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賵囟毓蹖鬲 丌禺乇
賲丿鬲賴丕爻鬲 讴賴 賲乇丿賲 丕夭 賵囟毓 乇賵丕賳鈥屸€屬矩藏蹿┷� 丿乇 賴賲賴 噩丕 賳丕乇丕囟蹖鈥屫з嗀� 丕夭 賲丿鬲 丿乇賲丕賳 讴賴 丕賳诏丕乇 鬲丕 丕亘丿 胤賵賱 賲蹖鈥屭┴簇� 丕夭 賲禺丕乇噩 夭蹖丕丿貙 丕夭 賳鬲丕蹖噩 賳丕賲毓賱賵賲貙 賵 丕夭 丌賳鈥屬囐呝� 賵丕跇踿 賲亘賴賲 賵 丕爻乇丕乇丌賲蹖夭. 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 丨丕氐賱 噩爻鬲鈥屬堌堐屰� 丕爻鬲 亘乇丕蹖 蹖丕賮鬲賳 倬丕爻禺 賲乇丿賲丕賳蹖 讴賴 賲蹖鈥屫堌з囐嗀� 亘丿丕賳賳丿 賲睾夭 賵 匕賴賳 丌丿賲蹖 趩诏賵賳賴 讴丕乇 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗀� 賵 毓賱鬲 乇賮鬲丕乇賴丕蹖 賲禺鬲賱賮 賲丕 趩蹖爻鬲. 賵囟毓蹖鬲 丌禺乇 卮丕賲賱 倬跇賵賴卮賴丕 賵 噩爻鬲鈥屬堌堎囏й� 爻蹖鈥屫池з勠€ 毓賱賲 倬夭卮讴蹖 賵 丿乇亘乇诏蹖乇賳丿踿 賴賲踿 賲卮丕賴丿丕鬲 賵 鬲丨賯蹖賯丕鬲 賳賵蹖爻賳丿賴 丕爻鬲 讴賴 亘丕 乇賵卮 芦鬲丨賱蹖賱 乇賮鬲丕乇 賲鬲賯丕亘賱禄 賲爻丕卅賱 賲禺鬲賱賮 卮禺氐蹖 賵 丕噩鬲賲丕毓蹖 乇丕 亘乇乇爻蹖 賵 亘賴鈥屫傌� 鬲丨賱蹖賱 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗀�.
342 pages, Paperback
First published January 1, 1967
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Thomas A. Harris
9听books119听followersThomas Anthony Harris (April 18, 1910 鈥� May 4, 1995) was an American psychiatrist and author who became famous for his self-help manual I'm OK, You're OK (1967). The book was a bestseller and its name became a clich茅 during the 1970s.
During 1985, Harris published Staying OK, a sequel to I'm OK, You're OK, written with his wife, the journalist and lecturer Amy Bjork Harris (born 1929).
During 1985, Harris published Staying OK, a sequel to I'm OK, You're OK, written with his wife, the journalist and lecturer Amy Bjork Harris (born 1929).
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November 26, 2013
About fourteen billion years ago when I was a young child, I remember my mother had this book on my parents鈥� bookshelf. I remember three things about it. Firstly, it was one of the few titles on that memorable shelf that I could understand at that age. I also remember the strong vivid colours of the cover, so redolent of the 70s. The final thing I remember is that it was definitely my mother鈥檚 book and not my father鈥檚. I think in later years, although my memory is scratched from my furious efforts to erase it, in one of her many drunken rages, she actually claimed that, for her, it was her Bible.
I avoided the book for decades not because of what it held inside it 鈥� I had no real idea 鈥� but rather because of who recommended it. If my mother claimed to live by it, I reasoned, then I might well end up something like the relational mess she represented to me.
That I did not read this book until my 43rd year is one of many tragic things about my childhood 鈥� albeit a minor tragedy in comparison to the ones that almost prevented me entering adulthood. I should have read this book very many years ago. In fact, along with Of Human Bondage by Somerset Maugham, it鈥檚 a book I will be buying for the next youth I know that reaches the age of 18.
Not that I think any of us will really understand it then. Anyone who understands it at that tender age is hardly in need of it, in fact. But it鈥檚 a book that should accompany you as you make your way through life, form relationships, meet people, encounter those you cannot fathom, those who fascinate and those who you really wish hadn鈥檛 been born. This book goes a long way to explaining why people behave as they do. Now that I鈥檝e made it to my 5th decade, a lot of it makes sense.
This book is probably the most successful self-help book in history. It presents a very simple relational model and exemplifies it both through author created dialogue and illustrations from the author鈥檚 own patients.
The model is based on assuming that we can take one of three positions vis a vis another: Parent, Adult or Child. Ideally, we鈥檇 all be Adults. But, mainly because of our upbringing, we tend to default to either Parent or Child when we deal with others. And, because they are also defaulting to one of those, this can trigger certain responses in us too.
The Child tends to be paranoid, insecure, uncertain and emotionally volatile as it falls victim to circumstance and the manipulation of others. The Parent tends to be domineering, authoritative, holier than thou and an emotionally sealed box impervious to the situation of others.
Whenever someone is responding in the Adult position, they are communicating I鈥橫 OK 鈥� YOU鈥橰E OK. There are no hidden messages, people act genuinely and there is no fear either generated or perceived. Whenever someone responds from the Child position, they assume the position of I鈥橫 NOT OK 鈥� YOU鈥橰E OK. From the Parent position, the message is I鈥橫 OK 鈥� YOU鈥橰E NOT OK.
Suffice to say that if you find someone hard to get on with and/or others find you hard to get on with, Harris鈥� book is for you. Pick it up and, shortly into the descriptive sections of each state, you鈥檒l be calling the wife over and saying, 鈥楲isten. Who does this sound like?鈥� Just make sure it doesn鈥檛 sound like her or you鈥檒l regret it!
There are sections that were less useful to me. I don鈥檛 have kids and so the two chapters that dealt with that were a bit pointless for me. And at the very end, he decides that his theories might hold the secret to solving all the world鈥檚 woes. Seemed a bit far-fetched to me but then it was the 1970s and even guitarists in skin-tight lycra were okay then.
Overall, I鈥檓 very glad I read this. I wish I鈥檇 read it about 20 years ago. Now that I have done, I feel OK though!
I avoided the book for decades not because of what it held inside it 鈥� I had no real idea 鈥� but rather because of who recommended it. If my mother claimed to live by it, I reasoned, then I might well end up something like the relational mess she represented to me.
That I did not read this book until my 43rd year is one of many tragic things about my childhood 鈥� albeit a minor tragedy in comparison to the ones that almost prevented me entering adulthood. I should have read this book very many years ago. In fact, along with Of Human Bondage by Somerset Maugham, it鈥檚 a book I will be buying for the next youth I know that reaches the age of 18.
Not that I think any of us will really understand it then. Anyone who understands it at that tender age is hardly in need of it, in fact. But it鈥檚 a book that should accompany you as you make your way through life, form relationships, meet people, encounter those you cannot fathom, those who fascinate and those who you really wish hadn鈥檛 been born. This book goes a long way to explaining why people behave as they do. Now that I鈥檝e made it to my 5th decade, a lot of it makes sense.
This book is probably the most successful self-help book in history. It presents a very simple relational model and exemplifies it both through author created dialogue and illustrations from the author鈥檚 own patients.
The model is based on assuming that we can take one of three positions vis a vis another: Parent, Adult or Child. Ideally, we鈥檇 all be Adults. But, mainly because of our upbringing, we tend to default to either Parent or Child when we deal with others. And, because they are also defaulting to one of those, this can trigger certain responses in us too.
The Child tends to be paranoid, insecure, uncertain and emotionally volatile as it falls victim to circumstance and the manipulation of others. The Parent tends to be domineering, authoritative, holier than thou and an emotionally sealed box impervious to the situation of others.
Whenever someone is responding in the Adult position, they are communicating I鈥橫 OK 鈥� YOU鈥橰E OK. There are no hidden messages, people act genuinely and there is no fear either generated or perceived. Whenever someone responds from the Child position, they assume the position of I鈥橫 NOT OK 鈥� YOU鈥橰E OK. From the Parent position, the message is I鈥橫 OK 鈥� YOU鈥橰E NOT OK.
Suffice to say that if you find someone hard to get on with and/or others find you hard to get on with, Harris鈥� book is for you. Pick it up and, shortly into the descriptive sections of each state, you鈥檒l be calling the wife over and saying, 鈥楲isten. Who does this sound like?鈥� Just make sure it doesn鈥檛 sound like her or you鈥檒l regret it!
There are sections that were less useful to me. I don鈥檛 have kids and so the two chapters that dealt with that were a bit pointless for me. And at the very end, he decides that his theories might hold the secret to solving all the world鈥檚 woes. Seemed a bit far-fetched to me but then it was the 1970s and even guitarists in skin-tight lycra were okay then.
Overall, I鈥檓 very glad I read this. I wish I鈥檇 read it about 20 years ago. Now that I have done, I feel OK though!
February 10, 2017
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October 5, 2020
I'm OK-You're OK, Thomas A. Harris
I'm OK 鈥� You're OK is a 1969 self-help book by Thomas Anthony Harris. It is a practical guide to transactional analysis as a method for solving problems in life.
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毓賳賵丕賳: 賲丕賳丿賳 丿乇 賵囟毓蹖鬲 丌禺乇貨 賳賵蹖爻賳丿賴: 鬲賵賲丕爻 丌賳鬲賵賳蹖 賴乇蹖爻貨 賲鬲乇噩賲: 丕爻賲丕毓蹖賱 賮氐蹖丨貨 鬲賴乇丕賳貙 賳卮乇賳賵貙 1368貨 丿乇 383氐貨 讴鬲丕亘賳丕賲賴 丿丕乇丿貨 賳賲丕蹖賴 丿丕乇丿貨 趩丕倬 丿蹖诏乇 鬲賴乇丕賳貙 丕爻賲丕毓蹖賱 賮氐蹖丨貨 1371貨 丿乇 383氐貨 噩丿賵賱貨 賲賵囟賵毓: 乇賵丕賳讴丕賵蹖 乇賮鬲丕乇 賲鬲賯丕亘賱 - 爻丿賴 20賲
毓賳賵丕賳: 賵囟毓蹖鬲 亘賴鬲乇貨 賳賵蹖爻賳丿賴: 鬲賵賲丕爻 丌賳鬲賵賳蹖 賴乇蹖爻貨 賲鬲乇噩賲: 丕丨賲丿 鬲賯蹖 倬賵乇貨 鬲賴乇丕賳貙 讴爻乇蹖貙 1368貨 丿乇 342氐貙 賲氐賵乇貨
毓賳賵丕賳: 賲賳 禺賵亘 賴爻鬲賲 卮賲丕 禺賵亘 賴爻鬲蹖丿貨 賳賵蹖爻賳丿賴: 鬲賵賲丕爻 丌賳鬲賵賳蹖 賴乇蹖爻貨 賲鬲乇噩賲: 賲氐胤賮蹖 毓賱蹖夭丕丿賴貨 鬲賴乇丕賳貙 賴蹖乇賲賳丿貙 1393貨 丿乇 408氐貨 卮丕亘讴 9789644083563貨
毓賳賵丕賳: 賲賳 禺賵亘賲 鬲賵 禺賵亘蹖貨 賳賵蹖爻賳丿賴: 鬲賵賲丕爻 丌賳鬲賵蹖 賴乇蹖爻貨 賲鬲乇噩賲: 亘蹖鬲丕 丨讴賲蹖貙 鬲賴乇丕賳貙 賳丕賲讴貙 1393貨 丿乇 373氐貨 卮丕亘讴 9786006721323貨
賲賵囟賵毓 丕氐賱蹖 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 乇賵丕賳讴丕賵蹖 丕爻鬲. 丕夭 鬲丕賲爻 丌賳鬲賵賳蹖 賴乇蹖爻貙 讴鬲丕亘鈥屬囏й� 賲丕賳丿賳 丿乇 賵囟毓蹖鬲 丌禺乇(賮乇賴賳诏 賳卮乇 賳賵)貙 賲賳 禺賵亘賲貙 鬲賵 禺賵亘蹖(賳丕賲讴)貙 禺賵亘 賲丕賳丿賳(賳丕賲讴)貙 賳蹖夭 丿乇 亘丕夭丕乇 讴鬲丕亘 賲賵噩賵丿 賲蹖鈥庁ㄘж簇�.
