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Perfection
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While writing this review, I was more than usually aware that I would be posting it on this website, where, every time I refreshed the page, I'd hope to find that it had clocked up some Likes and comments, each of which would give me a little rush.
That awareness leads me to think about how big a role the 'little rush' plays in my reading life—indeed in my life in general. What would I do if I couldn't write reviews anymore? Would I read differently, maybe give less thought to what I read since I wouldn't have an audience for my post-reading thoughts and discoveries?
Then I wondered what sort of person I have become that I don't read in the privacy of my mind anymore but need to air every reading thought I have in public? But at least I'm producing something with all this, I tell myself. I'm writing a reflection on books every week, and that can't be bad for my psyche, can it?
And so I feel grateful to live in this moment in time that allows me to write and be read, and to discuss and learn from GR friends' review writing and reading. After all, we can't all have review columns in newspapers as Virginia Woolf and many other committed readers did in the past. Readers like us could never have aspired to writing reviews in newspapers!
If you're wondering why this book prompted so much soul-searching, it's because it is about two people who live almost their entire lives on the internet. They are a couple, Anna and Tom, who work from home as graphic designers for websites—which means that every minute of their work day is spent online, and any breaks from work tasks are spent checking their social media profiles for Likes and comments on the well-curated images of their well-curated lifestyle which they constantly post on their social media platforms.
When they are not checking their own profiles, they are searching their virtual friends' feeds for new life-style trends, whether in furnishings, cooking, art exhibitions, or holiday destinations, which they then incorporate into their own lifestyle choices, ordering more and more trending 'things' for their apartment, refining their images of their lives further and further in the search for some ideal of perfection, a search that takes them from Berlin to Lisbon, where there are great sunsets but the food chosen from the laminated menus full of garish photos is served on grubby formica tables, and from Lisbon to Sicily, where the scenery is fabulous but the airbnb is dark and dusty and "crammed with what could only be a dead relative’s furniture", and then back to Berlin because, you've guessed it, the perfect lifestyle is not as easy to create in reality as it is on social media posts. But Berlin isn't the end of the road for Anna and Tom, and Real Life steps in and redirects their lives in an unexpected way.
This book is something of a reality check for the way we live now and yet the really surprising thing is that it was inspired by and based closely on a book from the 1960s—long before internet screens and social media. That book, by French writer Georges Perec, was called Les Choses (The Things).
Perec's book is about a couple called Jérôme and Sylvie who aspired to a particular lifestyle—a classic apartment in the heart of Paris full of rich fabrics, precious objects, fine art, and beautifully bound books.
Perec used a documentary style in presenting the couple and their lives, the narration like a camera panning across their surroundings with little close-ups of their day-to-day activities but never giving much glimpse of the interior thoughts of his two characters—they never speak—so that at the end of the book, they remain as opaque as they were at the beginning. He uses the conditional tense for the first part in which he outlines the life-style the couple aspired to, the present tense for the second part, and the future tense for the final part, their projected future.
Vincenzo Latronico does exactly the same thing—even to the three tenses and the lack of dialogue. And while we hear a lot about Anna and Tom's life, just as in Perec's book, we don't ever get to know them as people. The skill and discipline shown by both authors as they continually keep their characters at a distance from themselves and from us makes their texts a treat to read. At the end of Vincenzo Latronico's book, I still saw Anna and Tom as the blank avatars they were at the beginning, one short-haired, one shoulder length, both in dark grey on a pale grey background.
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I think it was interesting that Anna and Tom's story finished in 2019 when they seemed to have finally found their perfect lifestyle (far from Berlin) because the reader is aware of how their ultimate choice of a way to live would be impacted by the 2020 pandemic, something the author must have been aware of too because he wrote this book during 2020/2021 when he himself must have been living the isolating life he gave his characters though he had situated their story during the ten years leading up to it.
That awareness leads me to think about how big a role the 'little rush' plays in my reading life—indeed in my life in general. What would I do if I couldn't write reviews anymore? Would I read differently, maybe give less thought to what I read since I wouldn't have an audience for my post-reading thoughts and discoveries?
