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Educated by Tara Westover
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it was amazing
bookshelves: 2018, aere-perennius, american, memoir-autobiography-diary, nonfiction

"Not knowing for certain, but refusing to give way to those who claim certainty, was a privilege I had never allowed myself. My life was narrated for me by others. Their voices were forceful, emphatic, absolute. It had never occurred to me that my voice might be as strong as theirs."
- Tara Westover, Educated: A Memoir

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This book feels like it was written by a sister, a cousin, a niece. Tara Westover grew up a few mountains over from my dad's Heglar ranch. I don't know her. Don't know her family. She grew up about 70-80+ miles South East as the crow flies, but realistically, it was a 1.5 hours drive difference, and a whole planet of Mormonism over.

I didn't grow up in Idaho. I was born there and returned there yearly. But this book is filled with the geography, culture, behaviors, mountains, religion, schools, and extremes I understand. She is writing from a similar, and often shared space. I didn't just read this book, I felt it on every page. Her prose was amazing. The memoir danced at parts, while a couple pages later, I would be sent up for air. I often found myself having to talk through parts of the book with my wife while reading. It flowed. Some books seem to remove friction while you read. My wife abandoned work for a day to read it. It consumed us.

This book reads like a modern-day, Horatio Alger + The Education of Henry Adams: An Autobiography. However, it isn't just a book about how a girl with little formal education from a small town in Idaho makes it to Cambridge. It is also a tale of escape, and a historiography. Westover is using her own life to do a popular memory study on herself. She is looking at how she viewed her religion, her background, her parents, and her education. She explores how those memories and narratives change and reorient based upon proximity to her family, her father. These narratives especially begin to reorient as she becomes "educated."

I bought a copy and before I even read it, I gave it to my father to read (He grew up in Heglar, ID). Then I bought another couple and yesterday and today my wife and I raced to finish our respective copies. We bored our kids talking about it over two dinners. We both finished it within minutes of each other tonight.

Tara Westover's memoir hit me hard because of the struggle she has owning her own narrative. Through many vectors I related to her (we both graduated from BYU with Honors, were both were from Idaho, educated Mormons, and both have preppers in the family). My family, while sharing similar land, a similar start, and a similar undergraduate education, however, are not Tara's. And that is what made this memoir so compelling. It was like reading a Dickens novel, but one that was set in your neighborhood. It was moving, sad, and tremendous. In the end, I was attracted by how close the story felt, but I was also VERY grateful her story wasn't THAT close.
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March 26, 2018 – Started Reading
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March 27, 2018 – Shelved as: 2018
March 27, 2018 – Shelved as: aere-perennius
March 27, 2018 – Shelved as: american
March 27, 2018 – Shelved as: nonfiction
March 27, 2018 – Shelved as: memoir-autobiography-diary
March 27, 2018 – Finished Reading

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message 1: by Keira Taylor (new)

Keira Taylor I aggree Elsye! ;)


message 2: by Keira Taylor (new)

Keira Taylor agree**


Angela M What a fantastic review! I’m far removed from the places you know about that give you this perspective on Tara’s story . But I was so taken with her story and couldn’t put it down. I love the quote you started with - says do much . Thanks for your heartfelt review.


Darwin8u Elyse wrote: "What an absolutely phenomenal- touching/ heartfelt review...
I’m really moved by you Darwin.
I had no idea about ‘your� background. I can just see you and your wife at the dinner table discussing ..."


Personally, my life seems very easy. My dad did all heavy lifting and in many ways my life seems like some upper-middle-class nirvana. My family's Mormonism was a pragmatic Mormonism. Education came first. God would understand. But I am today surrounded by preppers, gun enthusiasts, home schoolers, essential oil pimpers, and all shades of Mormon belief (from fundamentalism to PoMo* Athiesm). Anyway, Tara's story is well-told and HERS. It was just weird watching her shadows fall around my feet.

*PostMormon


Darwin8u Keira Taylor wrote: "I aggree Elsye! ;)"

Thanks Keira.


Darwin8u Angela M wrote: "What a fantastic review! I’m far removed from the places you know about that give you this perspective on Tara’s story . But I was so taken with her story and couldn’t put it down. I love the quote..."

A definite tribute to the power of the Mountain West and especially to Tara's story.


message 7: by Jacob (new)

Jacob Sebæk Interesting take on "PO life", I´m pretty sure it does apply to other groups than Mormons too. My own transition from the SDA church into the real world was fairly easy, I turned in my "membership card" and denounced all kind of religion, lost a few friends, but lived happily ever after.


Darwin8u Jacob wrote: "Interesting take on "PO life", I´m pretty sure it does apply to other groups than Mormons too. My own transition from the SDA church into the real world was fairly easy, I turned in my "membership ..."

Oh, I'm sure it is pretty standard.


Darwin8u Elyse wrote: "Darwin8u wrote: "Elyse wrote: "What an absolutely phenomenal- touching/ heartfelt review...
I’m really moved by you Darwin.
I had no idea about ‘your� background. I can just see you and your wife ..."


Allergies. Those are just allergies.


message 10: by Cecily (new)

Cecily A powerful review, Darwin8u. I've read profiles and interviews, though not the book itself, but I'm fascinated by your observation that she struggles to own her own narrative, to the extent it reads as if it's written by someone else.


Darwin8u Cecily wrote: "A powerful review, Darwin8u. I've read profiles and interviews, though not the book itself, but I'm fascinated by your observation that she struggles to own her own narrative, to the extent it read..."