賵囟毓蹖鬲 丕禺乇 卮丕賲賱 賴賲賴 倬跇賵賴卮賴丕 賵 噩爻鬲噩賵賴丕蹖 爻蹖 爻丕賱賴 蹖 倬夭卮讴蹖貙 賵 丿乇亘乇诏蹖乇賳丿賴 蹖貙 賴賲賴 蹖 亘蹖賳卮賴丕 賵 倬跇賵賴卮賴丕蹖 賳賵蹖爻賳丿賴 丕爻鬲貙 讴賴 亘丕 乇賵卮 (鬲丨賱蹖賱 乇賮鬲丕乇 賲鬲賯丕亘賱) 丿乇亘丕乇賴 蹖 賲卮讴賱丕鬲 卮禺氐蹖貙 賵 丕噩鬲賲丕毓蹖貙 爻禺賳 賲蹖诏賵蹖丿貨 诏卮賵丿賳 乇賮鬲丕乇 賲鬲賯丕亘賱貙 乇賵卮蹖 賵丕賯毓诏乇丕蹖丕賳賴 丕爻鬲貙 夭蹖乇丕 卮禺氐 乇丕 亘丕 丕蹖賳 乇丕爻鬲蹖 乇賵亘乇賵 賲蹖爻丕夭丿貙 讴賴 賴乇 丌賳趩賴 丿乇 亘诏匕卮鬲賴 乇禺 丿丕丿賴貙 蹖丕 丿乇 丌蹖賳丿賴 乇禺 禺賵丕賴丿 丿丕丿貙 丕賵 禺賵丿 禺賵丕爻鬲丕乇 丌賳賴丕 亘賵丿賴 丕爻鬲貨 讴鬲丕亘 噩爻鬲噩賵蹖蹖 丕爻鬲 亘乇丕蹖 蹖丕賮鬲賳 倬丕爻禺貙 亘乇丕蹖 賲乇丿賲丕賳蹖 讴賴 賴賲丕乇賴 讴賳噩讴丕賵 賴爻鬲賳丿 賵 賲蹖倬乇爻賳丿貙 賵 賲蹖禺賵丕賴賳丿 亘丿丕賳賳丿貙 讴賴 賲睾夭貙 賵 丕賳丿蹖卮賴 蹖 丌丿賲蹖丕賳貙 趩诏賵賳賴 讴丕乇 賲蹖讴賳丿貙 賵 趩乇丕 賲丕賴丕 丌賳讴丕乇 乇丕 賲蹖讴賳蹖賲 賵 亘賴 讴丕乇 丿蹖诏乇 賳賴 賲蹖诏賵卅蹖賲
鬲丕乇蹖禺 亘賴賳诏丕賲 乇爻丕賳蹖 13/07/1399賴噩乇蹖 禺賵乇卮蹖丿蹖貨 丕. 卮乇亘蹖丕賳蹖
I'm OK 鈥� You're OK is a 1969 self-help book by Thomas Anthony Harris. It is a practical guide to transactional analysis as a method for solving problems in life.
毓賳賵丕賳賴丕: 芦賵囟毓蹖鬲 丌禺乇禄貨 芦賲丕賳丿賳 丿乇 賵囟毓蹖鬲 丌禺乇禄貨 芦賵囟毓蹖鬲 亘賴鬲乇禄貨 芦賲賳 禺賵亘 賴爻鬲賲 卮賲丕 禺賵亘 賴爻鬲蹖丿禄貨 芦賲賳 禺賵亘賲 鬲賵 禺賵亘蹖禄貨 賳賵蹖爻賳丿賴: 鬲賵賲丕爻 丌賳鬲賵賳蹖 賴乇蹖爻貨 鬲丕乇蹖禺 賳禺爻鬲蹖賳 禺賵丕賳卮: 賲丕賴 爻倬鬲丕賲亘乇 爻丕賱 2007賲蹖賱丕丿蹖
毓賳賵丕賳: 賲丕賳丿賳 丿乇 賵囟毓蹖鬲 丌禺乇貨 賳賵蹖爻賳丿賴: 鬲賵賲丕爻 丌賳鬲賵賳蹖 賴乇蹖爻貨 賲鬲乇噩賲: 丕爻賲丕毓蹖賱 賮氐蹖丨貨 鬲賴乇丕賳貙 賳卮乇賳賵貙 1368貨 丿乇 383氐貨 讴鬲丕亘賳丕賲賴 丿丕乇丿貨 賳賲丕蹖賴 丿丕乇丿貨 趩丕倬 丿蹖诏乇 鬲賴乇丕賳貙 丕爻賲丕毓蹖賱 賮氐蹖丨貨 1371貨 丿乇 383氐貨 噩丿賵賱貨 賲賵囟賵毓: 乇賵丕賳讴丕賵蹖 乇賮鬲丕乇 賲鬲賯丕亘賱 - 爻丿賴 20賲
毓賳賵丕賳: 賵囟毓蹖鬲 亘賴鬲乇貨 賳賵蹖爻賳丿賴: 鬲賵賲丕爻 丌賳鬲賵賳蹖 賴乇蹖爻貨 賲鬲乇噩賲: 丕丨賲丿 鬲賯蹖 倬賵乇貨 鬲賴乇丕賳貙 讴爻乇蹖貙 1368貨 丿乇 342氐貙 賲氐賵乇貨
毓賳賵丕賳: 賲賳 禺賵亘 賴爻鬲賲 卮賲丕 禺賵亘 賴爻鬲蹖丿貨 賳賵蹖爻賳丿賴: 鬲賵賲丕爻 丌賳鬲賵賳蹖 賴乇蹖爻貨 賲鬲乇噩賲: 賲氐胤賮蹖 毓賱蹖夭丕丿賴貨 鬲賴乇丕賳貙 賴蹖乇賲賳丿貙 1393貨 丿乇 408氐貨 卮丕亘讴 9789644083563貨
毓賳賵丕賳: 賲賳 禺賵亘賲 鬲賵 禺賵亘蹖貨 賳賵蹖爻賳丿賴: 鬲賵賲丕爻 丌賳鬲賵蹖 賴乇蹖爻貨 賲鬲乇噩賲: 亘蹖鬲丕 丨讴賲蹖貙 鬲賴乇丕賳貙 賳丕賲讴貙 1393貨 丿乇 373氐貨 卮丕亘讴 9786006721323貨
賲賵囟賵毓 丕氐賱蹖 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 乇賵丕賳讴丕賵蹖 丕爻鬲. 丕夭 鬲丕賲爻 丌賳鬲賵賳蹖 賴乇蹖爻貙 讴鬲丕亘鈥屬囏й� 賲丕賳丿賳 丿乇 賵囟毓蹖鬲 丌禺乇(賮乇賴賳诏 賳卮乇 賳賵)貙 賲賳 禺賵亘賲貙 鬲賵 禺賵亘蹖(賳丕賲讴)貙 禺賵亘 賲丕賳丿賳(賳丕賲讴)貙 賳蹖夭 丿乇 亘丕夭丕乇 讴鬲丕亘 賲賵噩賵丿 賲蹖鈥庁ㄘж簇�.
賵囟毓蹖鬲 丕禺乇 卮丕賲賱 賴賲賴 倬跇賵賴卮賴丕 賵 噩爻鬲噩賵賴丕蹖 爻蹖 爻丕賱賴 蹖 倬夭卮讴蹖貙 賵 丿乇亘乇诏蹖乇賳丿賴 蹖貙 賴賲賴 蹖 亘蹖賳卮賴丕 賵 倬跇賵賴卮賴丕蹖 賳賵蹖爻賳丿賴 丕爻鬲貙 讴賴 亘丕 乇賵卮 (鬲丨賱蹖賱 乇賮鬲丕乇 賲鬲賯丕亘賱) 丿乇亘丕乇賴 蹖 賲卮讴賱丕鬲 卮禺氐蹖貙 賵 丕噩鬲賲丕毓蹖貙 爻禺賳 賲蹖诏賵蹖丿貨 诏卮賵丿賳 乇賮鬲丕乇 賲鬲賯丕亘賱貙 乇賵卮蹖 賵丕賯毓诏乇丕蹖丕賳賴 丕爻鬲貙 夭蹖乇丕 卮禺氐 乇丕 亘丕 丕蹖賳 乇丕爻鬲蹖 乇賵亘乇賵 賲蹖爻丕夭丿貙 讴賴 賴乇 丌賳趩賴 丿乇 亘诏匕卮鬲賴 乇禺 丿丕丿賴貙 蹖丕 丿乇 丌蹖賳丿賴 乇禺 禺賵丕賴丿 丿丕丿貙 丕賵 禺賵丿 禺賵丕爻鬲丕乇 丌賳賴丕 亘賵丿賴 丕爻鬲貨 讴鬲丕亘 噩爻鬲噩賵蹖蹖 丕爻鬲 亘乇丕蹖 蹖丕賮鬲賳 倬丕爻禺貙 亘乇丕蹖 賲乇丿賲丕賳蹖 讴賴 賴賲丕乇賴 讴賳噩讴丕賵 賴爻鬲賳丿 賵 賲蹖倬乇爻賳丿貙 賵 賲蹖禺賵丕賴賳丿 亘丿丕賳賳丿貙 讴賴 賲睾夭貙 賵 丕賳丿蹖卮賴 蹖 丌丿賲蹖丕賳貙 趩诏賵賳賴 讴丕乇 賲蹖讴賳丿貙 賵 趩乇丕 賲丕賴丕 丌賳讴丕乇 乇丕 賲蹖讴賳蹖賲 賵 亘賴 讴丕乇 丿蹖诏乇 賳賴 賲蹖诏賵卅蹖賲
鬲丕乇蹖禺 亘賴賳诏丕賲 乇爻丕賳蹖 13/07/1399賴噩乇蹖 禺賵乇卮蹖丿蹖貨 丕. 卮乇亘蹖丕賳蹖
March 23, 2025
To us Boomers in the Seventies, this heartfelt book provided a bit of cautionary wisdom.
We believed mainly in Freedom. But Harris urged Discretion.
I was autistic, and Freedom of Expression was my motto. My first shrink thought me nuts, and had me sequestered. Banging my head against the wall repeatedly in there, my freewheeling mood was no fit life for man or beast.
I fought my captors tooth and nail.
But when this book appeared not long afterward, my fellow boomers ate it up.
And me? I thought it pablum. I mocked Harris鈥� disarming engagement with the outside world all the way to my many subsequent hospitalizations. Kids, like you perhaps, I was too cool for rules.
Rereading this again, I know now my contrary behaviour was in fact too uncool to dress up and take public. I was an egomaniac! That shrink was right.
But Harris started to guide me on the pleasant path back to my Childhood Eden鈥�
Fellow Alpha GR Reviewers, do you too not long for that Eden in your exhausted attempts to reach the top of the heap? Fellow Low-Profilers in their settled lives of endless reading in their retirement know the answer:
I鈥檓 okay - you鈥檙e okay.
Just as we are鈥�
And if, like me, you often fumble the balls life throws at you -
Who cares? At least you're HUMAN!
And that goes far for me, in this world of Droids.
We believed mainly in Freedom. But Harris urged Discretion.
I was autistic, and Freedom of Expression was my motto. My first shrink thought me nuts, and had me sequestered. Banging my head against the wall repeatedly in there, my freewheeling mood was no fit life for man or beast.
I fought my captors tooth and nail.
But when this book appeared not long afterward, my fellow boomers ate it up.
And me? I thought it pablum. I mocked Harris鈥� disarming engagement with the outside world all the way to my many subsequent hospitalizations. Kids, like you perhaps, I was too cool for rules.
Rereading this again, I know now my contrary behaviour was in fact too uncool to dress up and take public. I was an egomaniac! That shrink was right.
But Harris started to guide me on the pleasant path back to my Childhood Eden鈥�
Fellow Alpha GR Reviewers, do you too not long for that Eden in your exhausted attempts to reach the top of the heap? Fellow Low-Profilers in their settled lives of endless reading in their retirement know the answer:
I鈥檓 okay - you鈥檙e okay.
Just as we are鈥�
And if, like me, you often fumble the balls life throws at you -
Who cares? At least you're HUMAN!
And that goes far for me, in this world of Droids.
March 26, 2009
It's rare that you come across a book that takes you six months to finish, with more or less weekly efforts to just get it over with. 274 pages later and I still can't identify Harris's thesis.
