responsible for your parent’s happiness and guilty if you felt happy yourself? Did you feel damned if you did and damned if you didn’t, that whatever you did or said was the wrong thing (and boy would you pay for it)? Were you accused of things you hadn’t done? Did you feel manipulated at times? Feel appreciated one minute and attacked the next? Thought you must be “crazyâ€� because a parent’s actions or reactions didn’t make any sense? Question your own intuition, judgment, or memory, believing you must have missed or misinterpreted something? Did you feel on guard all the time, that life with your parent was never predictable?

You weren’t crazy. Not then, and not now.”
― Kimberlee Roth, Surviving a Borderline Parent: How to Heal Your Childhood Wounds and Build Trust, Boundaries, and Self-Esteem

“In my adulthood I will come to realize I was pinballing between the outer, public fake me; the under-my-roof, family fake me; and the real me, who desperately wanted to feel safe.”
― Moon Unit Zappa, Earth to Moon: A Memoir

“Warhol will plant a journalism seed in me. He will also defend me in his diary, which will be published posthumously a few years from now and point out a thing no one currently acknowledges but that I will feel acutely--Warhol will describe his experience of my father and privately criticize Frank for viewing me as something he alone invented, a tool at my dad's disposal. When this icon's journal entries are made public, they wll become concrete validation and confirmation of my own unarticulated experience, a tiny light in the dark that lets me start to see my way out.”
― Moon Unit Zappa, Earth to Moon: A Memoir

“Ten Things To Stop Doing"
By Complex PTSD Survivor Lilly Hope Lucario"

1. Listening to unsolicited advice from those who know little about trauma, or those with little empathy.
2. Comparing your journey to others.
3. Believing healing or recovering quickly, are a sign of strength.
4. Thinking you were in any way to blame for being abused.
5. Thinking that the way toxic people treated you, is in any way a reflection of your self-worth.
6. Thinking you should be "over this" by now.
7. Believing that minimizing the trauma helps the healing process, when all it does is invalidate your experience.
8. Thinking you are a bad person for not forgiving heinous abuse.
9. Thinking you are weak for being abused.
10. Thinking you should tolerate people invalidating your trauma and the effects of it on your life.”
― Shahida Arabi, Power: Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse

“Religious trauma resides in our bodies and nervous systems in the same way that trauma from war, developmental trauma, or sexualized trauma live inside us. Though the triggers and environment of the original trauma may differ, how religious trauma lives in our bodies, on a physiological level, is the same.”
― Laura E. Anderson, When Religion Hurts You: Healing from Religious Trauma and the Impact of High-Control Religion

“Supposedly trauma transcends language and time, and is therefore untellable. Perhaps sometimes it does and is. But I think traumatized people do know how to tell their stories. What’s difficult is that people don’t know how to hear them.”
― Noreen Masud, A Flat Place: Moving Through Empty Landscapes, Naming Complex Trauma

“Survivors become more adaptive when they can invest their energy in realizing that the traumatizing event has happened. This goal requires the realization that nothing can be done to change what happened, that the event has deeply affected their existence, and that it is not now happening.”
― Van Der Hart

“Survivors become more adaptive when they can invest their energy in realizing that the traumatizing event has happened. This goal requires the realization that nothing can be done to change what happened, that the event has deeply affected their existence, and that it is not now happening.”
― Onno van der Hart, The Haunted Self: Structural Dissociation and the Treatment of Chronic Traumatization

“A police officer is one of the most hazardous jobs a person can do.”
― Steven Magee

“There are serious long-term adverse health effects associated with being a police officer.”
― Steven Magee

“It is reasonable after calling the police to expect a police officer suffering from Cumulative Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) to show up.”
― Steven Magee

“Why are many police officers corrupt? For some of them, it is coming from the long-term side effects of their risky and stressful job.”
― Steven Magee

“Cumulative Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) is one of the many occupational hazards for police officers.”
― Steven Magee

“If I am honest, it's hard for me to keep my promise to myself and to Gail to hate my father and only love my mother, especially on the days Gail takes everything out on me. Instead of blaming her, I learn to blame myself. After all, I am the one who swore total allegiance to her.”
― Moon Unit Zappa, Earth to Moon: A Memoir

“After I was assaulted, I felt lost and unsure of how to move forward. And I felt that way again after reporting the crime to law enforcement, and again after the trial for my case concluded. This book was born out of that feeling of being lost, and out of my deep desire to help other survivors find their way.”
― Cheyenne Wilson, We Are the Evidence: A Handbook for Finding Your Way After Sexual Assault