Then I wondered what sort of person I have become that I don't read in the privacy of my mind anymore but need to air every reading thought I have in public? But at least I'm producing something with all this, I tell myself. I'm writing a reflection on books every week, and that can't be bad for my psyche, can it?
And so I feel grateful to live in this moment in time that allows me to write and be read, and to discuss and learn from GR friends' review writing and reading. After all, we can't all have review columns in newspapers as Virginia Woolf and many other committed readers did in the past. Readers like us could never have aspired to writing reviews in newspapers!
If you're wondering why this book prompted so much soul-searching, it's because it is about two people who live almost their entire lives on the internet. They are a couple, Anna and Tom, who work from home as graphic designers for websites—which means that every minute of their work day is spent online, and any breaks from work tasks are spent checking their social media profiles for Likes and comments on the well-curated images of their well-curated lifestyle which they constantly post on their social media platforms.
When they are not checking their own profiles, they are searching their virtual friends' feeds for new life-style trends, whether in furnishings, cooking, art exhibitions, or holiday destinations, which they then incorporate into their own lifestyle choices, ordering more and more trending 'things' for their apartment, refining their images of their lives further and further in the search for some ideal of perfection, a search that takes them from Berlin to Lisbon, where there are great sunsets but the food chosen from the laminated menus full of garish photos is served on grubby formica tables, and from Lisbon to Sicily, where the scenery is fabulous but the airbnb is dark and dusty and "crammed with what could only be a dead relative’s furniture", and then back to Berlin because, you've guessed it, the perfect lifestyle is not as easy to create in reality as it is on social media posts. But Berlin isn't the end of the road for Anna and Tom, and Real Life steps in and redirects their lives in an unexpected way.
This book is something of a reality check for the way we live now and yet the really surprising thing is that it was inspired by and based closely on a book from the 1960s—long before internet screens and social media. That book, by French writer Georges Perec, was called Les Choses (The Things).
Perec's book is about a couple called Jérôme and Sylvie who aspired to a particular lifestyle—a classic apartment in the heart of Paris full of rich fabrics, precious objects, fine art, and beautifully bound books.
Perec used a documentary style in presenting the couple and their lives, the narration like a camera panning across their surroundings with little close-ups of their day-to-day activities but never giving much glimpse of the interior thoughts of his two characters—they never speak—so that at the end of the book, they remain as opaque as they were at the beginning. He uses the conditional tense for the first part in which he outlines the life-style the couple aspired to, the present tense for the second part, and the future tense for the final part, their projected future.
Vincenzo Latronico does exactly the same thing—even to the three tenses and the lack of dialogue. And while we hear a lot about Anna and Tom's life, just as in Perec's book, we don't ever get to know them as people. The skill and discipline shown by both authors as they continually keep their characters at a distance from themselves and from us makes their texts a treat to read. At the end of Vincenzo Latronico's book, I still saw Anna and Tom as the blank avatars they were at the beginning, one short-haired, one shoulder length, both in dark grey on a pale grey background.
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I think it was interesting that Anna and Tom's story finished in 2019 when they seemed to have finally found their perfect lifestyle (far from Berlin) because the reader is aware of how their ultimate choice of a way to live would be impacted by the 2020 pandemic, something the author must have been aware of too because he wrote this book during 2020/2021 when he himself must have been living the isolating life he gave his characters though he had situated their story during the ten years leading up to it.
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Personally, I see GR as a book club of sorts, and I’m most interested in finding books and book discussions, but I can see how this platform could turn into a “like� race, in fact some reviews show up numerous times because they are being reposted for more likes. It’s interesting how at some point we all have to take a look at the advantages and disadvantages of living online. I had to disengage from SM because of what you mention, this fear of getting motivated by likes.
The lessons in this book seem to come back to living authentic lives and being motivated by instinct and intention, not by social media. I’m now intrigued about the ending�

Thanks for your review, and for encouraging me to read this book. My curiousity is definitely piqued!


1. I knew you were reading something. And forming a review. It's a sixth sense
2. I was going to comment at the halfway point that this is sounding like the Perec novel, Things. And then you tell me it should ..."
Hah! It's true that once I've posted a review, I'm already thinking about the next one even if I haven't yet finished the book it will be about—so your sixth sense is perfectly accurate, Nick!
And how about you've also read Perec's book. No one in my bookgroup had. They hadn't paid attention either to the little acknowledgment at the end where Vincenzo Latronico says: "This novel came about as a tribute to Things: A Story of the Sixties, by Georges Perec; anything good in it owes a lot to him."
But like you, I guessed it was a tribute early in the book though it's been years since I read Perec's novel.
That Mexican film does sound interesting—said she, remembering to click the box that will add this response comment to the Update Feed...

Secondly, I found your review to be intriguing because I kind of guessed the inspiration for the book from your description before you referred us all back to Perec. It is one of my favourite books by him and he is one of my favourite French XXe century authors.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us Fionnuala. I will be thinking of you while I read :-)




Personally, I see GR as a book club of sorts, and I’m most interested in finding books and book discussions, but I can see how this platform could turn into a “like� race, in fact some reviews show up numerous times because they are being reposted for more likes..."
Thanks for clicking the Like button and giving me another little buzz, Cheryl. Thanks too for your interesting comment that adds to this debate.
It sounds as if you use GR in a very healthy way, seeking interesting discussion more than personal validation. I admit to seeking both but I'm not competing with others in any Likes race as the number of Likes others get for reviews of the same books don't impinge on me at all—their reviews and mine are inevitably so different anyway.
However I do add my new reviews to the updates more than once in the 48 hours after initially posting them in the hope that friends who don't log on often may catch them—but I'm also careful to delete the earlier posting from the feed (easy to do via my profile page) so that friends don't find my latest review more than once as they scroll their own feed. But am I motivated by Likes? Yes, I think I definitely am!
By the way, I don't think there's any particular lesson in this book—except that perfection is hard to find!


Yes, you are right, GR is the least vain of the social platforms, creative too. But I admit I'm not reading solely for the pleasure of reading any more, and however much my life as a reader has been enriched, it has also lost its spontaneity.
I find the premise of the book fascinating, it was about time someone did that theme. Perec's book sounds even more fascinating because back then the projection of a curated image was a more subtle affair, if only due to the primitiveness of the means available.
I'd like to read both books, back to back, they lend themselves for a nice sociological comparison, thank you for bringing them to my attention.

Thanks for posting your own interesting angle on reviewing, Barbara. I used to be uncomfortable too when writing opposing thoughts on books that friends had recommended to me but like you, I've grown stronger and firmer in my own responses.
I'm glad to see that you also think that sharing our book thoughts here is healthy, and that it's simply a nice bonus when we get the buzz of Likes and comments.
Plus as you say, it takes our minds off things like...(view spoiler)

Speaking of which . . .
To put a positive spin on a wretched time, perhaps we should take a sip of something every time we hear the word masked by your (view spoiler) in message 13.

For me, having small kids (and a never-ending list of chores) has been a fantastic antidote to the malaise of "living online". My online activity has significantly decreased, and I must admit, I relish this newfound privacy. It's funny how life has a way of guiding us back to what truly matters....

You're right, Jann, posting about our wonderful lives is not a new phenomenon at all! That's what those round robin letters were—all the good things the family had achieved in a particular year posted to their friends and relatives. They might mention that Granddad had died but they never told about how Johnny had been mitching from school or that Jeannie had been bullying her friends! The desire to present the perfect life is clearly a long-held one.
I never joined the round robin circle though I received plenty of them, and the reason I didn't was the fear of boring people I knew in real life. However, as it turns out, I'm quite happy to potentially bore people in the virtual world!

👍 -- Like
😢 -- My library doesn't have this book
😒 -- Your opinion is worthless
😘 -- I'm just here to try and find people to have sex with
🤷♂� -- Yeah, whatevs
( ) -- The "fuck you" middle-digit emoji is missing from my list of options, but would be used to indicate that I'm unhappy that your review is better than mine. In which case, I'd be using this one a lot on your feed.
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None of the above is serious, by the way. One thing you didn't mention is the small rush people feel when other people, those people whose opinions we value, feel the same way about a book that we did. To me, this is even better than a 'like'. I fully agree that I felt no particular rapport with these people, but did feel enormous pleasure in seeing how the author put this story together.
And although I *did* see the note about Perec (the same guy who wrote an entire novel without using the letter 'e', or am I misremembering?), it didn't occur to me that any of my GR friends had actually read it. But if it's as good as this one, then I'll probably seek it out some day, when I'm in the mood to be depressed.

In terms of the likes “rush� it is a trickier question. I would be dishonest if I say I do not like them. But also I do not need them or a validation here. Maybe I needed it at some middle point of my presence here circa 2019. But not anymore. I’ve started all of this just to have a list of the books I’ve read and my thoughts about them. Then a social side has become a bonus. I was fortunate to get a small number of very good friends. And this engagement I treasure. As far as validation and popularity is concerned I think one can be motivated by this. There is nothing wrong with that. But partly it involves a big element of reciprocation (commenting on the maximum amount of someone’s else reviews or at least a very regular reviews of preferably popular books. And I do not have either time nor desire to do that at this stage. Sometimes I read a review and have nothing good to say. Sometimes it makes me feel a bit ashamed even as I do not think much of that particular text (even if I like the book). Plus currently it is quite difficult to follow the replies on the comments and even the new comments on my own reviews. I know the tricks, but it adds more unproductive time. So I figured out some more organic but a bit more random way of engagement with this site:-). In terms of my own reviews, i struggle to define whether my standards are more defined by myself or by thinking that someone might read it. But I am inclined to think the former:-)) I definitely do not think of my readers when I write (with small exceptions when I’ve read the book after someone’s feedback). However, when someone reads what I've written I am grateful and it makes me happy of course:-). And when someone comments I consider it is always as unexpected gift:-).
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I'm with you completely on the plus sides of GR reviewing, Jeroen: the more careful reading and thinking we do before reviewing a book, but I don't think I experience the negative side you mention: the over-awareness of others' opinions about what I may write. Perhaps it's because I've been posting reviews much longer than you have, and I've become completely insouciant over the years about the validity or not of my opinions. But one of these days, someone may come along and pull apart one of my reviews—and maybe then my 'sprezzatura' will fly out the window and be gone forever:-(