This book suffers from trying to be everything and ends up being nothing. Despite my bitter frustration from laboring through this insipid, disorganized mess, I still will give Harris the benefit of the doubt and assume this was all done in good faith and was a concerted effort to reach out to people in need. That being said, this one belonged on the clearance rack in 1969.
It astounds me that this book advertises itself of the cover as "Over 15 million copies in print" and "The classic bestseller that has changed the lives of millions." Of course this is typical self-promotion, but I'd like to remind everyone that the number of books sold says nothing of the their worth. Regarding psychotherapy and counseling, I never had to read a text by Carl Rogers in school, nor have I ever met someone who mentioned reading one of his; yet he is indisputably one of if not the most significant and influential figure in psychotherapy. By contrast, I never heard of Harris until I picked up this book, despite his millions sold.
The real shame of this book is that he does a disservice to psychotherapy as a whole and Transactional Analysis in particular. I have yet to read Eric Berne's original Games People Play, but what I have read by him is very clear, sensible, and meaningful. Berne uses clear everyday examples to illustrate his points. His writing is focused and generally tightly confined to the topic. Harris wanders way out into errant speculation as a matter of course. Blanket statements about society and moral decay, criticisms of organized religion, meandering discussions of philosophy, spirituality, and mystical experience, race relations in America, the nature of warfare, hippies and 1960s American counterculture (and the social forces that caused it), adolescent rebellion, violence in the media, rational basis for theories of ethics, proper use of time, prejudice in families and society, the state of marriage in America, international politics, the cause of the Vietnam war (in terms of "Parent" nations and "Child" nations trying to "grow up") etc. etc. etc. As you can see, Harris believes he can do it all in this book and that no topic is either outside the bounds of either the principles of TA or his own expertise. I personally believe that such difficult and involved topics should be left to the professionals, if only because you're liable to look like a jackass with your own ignorant, half-informed opinions. There's an old joke in psychology based on the idea that everyone can do it by virtue of the fact that everyone has a brain (and therefore is an expert); Harris turns the joke on its head by claiming experience in counseling sessions gives him say in all human affairs.
One last nail I'd like to drive in the coffin before I put this one to rest. Harris betrays himself with numerous examples of his own apparent fear of intimacy with other people or willingness to engage others on a meaningful and personal level. It's always strange and in some ways tragic to see a psychotherapist with no insight into his or her own identity and motivation trying to manage the affairs of other people. If you want an example of what not to do in treatment, simply refer to 1) pp. 157-8 - illustrates sophisticated use of P-A-C to make a threat while explicitly claiming not to ("If you keep doing that, you're going to hook my Parent and then we'll both feel bad." Harris labels this Adult and contrasts with "You do that again and I'll slap you silly!" which is, of course, the same message but not veiled in P-A-C doublespeak). 2) pp. 209-10 - Harris quotes long and strikingly clear explanation of group therapy processes by S.R. Slavson, then immediately follows with "In my own clinical experience, I have not been able to validate the above statement." Harris totally and obviously misses Slavson's gist, and then tries to tear down the reasoning. It's painful to watch, and brings to mind the old Chinese saying "Riding an ass and being unwilling to dismount."
In sum, don't waste your time. I finished this one so you won't have to. Put the word out on the wire and stick to the orginal Eric Berne.
This book suffers from trying to be everything and ends up being nothing. Despite my bitter frustration from laboring through this insipid, disorganized mess, I still will give Harris the benefit of the doubt and assume this was all done in good faith and was a concerted effort to reach out to people in need. That being said, this one belonged on the clearance rack in 1969.
It astounds me that this book advertises itself of the cover as "Over 15 million copies in print" and "The classic bestseller that has changed the lives of millions." Of course this is typical self-promotion, but I'd like to remind everyone that the number of books sold says nothing of the their worth. Regarding psychotherapy and counseling, I never had to read a text by Carl Rogers in school, nor have I ever met someone who mentioned reading one of his; yet he is indisputably one of if not the most significant and influential figure in psychotherapy. By contrast, I never heard of Harris until I picked up this book, despite his millions sold.
The real shame of this book is that he does a disservice to psychotherapy as a whole and Transactional Analysis in particular. I have yet to read Eric Berne's original Games People Play, but what I have read by him is very clear, sensible, and meaningful. Berne uses clear everyday examples to illustrate his points. His writing is focused and generally tightly confined to the topic. Harris wanders way out into errant speculation as a matter of course. Blanket statements about society and moral decay, criticisms of organized religion, meandering discussions of philosophy, spirituality, and mystical experience, race relations in America, the nature of warfare, hippies and 1960s American counterculture (and the social forces that caused it), adolescent rebellion, violence in the media, rational basis for theories of ethics, proper use of time, prejudice in families and society, the state of marriage in America, international politics, the cause of the Vietnam war (in terms of "Parent" nations and "Child" nations trying to "grow up") etc. etc. etc. As you can see, Harris believes he can do it all in this book and that no topic is either outside the bounds of either the principles of TA or his own expertise. I personally believe that such difficult and involved topics should be left to the professionals, if only because you're liable to look like a jackass with your own ignorant, half-informed opinions. There's an old joke in psychology based on the idea that everyone can do it by virtue of the fact that everyone has a brain (and therefore is an expert); Harris turns the joke on its head by claiming experience in counseling sessions gives him say in all human affairs.
One last nail I'd like to drive in the coffin before I put this one to rest. Harris betrays himself with numerous examples of his own apparent fear of intimacy with other people or willingness to engage others on a meaningful and personal level. It's always strange and in some ways tragic to see a psychotherapist with no insight into his or her own identity and motivation trying to manage the affairs of other people. If you want an example of what not to do in treatment, simply refer to 1) pp. 157-8 - illustrates sophisticated use of P-A-C to make a threat while explicitly claiming not to ("If you keep doing that, you're going to hook my Parent and then we'll both feel bad." Harris labels this Adult and contrasts with "You do that again and I'll slap you silly!" which is, of course, the same message but not veiled in P-A-C doublespeak). 2) pp. 209-10 - Harris quotes long and strikingly clear explanation of group therapy processes by S.R. Slavson, then immediately follows with "In my own clinical experience, I have not been able to validate the above statement." Harris totally and obviously misses Slavson's gist, and then tries to tear down the reasoning. It's painful to watch, and brings to mind the old Chinese saying "Riding an ass and being unwilling to dismount."
In sum, don't waste your time. I finished this one so you won't have to. Put the word out on the wire and stick to the orginal Eric Berne.
April 15, 2022
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讴賲讴 賲蹖讴賳賴 禺賵丿鬲賵 亘卮賳丕爻蹖. 丕賲丕 亘乇丕蹖 丕蹖賳讴賴 亘鬲賵賳蹖 讴賳鬲乇賱 乇賮鬲丕乇 乇賵 亘賴 丿爻鬲 亘诏蹖乇蹖貙 讴丕賮蹖 賳蹖爻鬲貨 賵 亘丕蹖丿 讴鬲丕亘 亘毓丿蹖 乇賵 亘禺賵賳蹖 馃
鬲丕 丕蹖賳噩丕 賲賳 賲蹖丿賵賳賲 讴賳鬲乇賱賲 丿爻鬲 讴賵丿讴 丿乇賵賳賲賴...
March 24, 2017
丿乇 丕丿丕賲賴 禺賵丿讴丕賵蹖 賴丕 賵 賲胤丕賱毓丕鬲賲 丿乇 賲賵乇丿 爻丕禺鬲丕乇 乇賵丕賳蹖 賲丕 丌丿賲 賴丕貙 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 乇賵 亘賴 倬蹖卮賳賴丕丿 爻丕乇丕 丿乇 讴賳丕乇 诏賵卮 丿丕丿賳 亘賴 賳爻禺賴 賴丕蹖 氐賵鬲蹖 氐丨亘鬲 賴丕蹖 丿讴鬲乇 亘丕亘丕蹖蹖 夭丕丿 禺賵賳丿賲.
亘賴 噩乇丕鬲 賲蹖 诏賲 讴賴 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 鬲丕孬蹖乇 卮诏乇賮蹖 乇賵蹖 胤乇夭 賮讴乇賲 賵 讴賳鬲乇賱賲 乇賵蹖 禺賵丿賲 亘賴 賵噩賵丿 丌賵乇丿 賵 丿乇讴蹖 丕夭 禺賵丿賲 賵 丕胤乇丕賮賲 亘賴賲 丿丕丿 讴賴 賲蹖 鬲賵賳賲 亘賴 賵囟賵丨 鬲睾蹖蹖乇丕鬲 乇賵 丿乇賵賳 禺賵丿賲 賵 丌丿賲 賴丕蹖 丕胤乇丕賮賲 亘亘蹖賳賲. 丕氐賵賱丕 禺賵丿讴丕賵蹖 賲爻蹖乇 爻禺鬲蹖賴 賵 禺賵賳丿賳 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 賴賲 夭賲丕賳 夭蹖丕丿蹖 亘乇丕蹖 賲賳 亘乇丿 丕賲丕 丕夭 亘禺卮 亘賴 亘禺卮蹖 讴賴 禺賵賳丿賲 丕爻鬲賮丕丿賴 讴乇丿賲 賵 亘丕 鬲賲乇蹖賳 鬲賵蹖 夭賳丿诏蹖賲 亘賴 讴丕乇卮 亘乇丿賲. 乇賵丕賳卮賳丕爻蹖 毓賲蹖賯 賵 讴丕乇亘乇丿蹖... 禺賵丿丌诏丕賴蹖 丕蹖 讴賴 亘乇丕蹖 賱丨馗丕鬲蹖 卮賵讴賴 丕鬲 賲蹖 讴賳賴 賵 賲賲讴賳賴 賲賯丿丕乇 夭蹖丕丿蹖 賲賯丕賵賲鬲 鬲賵蹖 賵噩賵丿鬲 賳爻亘鬲 亘賴卮 倬蹖丿丕 讴賳蹖 讴賴 賳丕禺賵丿丌诏丕賴 鬲賵 乇賵 亘賴 爻賲鬲 賳禺賵賳丿賳 賵 丕丿丕賲賴 賳丿丕丿賳 讴鬲丕亘 賲蹖 亘乇賴 丕賲丕 丿乇 賳賴丕蹖鬲貙 賵賯鬲蹖 丕蹖賳 丌诏丕賴蹖 鬲賴 賳卮蹖賳 賲蹖 卮賴 丕蹖賳讴賴 賯丿乇鬲 丨賱 賲爻卅賱賴 倬蹖丿丕 讴乇丿蹖 丌乇丕賲卮蹖 亘賴鬲 賲蹖丿賴 讴賴 爻丕賱 賴丕 丿乇 丕賳鬲馗丕乇卮 亘賵丿蹖.
亘毓丿 丕夭 讴鬲丕亘 毓氐亘蹖鬲 賵 乇卮丿 丌丿賲蹖 丕蹖賳 丿賵賲蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘蹖 亘賵丿 讴賴 鬲賵蹖 丿賵 爻丕賱 丕禺蹖乇 禺賵賳丿賲 讴賴 賵丕賯毓丕 丕丨爻丕爻 讴乇丿賲 夭賳丿诏蹖賲 乇賵 賲鬲丨賵賱 讴乇丿.
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亘乇丿丕卮鬲 噩丕賱亘蹖 讴賴 丕夭 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 丿丕卮鬲賲 丕蹖賳 亘賵丿 讴賴 賲丕 丿乇 賵丕賯毓 亘賴 噩丕蹖 蹖讴 賳賮乇 爻賴 賳賮乇 賴爻鬲蹖賲. 爻賴 賳賮乇蹖 讴賴 蹖賴 賳賮乇 賴賲蹖卮賴 丿蹖乇鬲乇 賲蹖 乇爻賴 賵 蹖賴 賳賮乇 丕夭 賴賲賴 夭賵丿鬲乇...丕賵賳蹖 讴賴 丕夭 賴賲賴 丿蹖乇鬲乇 賲蹖 乇爻賴 讴爻蹖賴 讴賴 亘丕蹖丿 丕賵囟丕毓 乇賵 鬲賵蹖 讴賳鬲乇賱卮 亘诏蹖乇賴 亘乇丕蹖 賴賲蹖賳 亘丕蹖丿 蹖丕丿 亘诏蹖乇蹖賲 賴乇 爻賴 賳賮乇 乇賵 賴賲夭賲丕賳 丿賵乇 賲蹖夭 卮賵丕賱蹖賴 賴丕蹖 丌乇鬲賵乇 亘蹖丕乇蹖賲-丕賱亘鬲賴 夭蹖丕丿 丿丕爻鬲丕賳 亘賴 卮賵丕賱蹖賴 賴丕 賵 丌乇鬲賵乇 乇亘胤蹖 賳丿丕乇賴貙 賮賯胤 鬲氐賵蹖乇爻丕夭蹖 賯卮賳诏蹖 亘賵丿 亘賴 賳馗乇賲. 鬲賮讴蹖讴 噩賳爻 丕賮讴丕乇 賵 丿乇讴 丕蹖賳讴賴 丕蹖賳 丕賮讴丕乇 丕夭 讴噩丕 賲蹖丕賳 賵 讴丿賵賲 蹖讴蹖 丕夭 丕蹖賳 丕賮讴丕乇 禺賵丿 丕氐蹖賱 賲丕爻鬲 亘丕 丕賱诏賵蹖蹖 讴賴 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 丕乇丕卅賴 賲蹖丿賴 亘蹖卮鬲乇 丕賲讴丕賳 倬匕蹖乇 賲蹖 卮賴.