“Nothing is real to me unless it's right in front of me.”
― Elizabeth Wurtzel, Prozac Nation

“At age twenty-six, I feel like I am finally going through adolescence.”
― Elizabeth Wurtzel, Prozac Nation

“My own body is my deepest enemy. It wants, it wants, it wants, and when it does not get, it cries and cries and I punish it.”
― Kathleen Glasgow, Girl in Pieces

“I've been on the very top. I've been as happy as a man can be. I've had the greatest joys. The greatest friends. I've had victories and I've had....love. And then...something happens. You lose something or...someone or...and there it is again. I'm there again. Mother's tangled. Father's yelling. I'm ten and I'm on my damn knees. And I'm scared out of my damn mind. And feeling that, I say...I become...something, I do things....I'm not...I am myself. But I'm not what I want to be or what I should be. I'm scared. And I'll do anything to get out of the fright.”
― Tom King, Batman, Vol. 8: Cold Days

“Forgiveness is not a method to bypass or avoid the long and at times brutal trauma recovery process.”
― Amanda Ann Gregory, You Don't Need to Forgive: Trauma Recovery on Your Own Terms

“Many trauma survivors anxiously wait for their offender(s) to die and aren’t bothered by their death when it occurs, or they feel relieved when their offender(s) are finally gone.”
― Amanda Ann Gregory, You Don't Need to Forgive: Trauma Recovery on Your Own Terms

“Revenge fantasies can be beneficial in trauma recovery. They bring significant catharsis and reestablish a sense of empowerment after one has been made to feel powerless.”
― Amanda Ann Gregory, You Don't Need to Forgive: Trauma Recovery on Your Own Terms

“Forgiveness should be considered an elective option â€� not a requirement â€� in trauma recovery.”
― Amanda Ann Gregory, You Don't Need to Forgive: Trauma Recovery on Your Own Terms

“Comparing your traumatic experience with another’s doesn’t make sense; if trauma were a competition, every survivor would be a winner.”
― Amanda Ann Gregory, You Don't Need to Forgive: Trauma Recovery on Your Own Terms

“Trauma is a thief. It steals our childhoods, years of our adult lives, or even
our entire lifetimes. It takes away our ability to feel connected to others, to
feel like we belong in the world, and to receive and extend love. It prevents
us from growing and thriving. It steals our relationships, work, physical
health, families, communities, spirituality, hobbies, passions, and identity.
And to add insult to injury, trauma then demands that we grieve these losses
in order to heal from them, which can feel overwhelming.”
― Amanda Ann Gregory, You Don't Need to Forgive: Trauma Recovery on Your Own Terms

“Trauma is a thief. It steals our childhoods, years of our adult lives, or even our entire lifetimes. It takes away our ability to feel connected to others, to feel like we belong in the world, and to receive and extend love. It prevents us from growing and thriving. It steals our relationships, work, physical health, families, communities, spirituality, hobbies, passions, and identity. And to add insult to injury, trauma then demands that we grieve these losses in order to heal from them, which can feel overwhelming.”
― Amanda Ann Gregory, You Don't Need to Forgive: Trauma Recovery on Your Own Terms

“Today, the mere thought of sitting at a piano triggers some of my earliest and deepest anxieties, all tied to my mother. It's a shame how the most beautiful things, even music, can be ruined by the shadows of our past.”
― Shari Franke, The House of My Mother: A Daughter's Quest for Freedom

“Most of my siblings found a middle ground, forming friendships with neighborhood kids and playing outside. This outdoor socializing seemed safer somehow, less intrusive than bringing outsiders into the complex dynamics of our household. For me, the very idea of inviting friends over felt foreign and uncomfortable. It wasn't that I lacked friends entirely but rather that the thought of merging my school life with my home life filled me with a sense of dread that I couldn't quite articulate.”
― Shari Franke, The House of My Mother: A Daughter's Quest for Freedom

“I eared for my mother's guidance, her support, her friendship during this insecure time of puberty. But Ruby maintained a strict emotional distance, as if affection might somehow compromise her authority. "Remember: I'm not your friend; I'm your mother,"...."When you're an adult, we can be friends.”
― Shari Franke, The House of My Mother: A Daughter's Quest for Freedom