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An American Marriage by Tayari Jones
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it was amazing

4.5 stars, rounded up.



For the latest resurrection of her book club, Oprah chose Tayari Jones' latest novel, An American Marriage. Raw, powerful, full of searing emotion, this is a book which speaks not only to the relationship between man and woman, husband and wife, but it touches on the bond between parents and their children, even in adulthood, and the mercurial nature of life.

"Love makes a place in your life, it makes a place for itself in your bed. Invisibly, it makes a place in your body, rerouting all your blood vessels, throbbing right alongside your heart. When it's gone, nothing is whole again."

Celestial and Roy first meet in college, he being the somewhat-smooth acquaintance of her childhood friend, Andre. Although Roy is attracted to Celestial almost instantaneously, she's less impressed with him. But when they meet again a few years later in New York, the two fall in love. Roy is drawn to her creativity and her fierce sense of independence, while she is impressed that he knows just what he wants from life, including her.

The two settle in Atlanta. Roy starts becoming a successful sales executive, while Celestial's art career is on the verge of taking off. Their marriage isn't without its bumps, as the couple starts talking about whether or not to have a baby. But one night, everything changes. Roy is accused of committing a crime Celestial knows he is innocent of, and he is sentenced to a 12-year prison sentence.

"Looking back on it, it's like watching a horror flick and wondering why the characters are so determined to ignore the danger signs. When a spectral voice says, get out, you should do it. But in real life, you don't know that you're in a scary movie. You think your wife is being overly emotional. You quietly hope that it's because she's pregnant, because a baby is what you need to lock this thing in and throw away the key."

Celestial doesn't know how to deal with a husband in prison, and she's not sure she knows how to be alone. Although she loves Roy, she starts spending more and more time with Andre, who has loved her from afar (and closer than that) for as long as he can remember. Roy struggles with the idea of spending 12 years in prison for a crime he didn't commit, and finds it difficult to be so isolated as the outside world keeps marching on. He vacillates between wanting Celestial to wait the 12 years for him and wanting her to go on with her life.

Five years into his sentence, Roy is unexpectedly released. He finds that life is very different in so many ways, even just five years later. He is unsure what to expect from his marriage—although he and Celestial had difficult times while he was in prison, she never filed for divorce, so he wonders if he has a chance to resume their life together. She is caught between the love she knew, the one she felt tethered to, and the love that gives her security she has always craved. But which one is right for her?

Narrated in alternating chapters by Roy, Celestial, and Andre, An American Marriage is a searing portrait of the ragged ways we fall in and out of love. Jones is such a talented writer, and you actually feel the same dilemmas faced by her characters. She has such an ear for dialogue, for capturing emotion, and for showing how our relationships can both make us feel safe and make us come undone.

As complex as these characters are, none of them are completely sympathetic, and Jones doesn't force you to choose a side in this struggle. There was an instance when I thought the plot would veer into utter melodrama and tread a path I've seen too many times, but Jones showed some restraint, thankfully. I wasn't sure if I liked any of the characters fully, but I was still utterly engrossed in their lives.

"You can never really unlove somebody. Maybe it changes shape, but it's there."

This book really was excellent. It makes you think while it tugs at your emotions, and that felt very fulfilling. And once again, this book proves Oprah knows how to pick 'em.

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February 19, 2018 – Started Reading
February 19, 2018 – Shelved
February 20, 2018 – Finished Reading

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message 1: by Jen (new) - rated it 4 stars

Jen Dietrich I def agree with your last paragraph. I’m only halfway through the book and it’s breaking my heart but I’m loving it at the same time. The story elicits so many emotions from the different characters there’s plenty to relate to (for me anyway!)


Brandice Great review, Larry, so well-said! I absolutely loved this book, and I went back & forth on liking each of the characters and rooting for what they each wanted.


message 3: by Kevin (new)

Kevin Ansbro Fab review, Larry!
And this line (about love) was perfect...
"Invisibly, it makes a place in your body."
Hopefully, we've all experienced that.


message 4: by Antoinette (new) - added it

Antoinette Awesome review, Larry..


message 5: by Jennifer (new) - added it

Jennifer Masterson Fabulous review, Larry! I bought this one. Yay for Oprah! 🤗


Ashley I’m glad you enjoyed this, Larry! I had a totally different experience with this book.


Lindsay L Fantastic review Lar! This sounds really good! So glad you enjoyed this. 😊💕


Angela M Excellent review , Larry. It’s on my nightstand!


Larry H Jen wrote: "I def agree with your last paragraph. I’m only halfway through the book and it’s breaking my heart but I’m loving it at the same time. The story elicits so many emotions from the different characte..."

Glad you're enjoying it, Jen! I look forward to seeing what you think!