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亘賴 賳馗乇 賲賳 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 亘乇丕蹖 丕蹖賳 賳賵卮鬲賴 賳卮丿賴 讴賴 卮賲丕 乇賵 賲鬲賴賲 讴賳賴 賵 亘賴 丕丨爻丕爻 丨賯丕乇鬲蹖 讴賴 丿乇賵賳 鬲賲丕賲 賲丕 賴爻鬲 丕囟丕賮賴 讴賳賴 亘賱讴賴 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 丕蹖賳噩丕爻鬲 讴賴 亘賴賲賵賳 亘诏賴 丕丨爻丕爻丕鬲 賵 賲賳胤賯 賴丕 賵 丕賮讴丕乇 賲丕 丕夭 讴噩丕 賲蹖丕丿 賵 趩乇丕 丕蹖賳 乇賮鬲丕乇賴丕 乇賵 亘丕 丿蹖诏乇丕賳 丿丕乇蹖賲. 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 亘乇丕蹖 丕蹖賳賴 讴賴 丕夭 丕丨爻丕爻 毓匕丕亘 賲丕 讴賲 亘讴賳賴 趩賵賳 賲蹖 丿賵賳賴 蹖讴 賳賮乇 爻賵賲蹖 丿乇賵賳 賲丕 賴爻鬲 讴賴 賲蹖 丿賵賳賴 丿丕乇賴 丕卮鬲亘丕賴 賲蹖 讴賳賴 賵 賲蹖 丿賵賳賴 乇丕賴 丿乇爻鬲 趩蹖賴 丕賲丕 亘賴 賳丨賵蹖 爻乇讴賵亘 卮丿賴 賵 賳賲蹖 丿賵賳賴 趩胤賵乇 禺賵丿卮 乇賵 丕亘乇丕夭 讴賳賴 賵 丨囟賵乇 丿丕卮鬲賴 亘丕卮賴. 丕蹖賳 噩賵丕亘 賴賲賵賳 賲爻卅賱賴 丕爻鬲 讴賴 丕夭 禺賵丿鬲賵賳 賲蹖 倬乇爻蹖丿 讴賴 趩乇丕 賲蹖 丿賵賳爻鬲賲 亘丕蹖丿 趩蹖讴丕乇 讴賳賲 丕賲丕 賳鬲賵賳爻鬲賲 噩賱賵蹖 禺賵丿賲 乇賵 亘诏蹖乇賲 蹖丕 禺賵丿賲 乇賵 賵丕丿丕乇 讴賳賲 讴賴 丕賵賳 讴丕乇 乇賵 丕賳噩丕賲 亘丿賲.
亘賴 噩乇丕鬲 賲蹖 诏賲 讴賴 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 鬲丕孬蹖乇 卮诏乇賮蹖 乇賵蹖 胤乇夭 賮讴乇賲 賵 讴賳鬲乇賱賲 乇賵蹖 禺賵丿賲 亘賴 賵噩賵丿 丌賵乇丿 賵 丿乇讴蹖 丕夭 禺賵丿賲 賵 丕胤乇丕賮賲 亘賴賲 丿丕丿 讴賴 賲蹖 鬲賵賳賲 亘賴 賵囟賵丨 鬲睾蹖蹖乇丕鬲 乇賵 丿乇賵賳 禺賵丿賲 賵 丌丿賲 賴丕蹖 丕胤乇丕賮賲 亘亘蹖賳賲. 丕氐賵賱丕 禺賵丿讴丕賵蹖 賲爻蹖乇 爻禺鬲蹖賴 賵 禺賵賳丿賳 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 賴賲 夭賲丕賳 夭蹖丕丿蹖 亘乇丕蹖 賲賳 亘乇丿 丕賲丕 丕夭 亘禺卮 亘賴 亘禺卮蹖 讴賴 禺賵賳丿賲 丕爻鬲賮丕丿賴 讴乇丿賲 賵 亘丕 鬲賲乇蹖賳 鬲賵蹖 夭賳丿诏蹖賲 亘賴 讴丕乇卮 亘乇丿賲. 乇賵丕賳卮賳丕爻蹖 毓賲蹖賯 賵 讴丕乇亘乇丿蹖... 禺賵丿丌诏丕賴蹖 丕蹖 讴賴 亘乇丕蹖 賱丨馗丕鬲蹖 卮賵讴賴 丕鬲 賲蹖 讴賳賴 賵 賲賲讴賳賴 賲賯丿丕乇 夭蹖丕丿蹖 賲賯丕賵賲鬲 鬲賵蹖 賵噩賵丿鬲 賳爻亘鬲 亘賴卮 倬蹖丿丕 讴賳蹖 讴賴 賳丕禺賵丿丌诏丕賴 鬲賵 乇賵 亘賴 爻賲鬲 賳禺賵賳丿賳 賵 丕丿丕賲賴 賳丿丕丿賳 讴鬲丕亘 賲蹖 亘乇賴 丕賲丕 丿乇 賳賴丕蹖鬲貙 賵賯鬲蹖 丕蹖賳 丌诏丕賴蹖 鬲賴 賳卮蹖賳 賲蹖 卮賴 丕蹖賳讴賴 賯丿乇鬲 丨賱 賲爻卅賱賴 倬蹖丿丕 讴乇丿蹖 丌乇丕賲卮蹖 亘賴鬲 賲蹖丿賴 讴賴 爻丕賱 賴丕 丿乇 丕賳鬲馗丕乇卮 亘賵丿蹖.
亘毓丿 丕夭 讴鬲丕亘 毓氐亘蹖鬲 賵 乇卮丿 丌丿賲蹖 丕蹖賳 丿賵賲蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘蹖 亘賵丿 讴賴 鬲賵蹖 丿賵 爻丕賱 丕禺蹖乇 禺賵賳丿賲 讴賴 賵丕賯毓丕 丕丨爻丕爻 讴乇丿賲 夭賳丿诏蹖賲 乇賵 賲鬲丨賵賱 讴乇丿.
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亘乇丿丕卮鬲 噩丕賱亘蹖 讴賴 丕夭 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 丿丕卮鬲賲 丕蹖賳 亘賵丿 讴賴 賲丕 丿乇 賵丕賯毓 亘賴 噩丕蹖 蹖讴 賳賮乇 爻賴 賳賮乇 賴爻鬲蹖賲. 爻賴 賳賮乇蹖 讴賴 蹖賴 賳賮乇 賴賲蹖卮賴 丿蹖乇鬲乇 賲蹖 乇爻賴 賵 蹖賴 賳賮乇 丕夭 賴賲賴 夭賵丿鬲乇...丕賵賳蹖 讴賴 丕夭 賴賲賴 丿蹖乇鬲乇 賲蹖 乇爻賴 讴爻蹖賴 讴賴 亘丕蹖丿 丕賵囟丕毓 乇賵 鬲賵蹖 讴賳鬲乇賱卮 亘诏蹖乇賴 亘乇丕蹖 賴賲蹖賳 亘丕蹖丿 蹖丕丿 亘诏蹖乇蹖賲 賴乇 爻賴 賳賮乇 乇賵 賴賲夭賲丕賳 丿賵乇 賲蹖夭 卮賵丕賱蹖賴 賴丕蹖 丌乇鬲賵乇 亘蹖丕乇蹖賲-丕賱亘鬲賴 夭蹖丕丿 丿丕爻鬲丕賳 亘賴 卮賵丕賱蹖賴 賴丕 賵 丌乇鬲賵乇 乇亘胤蹖 賳丿丕乇賴貙 賮賯胤 鬲氐賵蹖乇爻丕夭蹖 賯卮賳诏蹖 亘賵丿 亘賴 賳馗乇賲. 鬲賮讴蹖讴 噩賳爻 丕賮讴丕乇 賵 丿乇讴 丕蹖賳讴賴 丕蹖賳 丕賮讴丕乇 丕夭 讴噩丕 賲蹖丕賳 賵 讴丿賵賲 蹖讴蹖 丕夭 丕蹖賳 丕賮讴丕乇 禺賵丿 丕氐蹖賱 賲丕爻鬲 亘丕 丕賱诏賵蹖蹖 讴賴 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 丕乇丕卅賴 賲蹖丿賴 亘蹖卮鬲乇 丕賲讴丕賳 倬匕蹖乇 賲蹖 卮賴.
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亘賴 賳馗乇 賲賳 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 亘乇丕蹖 丕蹖賳 賳賵卮鬲賴 賳卮丿賴 讴賴 卮賲丕 乇賵 賲鬲賴賲 讴賳賴 賵 亘賴 丕丨爻丕爻 丨賯丕乇鬲蹖 讴賴 丿乇賵賳 鬲賲丕賲 賲丕 賴爻鬲 丕囟丕賮賴 讴賳賴 亘賱讴賴 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 丕蹖賳噩丕爻鬲 讴賴 亘賴賲賵賳 亘诏賴 丕丨爻丕爻丕鬲 賵 賲賳胤賯 賴丕 賵 丕賮讴丕乇 賲丕 丕夭 讴噩丕 賲蹖丕丿 賵 趩乇丕 丕蹖賳 乇賮鬲丕乇賴丕 乇賵 亘丕 丿蹖诏乇丕賳 丿丕乇蹖賲. 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 亘乇丕蹖 丕蹖賳賴 讴賴 丕夭 丕丨爻丕爻 毓匕丕亘 賲丕 讴賲 亘讴賳賴 趩賵賳 賲蹖 丿賵賳賴 蹖讴 賳賮乇 爻賵賲蹖 丿乇賵賳 賲丕 賴爻鬲 讴賴 賲蹖 丿賵賳賴 丿丕乇賴 丕卮鬲亘丕賴 賲蹖 讴賳賴 賵 賲蹖 丿賵賳賴 乇丕賴 丿乇爻鬲 趩蹖賴 丕賲丕 亘賴 賳丨賵蹖 爻乇讴賵亘 卮丿賴 賵 賳賲蹖 丿賵賳賴 趩胤賵乇 禺賵丿卮 乇賵 丕亘乇丕夭 讴賳賴 賵 丨囟賵乇 丿丕卮鬲賴 亘丕卮賴. 丕蹖賳 噩賵丕亘 賴賲賵賳 賲爻卅賱賴 丕爻鬲 讴賴 丕夭 禺賵丿鬲賵賳 賲蹖 倬乇爻蹖丿 讴賴 趩乇丕 賲蹖 丿賵賳爻鬲賲 亘丕蹖丿 趩蹖讴丕乇 讴賳賲 丕賲丕 賳鬲賵賳爻鬲賲 噩賱賵蹖 禺賵丿賲 乇賵 亘诏蹖乇賲 蹖丕 禺賵丿賲 乇賵 賵丕丿丕乇 讴賳賲 讴賴 丕賵賳 讴丕乇 乇賵 丕賳噩丕賲 亘丿賲.