I keep getting pulled into the idea that she isn't just writing her memoir, she is unpacking all the ways memoirs and histories bend and flex. Memory isn't static, etc., and she is acknowledging it and TRYING to be honest with how things shift and change for her.


message 12: by Cecily (new)

Cecily Now that makes it sound REALLY interesting.


message 13: by Mel (new) - rated it 4 stars

Mel I felt a a distance between the writer and her story, possible anger issues still left unresolved and also the possibilities that she still holds some tenets of the beliefs. The process of shaking off the bs and finding the true doctrine in a twisted and perverted belief told to you by your parents is notable easy cognitive distortion to internalize. I also wonder about Sean’s abuse toward her and strongly feel there is a sexual element that is likely gebpnerationsl. It has all the hallmarks and fits in the spaces where I though the author left either confusing holes or jumped quickly back into the cycle of apologize, shame, and another try. Abusive mean with a whole ideology behind their actions fit the profile of sex offenders, it would be understandable for her to still be holding back on abuse issues as resolution for these horrific offenses take time TIME and reworking everything you believe...it’s relearning everything you thought. A PhD from Columbia doesn’t hold any more weight than street smarts when it comes to overcoming abuse.


Darwin8u Mel wrote: "I felt a a distance between the writer and her story, possible anger issues still left unresolved and also the possibilities that she still holds some tenets of the beliefs. The process of shaking ..."

Yeah, I agree with you about the issues of abuse, anger, etc. The chapters with Sean were the hardest to read. As far as belief, yeah, I think she is probably still threading that needle (like we all are).


message 15: by Mel (new) - rated it 4 stars

Mel Darwin8u wrote: "Mel wrote: "I felt a a distance between the writer and her story, possible anger issues still left unresolved and also the possibilities that she still holds some tenets of the beliefs. The process..."

Hello R--I should have prefaced my comment with *Writing while under the influence of Ambien.*


Darwin8u Mel wrote: "Darwin8u wrote: "Mel wrote: "I felt a a distance between the writer and her story, possible anger issues still left unresolved and also the possibilities that she still holds some tenets of the bel..."

Ha ha ha. I would pay to see you write on Ambien.


message 17: by Mel (new) - rated it 4 stars

Mel Darwin8u wrote: "Mel wrote: "Darwin8u wrote: "Mel wrote: "I felt a a distance between the writer and her story, possible anger issues still left unresolved and also the possibilities that she still holds some tenet..."
Better yet is what I order if I happen to wake up from an Ambien induced sleep and tune in to QVC.


H (no longer expecting notifications) Balikov " I didn't just read this book, I felt it on every page."
"It was like reading a Dickens novel, but one that was set in your neighborhood."

How rare is this?! Thanks for a very memorable review.


Darwin8u HBalikov wrote: "" I didn't just read this book, I felt it on every page."
"It was like reading a Dickens novel, but one that was set in your neighborhood."

How rare is this?! Thanks for a very memorable review."


Well, since every author has a neighborhood, probably not as rare as we'd think. Especially, in London.


message 20: by Judy (new) - rated it 4 stars

Judy Very powerful review Darwin and the first one I have read that made me want to read the book. Thank you!


message 21: by Fred (new) - rated it 5 stars

Fred Forbes Great review Darwin. I enjoyed the book but it is always more interesting when the author nails it in the heart of where you live!


Darwin8u Fred wrote: "Great review Darwin. I enjoyed the book but it is always more interesting when the author nails it in the heart of where you live!"

Judy wrote: "Very powerful review Darwin and the first one I have read that made me want to read the book. Thank you!"

Thank you both. You should totally read it Judy. I'm glad you enjoyed it Fred.


message 23: by Markus (new) - added it

Markus Hi, Darwin. I must say that I have rarely come across a review so beautiful and heartfelt.
Thanks, and with that, I place the book on my list.


Darwin8u Thanks Markus.


message 25: by Sue (new) - rated it 5 stars

Sue Wonderful review Darwin. I really appreciate your perspective on this one. I appreciated her perspective as a girl/woman. Found this an excellent book, well done, showing the real struggle that is/would be needed to break from this family, perhaps from most families.


Darwin8u Sue wrote: "Wonderful review Darwin. I really appreciate your perspective on this one. I appreciated her perspective as a girl/woman. Found this an excellent book, well done, showing the real struggle that is/..."

Yeah. I have several friends (I went to BYU) who know Tara (I tend to collect friends from BYU who are historians, artists, and political scientists). Her perspective on her family, especially as she beceomes more "educated" and aware, are both sad and inspriing. I obviously can't comment much on her perspective as a woman, but her relationship with both her father and brothers was an important piece (imho) of this book.


H (no longer expecting notifications) Balikov Thanks for the review that gave me perspective on Tara. Something of great value.


Darwin8u Thanks H.


message 29: by Sorento62 (new) - added it

Sorento62 That quote at the beginning of your review gives me goosebumps.


Darwin8u Sorento62 wrote: "That quote at the beginning of your review gives me goosebumps."

Yeah, I loved that sentence. IT seemed to capture the book entire.


message 31: by MQR (new) - rated it 4 stars

MQR I felt this way too. Thank you for your review. We used to visit country family that had a phone but still it was a few hours drive and pretty well every time we got there something similar happened or was happening and us cityish dwellers couldnt understand why. Not just cuts scrapes bruises. Shrapnel, strandings, bushfires. Idaho is just the last frontier. The only other more forsaken kind of an upbringing for a child would be in the actual southwest desert and/or reservations. Tara's grandparents are Hunt's and it makes me wonder if maybe not THE Hunt's, but THE Hunt's were some great forerunners of low cattle enterprise in this entire region, so I doubt it would be a coincidental connection there. There is always something lost, but still the outlook of the book had enough 'forward movement'. It was hard to read but not defeating to read.


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