@Nick, I'm also curious about that film! Have you seen the mini series ‘Adolecence�? It's the greatest thing I saw so far about the impact social media can have not only on teens, but on their parents. A very strong family drama, really.

Thanks for your feedback, Judith. When I discuss (rarely) my ŷ activity with real-life friends, I stress exactly that—how good it is to get feedback!

I find it reassurring to read that you ask yourself similar questions regarding your use of ŷ as I do. I am still searching for how to keep the use of ŷ enjoyable, not compulsive...
Indeed, if you keep distance from yourself, others cannot get closer to you either. It is a paradox that social media users who supposedly share a lot, just like Anna and Tom, are at the end at a distance from themselves and others. But what about us? I would like to believe that you know me to a certain extent, just like I know you. What do you think?

L'autore ha scritto una nota di copertina per un libro che descrive in modo molto indulgente un giovane estremista neofascista. Della categoria che adesso sono al governo in Italia.



What's a poet doing asking marketing questions!
But to answer half seriously, Ulysse, I never know what reviews are going to be popular in advance. Sometimes a review of an obscure classic can earn more Likes than a review of a contemporary prize-winner.
And I don't think I write reviews with preconceived intentions to make them popular, though I always hope that whatever (sometimes idiosyncratic) angle I take will work as a review and will rhyme somehow with the content of the book.
But I do admit, Ulysse, that I had a feeling the angle I chose here would spark a good discussion:-)




An old statistic that many couples sought divorce within 5 years of moving into their "dream homes".
In California (where I grew up) this happened frequently after couples/families moved into the houses they actually designed and built. I always imagined two people could avoid addressing any, perhaps all, significant issues thinking that problems would magically dissolve when they live in their Dream House. Or in this novel's case - perhaps - their perfectly curated montage?


Thanks for your kind words, Peter. It's true I do put a bit of thought into the reviews I deliberately add to the Update Feed. If I don't have time to write something I'm happy with, I simply write a one line comment for my own records and then I don't tick the box that would add such a review to the updates in the hope no one will see it. I guess I'm not such an addict for Likes after all!

Lord, Lord!

Ain't it hard not to like likes? ;-)

Yes, you are right, GR is the least vain of the social platforms, creative too. But I admit I'm not reading solely for the pleasure of reading any more, and however much my life as a reader has been enriched, it has also lost its spontaneity..."
Thanks for giving the subject some well considered thought, Violeta.
I can see how our reading choices risk becoming less spontaneous because we intend reviewing them, and how we might end up selecting them based on how they will fit with the well-curated image of ourselves as readers we want to project here.
My own reading choices have definitely changed since I joined ŷ but I think that's because I've been exposed to authors I'd never heard of before, and have realised that there are far more interesting books out there than I used to read about in the newspapers I browsed or found in my local library or bookshop. I used to follow the Booker Prize and the Pulitzer back then, and I'd always read some of them but I don't do that much anymore because I now realise I'm drawn more to books that would never win popular prizes. And when I choose what to read now either from my physical unread pile or because of a friend's recent tempting review, I'm still motivated by the simple urge that always motivated me: I really want to read that!
So I think I've remained spontaneous—though my book choices are different and often more challenging than they were twenty years ago. There are authors I liked then that I can't read now, not because of any ŷ image I may be trying to maintain but because I've evolved as a reader, and my GR friends, over the fifteen years I've been here, have helped me to do that
Thanks for inspiring me to think all this through, Violeta.




Thanks for reading most of those 856 reviews, my oldest GR friend —not old as in aged, or maybe, yes aged, as in well-aged in oak casks full of added colour! And thanks also for the 1004 wonderfully enigmatic little reviews you've posted on this site, and which have entertained me every single time, Tony.