March 31, 2017
丕诏賴 賴丿賮鬲賵賳 丕夭 丨賵賳丿賳 丕賷賳 賰鬲丕亘 丕卮賳丕賷賷 亘丕 賲賮丕賴賷賲 " 賵丕賱丿貙 亘丕賱睾 賵 賰賵丿賰 " 賵 倬賷丕丿賴 賰乇丿賳卮 丿乇 夭賳丿诏賷 乇賵夭賲乇賴 鬲賵賳 亘賴 丕賲賷丿 鬲睾賷賷乇 丕賵囟丕毓 賵 亘賴亘賵丿 亘丕卮賴 貙 禺亘 亘丕賷丿 亘诏賲 賰鬲丕亘 亘丕 丕丨鬲賱丕賮 夭賷丕丿 賲賳亘毓 禺賷賱賷 賲賮賷丿 賵 賰丕乇丌賲丿鬲乇賷賴. 趩夭丕 賰賴 亘乇丕賷 賰爻賷 賰賴 亘丕 丕賷賳 賲賮丕賴賷賲 賴賷趩 丕卮賳丕賷賷 賯亘賱賷 賳丿丕乇賴 丿乇 賮賵丕氐賱 噩丿丕 賵 亘賴 鬲賮氐賷賱 鬲賵囟賷丨丕鬲 乇賵卮賳賷 丿丕乇賴
賵 丕诏賴 賴丿賮鬲賵賳 丕夭 丨賵賳丿賳 丕賷賳 賰鬲丕亘 乇爻賷丿賳 亘賴 賲乇丨賱賴 賷 丌禺乇 鬲睾賷賷乇丕鬲 亘乇 丕爻丕爻 鬲丨賱賷賱 乇賮鬲丕乇 賲鬲賯丕亘賱貙 賷毓賳賷 " 賲賳 禺賵亘賲貙 鬲賵 禺賵亘賷" 貙 賴賲賵賳 胤賵乇 賰賴 乇賵賷 噩賱丿 賰鬲丕亘 丿賰乇 卮丿賴 賵 賳賵賷爻賳丿賴 丿乇 賲賯丿賲賴 賷 賰鬲丕亘 亘賴 毓賳賵丕賳 賴丿賮 賳賴丕賷賷卮 匕賰乇 賰乇丿賴貙 禺亘 亘丕賷丿 亘诏賲 亘賴 賲賳 賰賴 賴賷趩 賰賲賰賷 賳賰乇丿. 賷毓賳賷 丕夭 丕賷賳 诏賮鬲賴 賰賴 亘丕賷丿 亘丕賱睾 乇賵 丕夭丕丿 賰賳賷賲 賵 賲乇丕賯亘 亘丕卮賷賲 賰賴 亘賴 賰賵丿賰 賷丕 賵丕賱丿 丿乇賵賳賲賵賳 丕賱賵丿賴 賳亘丕卮賴 賵 丿乇 鬲賰 鬲賰 鬲氐賲賷賲 诏賷乇賷 賴丕賲賵賳 丨賵丕爻賲賵賳 亘賴 亘丕賱睾 亘丕卮賴 賮乇丕鬲乇 賳乇賮鬲 賵 亘丨孬 乇賵 毓賲賱賷 賵 乇賵卮賳 賳賰乇丿.
鬲丕 賮氐賱 卮卮賲 賵 丨丿賵丿 氐賮丨丕鬲 150 亘乇丕賷 賲賳 禺賵亘 倬賷卮 乇賮鬲 趩乇丕 賰賴 賲乇賵乇賷 亘乇 賲賮丕賴賷賲 丕賵賱賷賴 賷 賲賵囟賵毓 亘賵丿 賰賴 賯亘賱 鬲乇 丕夭 賰鬲丕亘 賴丕賷 丿賷诏賴 賵 亘丕 鬲賵囟賷丨 賵 鬲賲乇賷賳丕鬲 亘賷卮鬲乇 賵 亘賴鬲乇 亘丕賴丕卮賵賳 丕卮賳丕 卮丿賴 亘賵丿賲. 亘毓丿 丕夭 丕賵賳 亘毓囟賷 賮氐賱 賴丕 亘賵丿賳丿 賰賴 賴賷趩 噩丿丕亘賷鬲賷 亘乇丕賲 賳丿丕卮鬲賳丿. 賲孬賱丕 賮氐賱 賳賴 " 賵丕賱丿 亘丕賱毓 賰賵丿賰 賵 亘趩賴 賴丕" 賷丕 賮氐賱 丿賴 賰鬲丕亘 " 賵丕賱丿 亘丕賱睾 賰賵丿賰 賵 丿賵乇賴 賷 亘賱賵睾" 賰賴 乇丕噩毓 亘賴 趩賴 夭賲丕賳賷 賵 趩胤賵乇 賲賮丕賴賷賲 鬲丨賱賷賱 乇賮鬲丕乇 賲鬲賯丕亘賱 乇賵 賷丕丿 賰賵丿賰丕賳 賵 賳賵噩賵丕賳丕賳 丿丕丿賳 氐丨亘鬲 賲賷 賰賳賴 賰賴 亘乇丕賷 賲賳 賴賷趩 賰丕乇賰乇丿賷 賳丿丕卮鬲.
毓賱丕賵賴 亘乇 丕賷賳 賴丕 賳賵賷爻賳丿賴 亘賴 賰乇丕鬲 亘丕 倬賷卮 賮乇囟 丕卮賳丕賷賷 禺賵丕賳賳丿賴 亘丕 "亘丕夭賷 賴丕" 賵 亘丿賵賳 鬲賵囟賷丨賷 乇丕噩毓 亘賴 丕賵賳賴丕 貙 賳丕賲 亘丕夭賷 賴丕賷 丕卮丕乇賴 卮丿賴 丿乇 賰鬲丕亘 丕乇賷賰 亘乇賳 乇賵 丿乇 賳賵卮鬲賴 賴丕卮 亘賴 賰丕乇 賲賷 亘乇賴 賰賴 丿乇 賳鬲賷噩賴 賲胤丕賱毓賴 賷 賰鬲丕亘 "" 乇賵 倬賷卮 賳賷丕夭 賲胤丕賱毓賴 賷 丕賷賳 賰鬲丕亘 賯乇丕乇 賲賷丿賴
丿乇 賲噩賲賵毓 賳賰鬲賴 禺丕氐 賵 乇丕賴诏卮丕賷賷 賰賴 亘鬲賵賳賴 亘乇丕賷 倬賷丕丿賴 賰乇丿賳 鬲丨賱賷賱 乇賮鬲丕乇 賲鬲賯丕亘賱 丿乇 夭賳丿诏賷 乇賵夭賲乇賴 賲 亘賴賲 賰賲賰 賰賳賴 丿乇 丕賷賳 賰鬲丕亘 倬賷丿丕 賳賰乇丿賲. 賰鬲丕亘 亘賴 丿賮毓丕鬲 诏乇賮鬲丕乇 乇賵丿賴 丿乇丕夭賷 賲賷卮賴 賵 亘丿鬲乇 丕賷賳 賰賴 丕賷賳 乇賵丿賴 丿乇丕夭賷 丿乇亘丕乇賴 賷 賲爻丕賷賱 賵 賳賰丕鬲賷賴 賰賴 丕氐賱丕 乇亘胤賷 亘賴 賲賵囟賵毓 丕氐賱賷 賳丿丕乇賳丿. 賰鬲丕亘 亘賷卮鬲乇 丕夭 丕賷賳賰賴 賷 賲乇噩毓 爻賱賮 賴賱倬 亘丕卮賴 賲亘賱睾 賵 賲乇賵噩 賰丕乇诏丕賴 賴丕賷 丕賲賵夭卮賷 賵 丿乇賲丕賳賷賴
賵 丕诏賴 賴丿賮鬲賵賳 丕夭 丨賵賳丿賳 丕賷賳 賰鬲丕亘 乇爻賷丿賳 亘賴 賲乇丨賱賴 賷 丌禺乇 鬲睾賷賷乇丕鬲 亘乇 丕爻丕爻 鬲丨賱賷賱 乇賮鬲丕乇 賲鬲賯丕亘賱貙 賷毓賳賷 " 賲賳 禺賵亘賲貙 鬲賵 禺賵亘賷" 貙 賴賲賵賳 胤賵乇 賰賴 乇賵賷 噩賱丿 賰鬲丕亘 丿賰乇 卮丿賴 賵 賳賵賷爻賳丿賴 丿乇 賲賯丿賲賴 賷 賰鬲丕亘 亘賴 毓賳賵丕賳 賴丿賮 賳賴丕賷賷卮 匕賰乇 賰乇丿賴貙 禺亘 亘丕賷丿 亘诏賲 亘賴 賲賳 賰賴 賴賷趩 賰賲賰賷 賳賰乇丿. 賷毓賳賷 丕夭 丕賷賳 诏賮鬲賴 賰賴 亘丕賷丿 亘丕賱睾 乇賵 丕夭丕丿 賰賳賷賲 賵 賲乇丕賯亘 亘丕卮賷賲 賰賴 亘賴 賰賵丿賰 賷丕 賵丕賱丿 丿乇賵賳賲賵賳 丕賱賵丿賴 賳亘丕卮賴 賵 丿乇 鬲賰 鬲賰 鬲氐賲賷賲 诏賷乇賷 賴丕賲賵賳 丨賵丕爻賲賵賳 亘賴 亘丕賱睾 亘丕卮賴 賮乇丕鬲乇 賳乇賮鬲 賵 亘丨孬 乇賵 毓賲賱賷 賵 乇賵卮賳 賳賰乇丿.
鬲丕 賮氐賱 卮卮賲 賵 丨丿賵丿 氐賮丨丕鬲 150 亘乇丕賷 賲賳 禺賵亘 倬賷卮 乇賮鬲 趩乇丕 賰賴 賲乇賵乇賷 亘乇 賲賮丕賴賷賲 丕賵賱賷賴 賷 賲賵囟賵毓 亘賵丿 賰賴 賯亘賱 鬲乇 丕夭 賰鬲丕亘 賴丕賷 丿賷诏賴 賵 亘丕 鬲賵囟賷丨 賵 鬲賲乇賷賳丕鬲 亘賷卮鬲乇 賵 亘賴鬲乇 亘丕賴丕卮賵賳 丕卮賳丕 卮丿賴 亘賵丿賲. 亘毓丿 丕夭 丕賵賳 亘毓囟賷 賮氐賱 賴丕 亘賵丿賳丿 賰賴 賴賷趩 噩丿丕亘賷鬲賷 亘乇丕賲 賳丿丕卮鬲賳丿. 賲孬賱丕 賮氐賱 賳賴 " 賵丕賱丿 亘丕賱毓 賰賵丿賰 賵 亘趩賴 賴丕" 賷丕 賮氐賱 丿賴 賰鬲丕亘 " 賵丕賱丿 亘丕賱睾 賰賵丿賰 賵 丿賵乇賴 賷 亘賱賵睾" 賰賴 乇丕噩毓 亘賴 趩賴 夭賲丕賳賷 賵 趩胤賵乇 賲賮丕賴賷賲 鬲丨賱賷賱 乇賮鬲丕乇 賲鬲賯丕亘賱 乇賵 賷丕丿 賰賵丿賰丕賳 賵 賳賵噩賵丕賳丕賳 丿丕丿賳 氐丨亘鬲 賲賷 賰賳賴 賰賴 亘乇丕賷 賲賳 賴賷趩 賰丕乇賰乇丿賷 賳丿丕卮鬲.
