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A Good Man Is Hard To Find
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Apr 02, 2023
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Expect the unexpected
I knew the name of the author and title of the story, but nothing more. I assumed it was about trying to find a suitable husband. It’s not!
Before reading this, I learned that O’Connor wrote Southern Gothic, with a Grotesque slant, and that she was a devout Roman Catholic. This story starts with the first and ends with the latter.
From the very first word, it’s clear this is a waspish satire about a somewhat dysfunctional family:
�THE grandmother didn’t want to go to Florida.�
Not “Grandmother�, or “the children’s grandmother�, let alone a name. Then, very soon after, “The children’s mother�. Again, no name, and unlike the grandmother, she doesn't even speak. Such detachment. The grandmother lives with her son, his wife, and their three children.
Despite her objections, they go on a roadtrip to Florida. The older two children, John Wesley and June Star, are snarky brats, and the grandmother is a selfish and manipulative snob, anxious to be seen as a good southern lady. It’s a little clichéd but quite amusing, and there’s some careful foreshadowing. As the grandmother pontificates, it becomes clear she has attitudes that fit the time and place:
�‘Oh look at the cute little pickaninny!� she said and pointed to a Negro child standing in the door of a shack. ‘Wouldn’t that make a picture, now?��
They stop at a roadside diner, and the grandmother and proprietor reminisce about better times:
�‘A good man is hard to find,� Red Sammy said. ‘Everything is getting terrible. I remember the day you could go off and leave your screen door unlatched. Not no more.�...
The old lady said that in her opinion Europe was entirely to blame for the way things were now.�
Then there’s a sudden change of setting, tone, and genre: (view spoiler) .

Image: The Misfit (spotlight on one stick figure that is unlike the others) ()
And the moral is�
I wasn’t really sure, but it sure was preachy, and that’s not my thing. I couldn't decide if O'Connor was highlighting God’s love and forgiveness, exposing the hypocrisy of the desperate, or both. It’s often said that flattery will get you everywhere, but will it get you into heaven?
�I know you’re a good man. You don’t look a bit like you have common blood.�
I found the final three lines the most baffling and they make the story hard to rate, hence a neutral 3*. That fits the symbolic recurrence of the number three in the story, echoing famous Bible passages.
O’Connor explained somewhat in an essay about the element of suspense in the story, . However, I was most struck by the opening words:
�A story really isn't any good unless it successfully resists paraphrase, unless it hangs on and expands the mind.�
On that basis, perhaps I should have awarded it more than 3*.
The following week I read another story of hers that was similar in many ways, but dialled down a little. It seemed an anti-racist story, until I read how O'Connor identified with the protagonist. See my review of Revelation HERE.
Quotes
� “A young woman in slacks, whose face was as broad and innocent as a cabbage and was tied around with a green head-kerchief that had two points on the top like rabbit’s ears.� [innocent cabbage?!]
� “The trees were full of silver-white sunlight and the meanest of them sparkled.�
� “I ain’t a good man� but I ain’t the worst in the world neither.�
Short story club
I read this as one of the stories in The Art of the Short Story, by Dana Gioia, from which I'm aiming to read one story a week with The Short Story Club, starting 2 May 2022.
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I knew the name of the author and title of the story, but nothing more. I assumed it was about trying to find a suitable husband. It’s not!
Before reading this, I learned that O’Connor wrote Southern Gothic, with a Grotesque slant, and that she was a devout Roman Catholic. This story starts with the first and ends with the latter.
From the very first word, it’s clear this is a waspish satire about a somewhat dysfunctional family:
�THE grandmother didn’t want to go to Florida.�
Not “Grandmother�, or “the children’s grandmother�, let alone a name. Then, very soon after, “The children’s mother�. Again, no name, and unlike the grandmother, she doesn't even speak. Such detachment. The grandmother lives with her son, his wife, and their three children.
Despite her objections, they go on a roadtrip to Florida. The older two children, John Wesley and June Star, are snarky brats, and the grandmother is a selfish and manipulative snob, anxious to be seen as a good southern lady. It’s a little clichéd but quite amusing, and there’s some careful foreshadowing. As the grandmother pontificates, it becomes clear she has attitudes that fit the time and place:
�‘Oh look at the cute little pickaninny!� she said and pointed to a Negro child standing in the door of a shack. ‘Wouldn’t that make a picture, now?��
They stop at a roadside diner, and the grandmother and proprietor reminisce about better times:
�‘A good man is hard to find,� Red Sammy said. ‘Everything is getting terrible. I remember the day you could go off and leave your screen door unlatched. Not no more.�...
The old lady said that in her opinion Europe was entirely to blame for the way things were now.�
Then there’s a sudden change of setting, tone, and genre: (view spoiler) .