Larry H Brandice wrote: "Great review, Larry, so well-said! I absolutely loved this book, and I went back & forth on liking each of the characters and rooting for what they each wanted."

Thanks so much, Brandice! I was so taken by your review and how much you loved it, so I was glad to feel the same way!


Larry H Kevin wrote: "Fab review, Larry!
And this line (about love) was perfect...
"Invisibly, it makes a place in your body."
Hopefully, we've all experienced that."


Thanks, Kevin! Amen to that.


Larry H Antoinette wrote: "Awesome review, Larry.."

Thanks so much, Antoinette!


Larry H Jennifer wrote: "Fabulous review, Larry! I bought this one. Yay for Oprah! 🤗"

Thanks, Jennifer! I've gone back and forth on her book club through the years, but this was an excellent choice!


Larry H Ashley wrote: "I’m glad you enjoyed this, Larry! I had a totally different experience with this book."

Thanks, Ashley! I totally see where you are coming from in your review, though. Sorry you didn't like it more!


Larry H Lindsay wrote: "Fantastic review Lar! This sounds really good! So glad you enjoyed this. 😊💕"

Thanks, Linds! It's really a great book, just a fascinating look at marriage and relationships.


Larry H Angela M wrote: "Excellent review , Larry. It’s on my nightstand!"

Thanks, Angela! Hope you enjoy!!


Karen Awesome review Larry! I really want to read this!


Dianne Nice review, Larry! Glad to hear it didn't turn into a melodrama.


Cheri Wonderful review, Larry, I am expecting this in the mail relatively soon, it was the pick of the month for one of the book "clubs." I had seen it, I think I'd even requested it but been turned down, but am so glad to see your five stars for this!


Andrea What a lovely review. Sold! Just added.


Diane S ☔ Wonderful review, Larry.


Debbie This is in my queue. Hearing a lot of good things about it. Can't wait to read it!! Nice review!


BAM doesn’t answer to her real name Glad to see your review! Oprah’s books can be iffy


Jamie Rosenblit Great review, as always, Larry! I’m glad you enjoyed this one, I did too!


Stacey I was anxious to read your review and it's a good one! I'm buried deep in the queue at the library, but I'm looking forward to my turn.


Susie Dodge Great review!


message 27: by Rae (new)

Rae Meadows Powerful review, Larry! I tend to hang back on the big books of the moment but you make a great case for this one. Glad it stayed clear of melodrama.


Dana (dana_reads_books13) Such a great review! Celestial is a very complicated character. It's like she wants Roy, she doesn't like the constraints of Roy (even before he was in prison), wants to be loyal, wants separation because of pain, wants Andre, seems unsure about Andre when Roy gets out... She is hard to like, but so real and you do feel for her at times!


message 29: by Christine (new)

Christine Fantastic review, Larry. This looks great!


Cheryl R Good review


Debbie Just finished this one. Your fantastic review keeps my happy book engine running! Thank you! Damn, what a fabulous book!


message 32: by Rhonda (new) - added it

Rhonda B Oh Larry, your review is like a great book into it's self. How can I not want to read this, okat, you got me hooked....off to add to my ginormous list. Thanks


message 33: by Anne (new) - rated it 5 stars

Anne Webster Great review! Totally summed up my feelings when I finished. One of the best books I’ve read recently.


Monica Great review Larry!!


Susanne Stellar review Larry! Well said.. there is no crazy melodrama here. Just lots of feeling.. love, sadness and complete injustice, in more ways than one.


Barbara Fabulous review.Perfectly stated no need to write one myself!


Carol Excellent review focusing on the characters and their feelings as they deal with their lives. It is about a black couple and black circumstances but the feelings could be about any couple. The traumatic unexpected can happen in any relationship and those involved will deal with it in many ways. How these characters did is what I loved about the book


Jennifer Mennella Great review and you captured what I am feeling


BookedAgain Cannot find how to write my review from mobile site so I will post here:

I didn't connect to Roy or Celestial so I didn't feel invested in their story. Also, I understand that life and marriages can be messy and that some decisions we make aren't always cut and dry. But some of the decisions that Celestial and Roy were making were nonsensical to me and not fully explained. Particularly in Celestial's case toward the end of the book. I didn't understand her.


BookedAgain I thought it would be more emotional and I would feel for the characters. I did not. Given the mostly great reviews, I read it but was under-whelmed by this story.


message 41: by Esil (new) - rated it 5 stars

Esil Perfect review, Larry. You capture what makes this book powerful so well.


jennyreadit I am having a hard time putting my thoughts about this book into words. I have struggled with myself over a divorce that happened three years ago. All the "what-if's, if I only had... etc.." but kept them to myself and in my head, trying not to let others see I still hurt and agonize over it. The quote about making peace, not just having it, brought me to tears. There is a difference between the idea of marriage and the reality of it. This book does an incredible job of showing it all.


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