毓賱丕賵賴 亘乇 丕賷賳 賴丕 賳賵賷爻賳丿賴 亘賴 賰乇丕鬲 亘丕 倬賷卮 賮乇囟 丕卮賳丕賷賷 禺賵丕賳賳丿賴 亘丕 "亘丕夭賷 賴丕" 賵 亘丿賵賳 鬲賵囟賷丨賷 乇丕噩毓 亘賴 丕賵賳賴丕 貙 賳丕賲 亘丕夭賷 賴丕賷 丕卮丕乇賴 卮丿賴 丿乇 賰鬲丕亘 丕乇賷賰 亘乇賳 乇賵 丿乇 賳賵卮鬲賴 賴丕卮 亘賴 賰丕乇 賲賷 亘乇賴 賰賴 丿乇 賳鬲賷噩賴 賲胤丕賱毓賴 賷 賰鬲丕亘 "" 乇賵 倬賷卮 賳賷丕夭 賲胤丕賱毓賴 賷 丕賷賳 賰鬲丕亘 賯乇丕乇 賲賷丿賴
丿乇 賲噩賲賵毓 賳賰鬲賴 禺丕氐 賵 乇丕賴诏卮丕賷賷 賰賴 亘鬲賵賳賴 亘乇丕賷 倬賷丕丿賴 賰乇丿賳 鬲丨賱賷賱 乇賮鬲丕乇 賲鬲賯丕亘賱 丿乇 夭賳丿诏賷 乇賵夭賲乇賴 賲 亘賴賲 賰賲賰 賰賳賴 丿乇 丕賷賳 賰鬲丕亘 倬賷丿丕 賳賰乇丿賲. 賰鬲丕亘 亘賴 丿賮毓丕鬲 诏乇賮鬲丕乇 乇賵丿賴 丿乇丕夭賷 賲賷卮賴 賵 亘丿鬲乇 丕賷賳 賰賴 丕賷賳 乇賵丿賴 丿乇丕夭賷 丿乇亘丕乇賴 賷 賲爻丕賷賱 賵 賳賰丕鬲賷賴 賰賴 丕氐賱丕 乇亘胤賷 亘賴 賲賵囟賵毓 丕氐賱賷 賳丿丕乇賳丿. 賰鬲丕亘 亘賷卮鬲乇 丕夭 丕賷賳賰賴 賷 賲乇噩毓 爻賱賮 賴賱倬 亘丕卮賴 賲亘賱睾 賵 賲乇賵噩 賰丕乇诏丕賴 賴丕賷 丕賲賵夭卮賷 賵 丿乇賲丕賳賷賴
April 24, 2019
卮丕蹖丿 賳讴鬲賴 噩丕賱亘 丿乇亘丕乇賴 賳馗乇蹖賴鈥屬囏й� 乇賵丕賳卮賳丕爻蹖 丕蹖賳 亘丕卮賴 讴賴 丌丿賲 丕夭 賴乇 乇丕賴蹖 讴賴 亘乇賴 丌禺乇卮 亘賴 蹖賴 賳賯胤賴 賲蹖鈥屫必迟�. 賮乇賵蹖丿貙 蹖賵賳诏 賵 丨丕賱丕 賴賲 賳馗乇蹖賴 鬲丨賱蹖賱 乇賮鬲丕乇 賲鬲賯丕亘賱 亘乇賳 丕賳诏丕乇 蹖賴 丨乇賮 乇賵 亘賴 卮讴賱鈥屬囏й� 賲禺鬲賱賮 诏賮鬲賳 賵 丕诏乇 丌丿賲 賵丕賯毓丕 賯氐丿卮 鬲丨賵賱 丿乇賵賳蹖 賵 乇爻蹖丿賳 亘賴 賮乇丿蹖鬲 賵 亘賱賵睾 亘丕卮賴 亘丕蹖丿 鬲賵蹖 蹖讴蹖 丕夭 賴賲蹖賳 乇丕賴鈥屬囏� 亘賴 乇爻鬲诏丕乇蹖 亘乇爻賴. 鬲丨賱蹖賱 乇賮鬲丕乇 賲鬲賯丕亘賱 讴賲蹖 賯丕亘賱 賮賴賲鈥屫� 賵 爻丕丿賴鈥屫辟� 賵 鬲毓丿丕丿 鬲賱賳诏乇賴丕蹖蹖 讴賴 丿乇 賵丕丨丿 夭賲丕賳 亘賴 乇賵丕賳 丌丿賲 賲蹖鈥屫操嗁� 亘賷卮鈥屫辟�. 囟賲賳 丕蹖賳讴賴 丌丿賲 乇賵 胤賵乇蹖 亘賴 賵丕賱丿貙 讴賵丿讴貙 亘丕賱睾 鬲賯爻蹖賲 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗁� 讴賴 丨爻 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗃� 爻賴 乇賵丨 賴爻鬲蹖 丿乇 蹖讴 鬲賳 賵 丨鬲蹖 賲蹖鈥屫堎嗃� 氐丿丕賴丕卮賵賳 乇賵 噩丿丕诏賵賳賴 鬲卮禺蹖氐 亘丿蹖. 賵丨卮鬲賳丕讴 亘賴 賳馗乇 賲蹖丕丿 丕賲丕 毓丕丿鬲 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗃�.
May 28, 2017
賲丿鬲鈥屬囏� 亘賵丿 讴賴 賯氐丿 禺賵丕賳丿賳 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 乇丕 丿丕卮鬲賲 賵 讴丕卮 夭賵丿鬲乇 丕蹖賳 讴丕乇 乇丕 讴乇丿賴 亘賵丿賲. 丕賲丕 亘賴鈥屬囏必з� 亘爻蹖丕乇 禺賵卮丨丕賱賲 讴賴 丨丕賱丕 鬲賵丕賳爻鬲賲 丌賳 乇丕 亘禺賵丕賳賲.
賵囟毓蹖鬲 丌禺乇 讴鬲丕亘 賮賵賯鈥屫з勜关ж団€屫й� 丕蹖爻鬲 讴賴 亘丕 丕乇丕卅賴贁 乇賵卮蹖 鬲丨鬲 毓賳賵丕賳 芦鬲丨賱蹖賱 乇賮鬲丕乇 賲鬲賯丕亘賱禄 賵 賲毓乇賮蹖 噩賳亘賴鈥屬囏й� 賲禺鬲賱賮 卮禺氐蹖鬲賲丕賳貙 亘賴 賲丕 蹖丕丿 賲蹖鈥屫囏� 趩胤賵乇 芦賵丕賱丿禄貙 芦亘丕賱睾禄 賵 芦讴賵丿讴禄 禺賵丿 乇丕 讴賳鬲乇賱 讴賳蹖賲 賵 鬲讴鈥屫� 乇賮鬲丕乇賴丕蹖賲丕賳 乇丕 亘乇 倬丕蹖賴贁 亘丕賱睾賲丕賳 丕賳噩丕賲 丿賴蹖賲.
丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 丕賳诏丕乇 夭亘丕賳 噩丿蹖丿蹖 亘乇丕蹖 乇賮鬲丕乇賴丕 賲蹖鈥屫①呝堌藏� 讴賴 蹖賯蹖賳 丿丕乇賲 丕夭 禺賵丕賳賳丿賴鈥屫ж� 丌丿賲 亘賴鬲乇蹖 賲蹖鈥屫池ж藏�.
讴丕卮 賴賲賴贁 丌丿賲鈥屬囏� 芦賵囟毓蹖鬲 丌禺乇禄 乇丕 賲蹖鈥屫堌з嗀嗀� 讴賴 卮丕蹖丿 丿賳蹖丕 噩丕蹖 亘賴鬲乇蹖 賲蹖鈥屫ㄙ堌�.
賵囟毓蹖鬲 丌禺乇 讴鬲丕亘 賮賵賯鈥屫з勜关ж団€屫й� 丕蹖爻鬲 讴賴 亘丕 丕乇丕卅賴贁 乇賵卮蹖 鬲丨鬲 毓賳賵丕賳 芦鬲丨賱蹖賱 乇賮鬲丕乇 賲鬲賯丕亘賱禄 賵 賲毓乇賮蹖 噩賳亘賴鈥屬囏й� 賲禺鬲賱賮 卮禺氐蹖鬲賲丕賳貙 亘賴 賲丕 蹖丕丿 賲蹖鈥屫囏� 趩胤賵乇 芦賵丕賱丿禄貙 芦亘丕賱睾禄 賵 芦讴賵丿讴禄 禺賵丿 乇丕 讴賳鬲乇賱 讴賳蹖賲 賵 鬲讴鈥屫� 乇賮鬲丕乇賴丕蹖賲丕賳 乇丕 亘乇 倬丕蹖賴贁 亘丕賱睾賲丕賳 丕賳噩丕賲 丿賴蹖賲.
"鬲丕乇蹖禺 賲蹖鈥屫堌з嗀� 亘賴 賲丕 亘诏賵蹖丿 趩賴鈥屬囏� 诏匕卮鬲賴 丕爻鬲貙 賵賱蹖 賳賲蹖鈥屫堌з嗀� 亘诏賵蹖丿 讴賴 趩賴 亘丕蹖丿 讴乇丿 賵 趩賴 賳賲蹖鈥屫堌з� 讴乇丿. 噩賴丕賳貙 趩乇禺鈥屬佡勞┷� 賵賱賳诏 賵 賵丕夭 賵 诏匕乇丕賳 丕爻鬲 賵 賲丕 丿乇亘丕乇賴贁 丕蹖賳 噩賴丕賳 亘賴 丕賳丿丕夭賴贁 讴丕賮蹖 丕胤賱丕毓丕鬲 賳丿丕乇蹖賲 讴賴 亘鬲賵丕賳蹖賲 亘诏賵蹖蹖賲 趩賴 丕鬲賮丕賯蹖 賳禺賵丕賴丿 丕賮鬲丕丿. 賮賯胤 芦亘丕賱睾禄 丕爻鬲 讴賴 丿乇 丕蹖賳鈥屫� 賲蹖鈥屫堌з嗀� 丿爻鬲鈥屫ㄙ団€屭┴ж� 卮賵丿. 鬲賳賴丕 芦亘丕賱睾禄 丕爻鬲 讴賴 賯賵賴贁 禺賱丕賯 賵 丕亘鬲讴丕乇 丿丕乇丿."
丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 丕賳诏丕乇 夭亘丕賳 噩丿蹖丿蹖 亘乇丕蹖 乇賮鬲丕乇賴丕 賲蹖鈥屫①呝堌藏� 讴賴 蹖賯蹖賳 丿丕乇賲 丕夭 禺賵丕賳賳丿賴鈥屫ж� 丌丿賲 亘賴鬲乇蹖 賲蹖鈥屫池ж藏�.
讴丕卮 賴賲賴贁 丌丿賲鈥屬囏� 芦賵囟毓蹖鬲 丌禺乇禄 乇丕 賲蹖鈥屫堌з嗀嗀� 讴賴 卮丕蹖丿 丿賳蹖丕 噩丕蹖 亘賴鬲乇蹖 賲蹖鈥屫ㄙ堌�.
"蹖讴 噩丕賲毓賴 賳賲蹖鈥屫堌з嗀� 亘丿賵賳 鬲睾蹖蹖乇 丕賮乇丕丿卮 鬲睾蹖蹖乇 讴賳丿. 鬲賲丕賲 丕賲蹖丿 賲丕 亘乇丕蹖 丌蹖賳丿賴 亘乇 倬丕蹖賴贁 丕蹖賳 賵丕賯毓蹖鬲 丕爻鬲 讴賴 卮丕賴丿 鬲睾蹖蹖乇 丕賮乇丕丿 亘丕卮蹖賲. 丕蹖賳鈥屭┵� 毓丿賴鈥屫й� 趩诏賵賳賴 丕蹖賳 讴丕乇 乇丕 讴乇丿賴鈥屫з嗀� 禺亘乇賴丕蹖 禺賵亘 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 丕爻鬲鈥�. 賲丕 丕賲蹖丿賵丕乇蹖賲 讴賴 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 蹖讴 賳丕賲賴贁 丕賲蹖丿貙 賵 氐賮丨賴鈥屫й� 賲賴賲 丕夭 丿賮鬲乇 亘賯丕亍 亘卮乇 亘丕卮丿."
March 11, 2012
I had to read this book twice before I realised its significance. It would be a huge mistake to think that this is simply a 1960's psychobabble book, understanding transactional analysis can really help you understand what other people mean, not just what they say. It's a book that should be read by anyone who has to deal with people on a day-to-day basis... and that's most of us.
February 5, 2022
4.5
禺丿丕 毓賲乇蹖 亘丿賴 亘乇爻蹖賲 亘乇丕 丕蹖賳丕 乇蹖賵蹖賵 亘賳賵蹖爻蹖賲 馃う馃徎鈥嶁檪锔徹�
禺丿丕 毓賲乇蹖 亘丿賴 亘乇爻蹖賲 亘乇丕 丕蹖賳丕 乇蹖賵蹖賵 亘賳賵蹖爻蹖賲 馃う馃徎鈥嶁檪锔徹�
July 11, 2012
My mom called me a hippy for reading this book, but it gave me a unique perspective on how to approach interpersonal relationships with everyone in my life. I learned lessons in the book that I use on a daily basis in parenting, being a husband, and working with others, nearly 15 years after reading it for the first time. If you half to ever talk to other humans, you should read it.