Image: The Misfit (spotlight on one stick figure that is unlike the others) ()
And the moral is�
I wasn’t really sure, but it sure was preachy, and that’s not my thing. I couldn't decide if O'Connor was highlighting God’s love and forgiveness, exposing the hypocrisy of the desperate, or both. It’s often said that flattery will get you everywhere, but will it get you into heaven?
�I know you’re a good man. You don’t look a bit like you have common blood.�
I found the final three lines the most baffling and they make the story hard to rate, hence a neutral 3*. That fits the symbolic recurrence of the number three in the story, echoing famous Bible passages.
O’Connor explained somewhat in an essay about the element of suspense in the story, . However, I was most struck by the opening words:
�A story really isn't any good unless it successfully resists paraphrase, unless it hangs on and expands the mind.�
On that basis, perhaps I should have awarded it more than 3*.
The following week I read another story of hers that was similar in many ways, but dialled down a little. It seemed an anti-racist story, until I read how O'Connor identified with the protagonist. See my review of Revelation HERE.
Quotes
� “A young woman in slacks, whose face was as broad and innocent as a cabbage and was tied around with a green head-kerchief that had two points on the top like rabbit’s ears.� [innocent cabbage?!]
� “The trees were full of silver-white sunlight and the meanest of them sparkled.�
� “I ain’t a good man� but I ain’t the worst in the world neither.�
Short story club
I read this as one of the stories in The Art of the Short Story, by Dana Gioia, from which I'm aiming to read one story a week with The Short Story Club, starting 2 May 2022.
You can read this story .
You can join the group here.["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>["br"]>
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That's useful to know. Thanks.

The preachiness would irritate me too but an innocent cabbage? That's one I've not come across before!!
Excellent review, Cecily!

She is! Although I'm an atheist, I was raised an Anglican, and I often appreciate Biblical references and the beauty of some of the language and ideas. With O'Connor, it's something about the style of her religiosity that doesn't sit well with me. She's a good writer, but not to my taste.

I was raised a New England Congregationalist. I’m not sure what I believe today."
My toes are fine, but thanks for checking. I like discussing different opinions, as long as it stays kind and respectful - as you and (almost?) all my GR connections always are.

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Excellent review, Cecily!"
Thanks. I'm now mulling what would be the character of other vegetables - and fruit: As unreliable as a pear, comes to mind.


That's an interesting question. Although I knew her name, it wasn't on any pedestal, so I just read it in something of a vacuum. Thanks, Kenny.


Makes sense. I was raised Protestant and have long been atheist. I often appreciate religious metaphors, but I don't like being preached to.


It really was, and the final few pages left me speechless too. Briefly. The shock was all the greater because it was so far from what I was expecting. The next story of hers I read immediately after (and the last of hers for a while!) had the same structure of satire turning into something nastier (not as nasty as this) and a disturbing and confusing religious message. There's a link to my review of it in my review above.


I hope you find them worthwhile. The postscript to my review of Revelation, which I read immediately after this, rather changed my view.

I'm sure, and maybe still is, and not just in the US. When I was growing up in an English village with a snobby contingent, describing someone as "common" was the worst insult. It was nasty, but not racial, as England is less racially diverse than the US, and villages especially so.


I have even less affinity with Catholicism than Protestantism, and it's certainly an aspect of O'Connor's writing that I didn't like. Breaking Bad, though - yes, I see what you mean!

There is a video of her reading this aloud on YouTube, which is well worth a listen. I have to admit, I didn’t even know Flannery was a woman’s name until I saw her reading. There is something extra funny about seeing what the writer looks like and how incongruous this is with the story. I’ve always thought The Grandmother was written for laughs, although in a very dark kind of way.

Although I knew she was a woman, it would be interesting to hear her read it. I'll look for that. Thanks, Dani
Dani wrote: ".... I’ve always thought The Grandmother was written for laughs, although in a very dark kind of way."
Absolutely - except see my review of Revelation HERE, including my own revelation. It does colour my interpretation of this.


Understandable. What I learned about O'Connor from an article (included at the end of that review) completely confounded my understanding of that whole story. Anyway, you can make your own journey through her work.


Thanks, it's a troubling but intriguing piece.