Thanks for a very stimulating comment, Dolors. Indeed, I cannot imagine how a person with young children would ever have time to be active on a site like this! But It's interesting that my life guided me in the opposite direction to the way yours has. I only started posting my book thoughts online when the youngest of my daughters left home for college.
But it wasn't that I was looking around for something to fill the gap, it was just that I met an Italian woman who told me about a site she used for cataloging books called Anobii. I joined that site and then discovered it was only one of many, and when I checked out ŷ, I thought the layout was better and so here I've been since. I still have the Anobii profile because that site has a feature ŷ doesn't have: it allows you to keep your shelves completely private so you can add any and every book you can remember without choking up your Friends' feeds. I enjoyed the experience of rewinding the years in an effort to get a glimpse of what I was reading as a child and a teenager—and it was surprising how many books I was able to remember that way. But I don't update my Anobii profile with books I've read since I joined ŷ, I just keep it to help catalogue the old stuff. Record-keeping is a big part of what drew me to both sites. I know I could simply keep a notebook but I've become very fond of the layout of my virtual shelves:-)

You're right, Justin, the sharing of enthusiasm for well-loved books is the best thing here—I'm glad to share an admiration for this one with you So few people in real life read what we read so the chances of having an exciting discussion with like-minded readers about what we've just read are very limited in the real world. I did get to discuss this book in my bookgroup but there was a tendency to dismiss the characters as over-privileged and in any case not well-developed enough, which I thought missed the point of this homage to Georges Perec.
You mentioned his book without the letter 'e'. I'm guessing that book will never appear as an ebook;-)
And thanks for your list of additions to the Like button. Fun fun. Still, I'm glad we don't have access to them. They might mean people would skip commenting and that would be such a loss!

Ah that's such an interesting angle on the reception of Perec's book back when your aunt managed to find a copy, Katia, and yes, you were probably too young when you read it, too dismissive of the characters' hankering after bourgeois possessions! I was older when I got to it it, and already building my own little collection of 'things'.
And you explain well why you won't be reading Latronico's book. When we hear about a book everywhere, it can be off-putting... more later:-)

Lord..."
I was so snarky I forgot to mention how much I enjoyed the review. Never heard of book before and now it's on my radar list. Thanks. Now take another hit! 🥴

You mentioned the 'reciprocation' word, Katia. You're right of course, it works here on goodreads in the same way it works in trade matters:-)
As a general rule, people seem inclined to read only the reviews of people who read theirs, and more so when it comes to comments, and I understand that—though I read most of the reviews that tumble into my feed regardless depending on the time I have of course (but I just like reading reviews anyway:-).
And I think reciprocity may not always be a factor in exchanges on this site. Already in this comment thread, I've had comments from Friends I don't see in my feed, and most of the Likes I receive on a weekly basis are from complete strangers who find old reviews in the community pages. I think ŷ is quite an unusually generous place.

…and you, at the same time, were considering how addictive being online had become, Bogdan! Lots of synchronicity here—though we all need to be online to note it;-)
I wish you success at remaining offline for long periods. The balance I've worked out for myself involves logging in less for half the week—the busy other-stuff days—and then posting a review and logging in more to catch up with comments and others' reviews.

Am I right in thinking that 'sprezzatura' was first used by Castiglione in The Book of the Courtier? Anyway I associate the word with the wonderfully cool manner he ascribed to the ideal courtier in that book—which I try to follow. I ignore his prescription for the ideal Lady. She was to be demure and not speak too much;-)

I find it reassuring to read that you ask yourself similar questions regarding your use of ŷ as I do. I am still searching for how to keep the use of ŷ enjoyable, not compulsive..."
That's the way I'd like to keep ŷ too, Noam, enjoyable but not compulsive. The enjoyable part is easy—I thoroughly enjoy all the aspects of the site I use, the finding of friends' stimulating reviews in my feed, the exchange of book thoughts in the comment threads and GR book groups, discovering the existence of more and more interesting titles via friends' book choices, and especially the reinforcement of the knowledge that there are many many people in the world who love reading as much as I do, and who may be just as dreadful as me at filling their houses with tons of books—plenty of which in many of our cases are still unread in spite of our great love of reading!
But the compulsive part is definitely hard to manage—and maybe exactly for all the reasons I've listed that make this site enjoyable!
1. I knew you were reading something. And forming a review. It's a sixth sense
2. I was going to comment at the halfway point that this is sounding like the Perec novel, Things. And then you tell me it should.
I watched a Mexican film like this at our local film festival just before Covid. A woman's entire life is expressed through a tiny phone screen and that is how it appears on the film screen. Only what happens on 'screen' for her, in that carefully curated and constructed way. It was terribly insular and claustrophobic. I'll try find the name of it.