April 6, 2016
Lots of good information my favorites:
When in doubt leave it out (restrain first impulse)
Blaming your faults on your nature does not change the nature of your faults
If you do not chart a course, you will fall back in the same spot
Love is not glazing at each other, but looking outward together in the same direction
Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it
If you baby a baby when he's a baby you won't have to baby him the rest of his life
People attract not that which they want, but that which they are
A man is what he thinks about all day long
When in doubt leave it out (restrain first impulse)
Blaming your faults on your nature does not change the nature of your faults
If you do not chart a course, you will fall back in the same spot
Love is not glazing at each other, but looking outward together in the same direction
Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it
If you baby a baby when he's a baby you won't have to baby him the rest of his life
People attract not that which they want, but that which they are
A man is what he thinks about all day long
November 13, 2019
讴鬲丕亘 噩丕賱亘蹖 亘賵丿. 賳賵蹖爻賳丿賴 丕毓鬲賯丕丿 丿丕乇賴 亘乇 丕爻丕爻 賳馗乇蹖賴 鬲丨賱蹖賱 乇賮鬲丕乇 賲鬲賯丕亘賱 丕夭 乇賵丕賳卮賳丕爻 讴丕賳丕丿丕蹖蹖貙丕乇蹖讴 亘乇賳貙 賴乇 賮乇丿 乇賮鬲丕乇 賴丕卮賵 亘乇 丕爻丕爻 爻賴 噩夭 丿乇賵賳蹖 卮讴賱 賲蹖丿賴貨 賵丕賱丿: 讴爻蹖 讴賴 亘丕蹖丿 賵 賳亘丕蹖丿 賴丕 乇賵 丕賲乇 賵鈥屬嗁囒� 賲蹖讴賳丿. 讴賵丿讴: 賲爻卅賵賱 丕丨爻丕爻丕鬲 貙 賵 亘丕賱睾: 讴爻蹖 讴賴 賵丕賱丿 乇賵 賳賯丿 賵 讴賵丿讴 乇賵 賲賴丕乇 賲蹖讴賳賴. 丕賲丕 趩蹖夭蹖 讴賴 丕匕蹖鬲賲 賲蹖讴賳賴 丕蹖賳賴 讴賴 賳賵蹖爻賳丿賴 鬲丕 丨丿蹖 爻讴爻蹖爻鬲 毓賴. 賵 诏乇丕蹖卮 賴丕蹖 賲匕賴亘蹖 賵 讴賲蹖 鬲毓氐亘 丿乇 噩丕蹖 噩丕蹖 賲鬲賵賳 丿蹖丿賴 賲蹖卮賴 - 丿乇鈥� 賵賴賱賴 蹖 丕賵賱貙 丕睾賱亘 賲孬丕賱 賴丕蹖蹖 讴賴 丿乇 丕乇鬲亘丕胤 亘丕 丿毓賵丕蹖 夭賵噩蹖賳 賲蹖夭賳賴貙 丿乇 丕乇鬲亘丕胤 亘丕 囟毓賮 禺丕賳賴 丿丕乇蹖 賴丕蹖 禺丕賳賲賴. 倬蹖卮賳賴丕丿 賲蹖丿賴 亘賴 噩丕蹖 丕蹖賳讴賴 卮賵賴乇 丿毓賵丕 乇丕賴 亘賳丿丕夭賴 讴賴 丿乇亘丕夭讴賳 乇賵 讴噩丕 诏匕丕卮鬲蹖 蹖丕 賲蹖夭賵 趩乇丕 鬲賲蹖夭 賳讴乇丿蹖 蹖丕 賴夭丕乇 鬲丕 賲孬丕賱 丿蹖诏賴貙 賲爻丕賱賲鬲 丌賲蹖夭 鬲乇- 丿乇賵丕賯毓 鬲丨鬲 鬲爻賱胤 亘丕賱睾卮- 乇賮鬲丕乇 讴賳賴鈥�. 丿乇 丕蹖賳氐賵乇鬲 :
"賳鬲蹖噩賴 蹖 丕蹖賳 乇賮鬲丕乇 丕蹖賳 賲蹖鬲賵丕賳丿 亘丕卮丿 讴賴 賮乇丿丕 丕賵 -夭賳- 禺丕賳賴 乇丕 亘乇賯 亘蹖賳丿丕夭丿 賵 亘賴 賲丨囟 丕蹖賳讴賴 賲乇丿 亘賴 禺丕賳賴 丌賲丿貙 賴賲丕賳 丿賲 丿乇貙 蹖讴 賱蹖賵丕賳 賳賵卮蹖丿賳蹖 禺賳讴 賵 丿賱禺賵丕賴 賴賲爻乇卮 乇丕 鬲賯丿蹖賲 丕賵 讴賳丿 賵 亘賴 丕賵 亘賮賴賲丕賳丿 讴賴 丕賵 卮賵賴乇蹖 賲賴乇亘丕賳 賵 丨爻丕爻 丕爻鬲." - 丕夭 賲鬲賳 讴鬲丕亘-
蹖丕 丿乇 賲賵賯毓蹖鬲 丿蹖诏賴 丕蹖 讴賴 賲乇丿蹖 丿乇 蹖讴 倬丕乇鬲蹖貙 鬲丨鬲 鬲丕孬蹖乇 讴賵丿讴 丿乇賵賳貙 亘賴 夭賳蹖 丿爻鬲 丿乇丕夭蹖 讴賳丿貙 賵丕讴賳卮 芦亘丕賱睾丕賳賴禄 賵 丿乇爻鬲 夭賳 丕蹖賳 禺賵丕賴丿 亘賵丿 :
"賲丕丿乇賲 賴賲蹖卮賴 賲蹖诏賮鬲 讴賴 丌賳 胤乇賮 氐賵乇鬲鬲 乇丕 亘诏乇丿丕賳禄 [丕卮丕乇賴 亘賴 爻禺賳 賲爻蹖丨] 趩乇丕 讴賴 丕蹖賳 噩賲賱賴 倬蹖丕賲 賴丕蹖 夭蹖丕丿蹖 乇丕 亘賴 賲乇丿 賲蹖丿賴丿: 郾. 賲丕丿乇蹖 丿丕卮鬲賴 丕賲 讴賴 禺蹖賱蹖 趩蹖夭 賴丕 亘賴 賲賳 诏賮鬲賴 丕爻鬲. 鄄. 賲賳 讴鬲丕亘 賲賯丿爻 乇丕 禺賵丕賳丿賴 丕賲 賵 丕夭 丌賳噩賵乇 夭賳 賴丕 讴賴 鬲賵 賮讴乇 賲蹖讴賳蹖 賳蹖爻鬲賲. 鄢. 賱胤丕賮鬲 胤亘毓蹖 讴賴 夭賳 丿乇 诏賮鬲賴 丕卮 亘賴 讴丕乇 賲蹖亘乇丿 賳卮丕賳 賲蹖丿賴丿 讴賴 賲蹖鬲賵丕賳賲 卮賵禺蹖 鬲賵 乇丕 鬲丨賲賱 讴賳賲. "
- 丕夭 賲鬲賳 讴鬲丕亘-
丕賲丕 丕诏乇 亘禺賵丕蹖賲 毓賱鬲 丕蹖賳 賳诏丕賴 乇賵 亘乇乇爻蹖 讴賳蹖賲貙 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 賲丕賱 爻丕賱 郾酃鄱鄯 毓賴. 亘賳丕亘乇丕蹖賳 卮丕蹖丿 趩賳蹖賳 丿蹖丿诏丕賴 蹖丕 賲孬丕賱 賴丕蹖蹖 亘乇丕蹖 夭賲丕賳賴 蹖 禺賵丿卮貙 乇賵卮賳賮讴乇丕賳賴 賲丨爻賵亘 賲蹖卮丿賴. 賵 毓賱丕賵賴 亘乇 丕蹖賳 賳馗乇蹖賴 蹖 丕氐賱蹖 讴鬲丕亘 貙 鬲丨賱蹖賱 乇賮鬲丕乇 賲鬲賯丕亘賱貙 亘賴 禺賵丿蹖 禺賵丿 賳馗乇蹖賴 蹖 亘爻蹖丕乇 噩丕賱亘蹖 亘賵丿. 亘賳丕亘乇丕蹖賳 丕诏乇 爻賳爻賵乇賴丕蹖 囟丿鬲毓氐亘鬲賵賳 禺蹖賱蹖 丨爻丕爻 賳蹖爻鬲 賲蹖鬲賵賳蹖丿 丕夭 讴鬲丕亘 丕爻鬲賮丕丿賴 讴賳蹖丿 :)
"賳鬲蹖噩賴 蹖 丕蹖賳 乇賮鬲丕乇 丕蹖賳 賲蹖鬲賵丕賳丿 亘丕卮丿 讴賴 賮乇丿丕 丕賵 -夭賳- 禺丕賳賴 乇丕 亘乇賯 亘蹖賳丿丕夭丿 賵 亘賴 賲丨囟 丕蹖賳讴賴 賲乇丿 亘賴 禺丕賳賴 丌賲丿貙 賴賲丕賳 丿賲 丿乇貙 蹖讴 賱蹖賵丕賳 賳賵卮蹖丿賳蹖 禺賳讴 賵 丿賱禺賵丕賴 賴賲爻乇卮 乇丕 鬲賯丿蹖賲 丕賵 讴賳丿 賵 亘賴 丕賵 亘賮賴賲丕賳丿 讴賴 丕賵 卮賵賴乇蹖 賲賴乇亘丕賳 賵 丨爻丕爻 丕爻鬲." - 丕夭 賲鬲賳 讴鬲丕亘-
蹖丕 丿乇 賲賵賯毓蹖鬲 丿蹖诏賴 丕蹖 讴賴 賲乇丿蹖 丿乇 蹖讴 倬丕乇鬲蹖貙 鬲丨鬲 鬲丕孬蹖乇 讴賵丿讴 丿乇賵賳貙 亘賴 夭賳蹖 丿爻鬲 丿乇丕夭蹖 讴賳丿貙 賵丕讴賳卮 芦亘丕賱睾丕賳賴禄 賵 丿乇爻鬲 夭賳 丕蹖賳 禺賵丕賴丿 亘賵丿 :
"賲丕丿乇賲 賴賲蹖卮賴 賲蹖诏賮鬲 讴賴 丌賳 胤乇賮 氐賵乇鬲鬲 乇丕 亘诏乇丿丕賳禄 [丕卮丕乇賴 亘賴 爻禺賳 賲爻蹖丨] 趩乇丕 讴賴 丕蹖賳 噩賲賱賴 倬蹖丕賲 賴丕蹖 夭蹖丕丿蹖 乇丕 亘賴 賲乇丿 賲蹖丿賴丿: 郾. 賲丕丿乇蹖 丿丕卮鬲賴 丕賲 讴賴 禺蹖賱蹖 趩蹖夭 賴丕 亘賴 賲賳 诏賮鬲賴 丕爻鬲. 鄄. 賲賳 讴鬲丕亘 賲賯丿爻 乇丕 禺賵丕賳丿賴 丕賲 賵 丕夭 丌賳噩賵乇 夭賳 賴丕 讴賴 鬲賵 賮讴乇 賲蹖讴賳蹖 賳蹖爻鬲賲. 鄢. 賱胤丕賮鬲 胤亘毓蹖 讴賴 夭賳 丿乇 诏賮鬲賴 丕卮 亘賴 讴丕乇 賲蹖亘乇丿 賳卮丕賳 賲蹖丿賴丿 讴賴 賲蹖鬲賵丕賳賲 卮賵禺蹖 鬲賵 乇丕 鬲丨賲賱 讴賳賲. "
- 丕夭 賲鬲賳 讴鬲丕亘-
丕賲丕 丕诏乇 亘禺賵丕蹖賲 毓賱鬲 丕蹖賳 賳诏丕賴 乇賵 亘乇乇爻蹖 讴賳蹖賲貙 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 賲丕賱 爻丕賱 郾酃鄱鄯 毓賴. 亘賳丕亘乇丕蹖賳 卮丕蹖丿 趩賳蹖賳 丿蹖丿诏丕賴 蹖丕 賲孬丕賱 賴丕蹖蹖 亘乇丕蹖 夭賲丕賳賴 蹖 禺賵丿卮貙 乇賵卮賳賮讴乇丕賳賴 賲丨爻賵亘 賲蹖卮丿賴. 賵 毓賱丕賵賴 亘乇 丕蹖賳 賳馗乇蹖賴 蹖 丕氐賱蹖 讴鬲丕亘 貙 鬲丨賱蹖賱 乇賮鬲丕乇 賲鬲賯丕亘賱貙 亘賴 禺賵丿蹖 禺賵丿 賳馗乇蹖賴 蹖 亘爻蹖丕乇 噩丕賱亘蹖 亘賵丿. 亘賳丕亘乇丕蹖賳 丕诏乇 爻賳爻賵乇賴丕蹖 囟丿鬲毓氐亘鬲賵賳 禺蹖賱蹖 丨爻丕爻 賳蹖爻鬲 賲蹖鬲賵賳蹖丿 丕夭 讴鬲丕亘 丕爻鬲賮丕丿賴 讴賳蹖丿 :)
January 9, 2013
History has not been kind to I'm Okay-You're Okay: Inter-racial marriages and pre-marital sex are not quite the taboo subjects they used to be and it's been a while since I saw the word "retards" used seriously. Indeed, the world Harris portrays seems straight out of Leave it to Beaver, which cements the whole feel of the book in the time and place it was written.
But there is much to learn here on the topic of transactional analysis and the P-A-C (parent, adult and child) within us all. Particularly as Harris moves from theory to practice with fluid ease giving the reader a fly-on-the-wall perspective of the interactions with his patients while reinforcing the conceptual tools. I found this the most appealing aspect of the book; just like Harris's patients, there were times when I felt as though I had had enough of P-A-C. But like he accomplished with his patients, Harris won me round, too, in the end.
Harris has a tendency to waffle on and go off on tangents, but I did find enough nuggets of wisdom to stick with him (though, the philosophical explorations did stretch my patience somewhat). While I'm not a convert to transactional analysis, I'm glad I got to know of it, and I just might start paying more attention to my own P-A-C.
But there is much to learn here on the topic of transactional analysis and the P-A-C (parent, adult and child) within us all. Particularly as Harris moves from theory to practice with fluid ease giving the reader a fly-on-the-wall perspective of the interactions with his patients while reinforcing the conceptual tools. I found this the most appealing aspect of the book; just like Harris's patients, there were times when I felt as though I had had enough of P-A-C. But like he accomplished with his patients, Harris won me round, too, in the end.
Harris has a tendency to waffle on and go off on tangents, but I did find enough nuggets of wisdom to stick with him (though, the philosophical explorations did stretch my patience somewhat). While I'm not a convert to transactional analysis, I'm glad I got to know of it, and I just might start paying more attention to my own P-A-C.
June 15, 2021
讴鬲丕亘 賲賵乇丿 蹖賴 賳馗乇蹖賴 丿乇 乇賵丕賳卮賳丕爻蹖 亘賴 賳丕賲 "鬲丨賱蹖賱 乇賮鬲丕乇 賲鬲賯丕亘賱" 蹖丕 Transactional analysis 氐丨亘鬲 賲蹖 讴賳賴 讴賴 丕蹖賳 丌賯丕蹖 鬲賵賲丕爻 賴乇蹖爻 丕夭 卮丕乇丨蹖賳卮 賴爻鬲. 賳馗乇蹖賴 亘爻蹖丕乇 噩丕賱亘蹖 賴爻鬲貙 賮乇丕蹖 丕蹖賳讴賴 趩賯丿乇 丿乇 倬乇賵爻賴 丿乇賲丕賳 賲蹖鬲賵賳賴 賲賵孬乇 亘丕卮賴 (讴賴 亘丕 爻乇趩 丿賲 丿爻鬲蹖 讴賴 讴乇丿賲 賲鬲賵噩賴 卮丿賲 賲賮賴賵賲 賲賳賯乇囟 卮丿賴 丕蹖 賳蹖爻鬲 賵 賴賳賵夭賲 讴丕乇亘乇丿 賴丕蹖 禺丕氐 禺賵丿卮賵 丿丕乇賴)貙 丿乇 夭賳丿诏蹖 卮禺氐蹖 賲蹖 鬲賵賳賴 讴賲讴 讴賳賳丿賴 亘丕卮賴. 讴賱蹖 诏賵蹖蹖 趩乇丕貙 賵丕爻賴 賲賳 讴賴 亘賵丿. 丕蹖賳 賳馗乇蹖賴 賲蹖丕丿 丕蹖诏賵蹖 賮乇賵蹖丿 乇賵 亘賴 鄢 亘禺卮 鬲賯爻蹖賲 賲蹖 讴賳賴 : 賵丕賱丿貙 亘丕賱睾貙 讴賵丿讴
賵丕賱丿 賴賲賵賳胤賵乇 讴賴 丕夭 丕爻賲卮 倬蹖丿丕爻鬲貙 賲噩賲賵毓賴 賮乇丕賲蹖賳 賵 亘讴賳鈥屸€屬嗂┵� 賴丕蹖蹖 賴爻鬲 讴賴 丕夭 賵丕賱丿蹖賳 鬲賵蹖 丕蹖诏賵蹖 賲丕 胤蹖 爻丕賱 賴丕蹖 丕賵賱 夭賳丿诏蹖 卮讴賱 賲蹖诏蹖乇賴.
讴賵丿讴 丕賵賳 賵丕讴賳卮 賴丕 賵 丕丨爻丕爻丕鬲鈥� 賲丕 亘賴 賮乇丕賲蹖賳 賵 亘讴賳鈥屬嗂┵� 賴丕爻鬲.
賵 亘丕賱睾 噩賱賵鬲乇 丿乇 夭賳丿诏蹖 鬲卮讴蹖賱 賲蹖卮賴 賵 亘賴 賳賵毓蹖 賴賲賵賳 賯賵賴 鬲賮讴乇 賲丕爻鬲 賵 丕賵賳 趩蹖夭蹖 賴爻鬲 讴賴 亘丕 亘乇乇爻蹖 毓賯賱丕賳蹖 賲爻丕卅賱 丕夭 讴賵丿讴蹖 丿丕乇蹖賲 卮讴賱卮 賲蹖 丿蹖賲.
禺賱丕氐賴 讴賴貙 丕蹖诏賵蹖 賲丕 夭賲蹖賳 賽 亘丕夭蹖 丕蹖賳 爻賴 亘禺卮 賴爻鬲 賵 乇賮鬲丕乇 賲丕 乇賵 丕蹖賳 爻賴 亘禺卮 丿丕乇賳 鬲卮讴蹖賱 賲蹖 丿賳.
讴鬲丕亘 丕夭 丕賵賱鈥� 賲蹖禺賵丕丿 讴賴 丕蹖賳 賳馗乇蹖賴 乇賵 鬲賵囟蹖丨 亘丿賴 賵 亘毓丿卮 讴丕乇亘乇丿卮 乇賵 丿乇 夭賳丿诏蹖 賵 乇賵丕亘胤 賮乇丿蹖 賳卮賵賳 亘丿賴.
鬲賱丕卮 賴丕蹖蹖 賴賲 丌賯丕蹖 賴乇蹖爻 丿丕乇賴 賵丕爻賴 诏爻鬲乇卮 丕蹖賳 賳馗乇蹖賴 亘賴 丿乇賲丕賳 "賴賲賴" 亘蹖賲丕乇蹖 賴丕蹖 乇賵丕賳 ! 賵 丨鬲蹖 氐賱丨 噩賴丕賳蹖 ! 讴賴 丕蹖賳 亘禺卮 賴丕 乇賵 賲蹖卮賴 亘賴 匕賵賯 賵 卮賵賯卮 丕夭 丕蹖賳 賳馗乇蹖賴 噩丿蹖丿 亘禺卮蹖丿.
賴賲趩賳蹖賳 賳诏丕賴 賲爻蹖丨蹖 賵 賳爻亘鬲丕 囟丿夭賳 讴鬲丕亘 賴賲 丌夭丕乇丿賴賳丿賴 丕爻鬲. 卮丕蹖丿 丕蹖賳 乇賵 賴賲 亘卮賴 亘賴 夭賲丕賳賴鈥屫ж� 亘禺卮蹖丿.
賳讴鬲賴 丌禺乇 丕蹖賳讴賴 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘貙 蹖賴 讴鬲丕亘 賽 夭乇丿 丿賴賴 鄯郯 賲蹖賱丕丿蹖 賴爻鬲. 賵丕賯毓丕 丌丿賲 睾氐賴 丕卮 賲蹖诏蹖乇賴 讴賴 趩胤賵乇 丕夭 趩賳蹖賳 夭乇丿 賴丕蹖蹖 乇爻蹖丿蹖賲 亘賴 "賴賳乇 馗乇蹖賮 賮賱丕賳" 賵 賯賵乇亘丕睾賴 丕鬲 乇丕 賯賵乇鬲 亘丿賴 賵 ...
賵丕賱丿 賴賲賵賳胤賵乇 讴賴 丕夭 丕爻賲卮 倬蹖丿丕爻鬲貙 賲噩賲賵毓賴 賮乇丕賲蹖賳 賵 亘讴賳鈥屸€屬嗂┵� 賴丕蹖蹖 賴爻鬲 讴賴 丕夭 賵丕賱丿蹖賳 鬲賵蹖 丕蹖诏賵蹖 賲丕 胤蹖 爻丕賱 賴丕蹖 丕賵賱 夭賳丿诏蹖 卮讴賱 賲蹖诏蹖乇賴.
讴賵丿讴 丕賵賳 賵丕讴賳卮 賴丕 賵 丕丨爻丕爻丕鬲鈥� 賲丕 亘賴 賮乇丕賲蹖賳 賵 亘讴賳鈥屬嗂┵� 賴丕爻鬲.
賵 亘丕賱睾 噩賱賵鬲乇 丿乇 夭賳丿诏蹖 鬲卮讴蹖賱 賲蹖卮賴 賵 亘賴 賳賵毓蹖 賴賲賵賳 賯賵賴 鬲賮讴乇 賲丕爻鬲 賵 丕賵賳 趩蹖夭蹖 賴爻鬲 讴賴 亘丕 亘乇乇爻蹖 毓賯賱丕賳蹖 賲爻丕卅賱 丕夭 讴賵丿讴蹖 丿丕乇蹖賲 卮讴賱卮 賲蹖 丿蹖賲.
禺賱丕氐賴 讴賴貙 丕蹖诏賵蹖 賲丕 夭賲蹖賳 賽 亘丕夭蹖 丕蹖賳 爻賴 亘禺卮 賴爻鬲 賵 乇賮鬲丕乇 賲丕 乇賵 丕蹖賳 爻賴 亘禺卮 丿丕乇賳 鬲卮讴蹖賱 賲蹖 丿賳.
讴鬲丕亘 丕夭 丕賵賱鈥� 賲蹖禺賵丕丿 讴賴 丕蹖賳 賳馗乇蹖賴 乇賵 鬲賵囟蹖丨 亘丿賴 賵 亘毓丿卮 讴丕乇亘乇丿卮 乇賵 丿乇 夭賳丿诏蹖 賵 乇賵丕亘胤 賮乇丿蹖 賳卮賵賳 亘丿賴.
鬲賱丕卮 賴丕蹖蹖 賴賲 丌賯丕蹖 賴乇蹖爻 丿丕乇賴 賵丕爻賴 诏爻鬲乇卮 丕蹖賳 賳馗乇蹖賴 亘賴 丿乇賲丕賳 "賴賲賴" 亘蹖賲丕乇蹖 賴丕蹖 乇賵丕賳 ! 賵 丨鬲蹖 氐賱丨 噩賴丕賳蹖 ! 讴賴 丕蹖賳 亘禺卮 賴丕 乇賵 賲蹖卮賴 亘賴 匕賵賯 賵 卮賵賯卮 丕夭 丕蹖賳 賳馗乇蹖賴 噩丿蹖丿 亘禺卮蹖丿.
賴賲趩賳蹖賳 賳诏丕賴 賲爻蹖丨蹖 賵 賳爻亘鬲丕 囟丿夭賳 讴鬲丕亘 賴賲 丌夭丕乇丿賴賳丿賴 丕爻鬲. 卮丕蹖丿 丕蹖賳 乇賵 賴賲 亘卮賴 亘賴 夭賲丕賳賴鈥屫ж� 亘禺卮蹖丿.
賳讴鬲賴 丌禺乇 丕蹖賳讴賴 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘貙 蹖賴 讴鬲丕亘 賽 夭乇丿 丿賴賴 鄯郯 賲蹖賱丕丿蹖 賴爻鬲. 賵丕賯毓丕 丌丿賲 睾氐賴 丕卮 賲蹖诏蹖乇賴 讴賴 趩胤賵乇 丕夭 趩賳蹖賳 夭乇丿 賴丕蹖蹖 乇爻蹖丿蹖賲 亘賴 "賴賳乇 馗乇蹖賮 賮賱丕賳" 賵 賯賵乇亘丕睾賴 丕鬲 乇丕 賯賵乇鬲 亘丿賴 賵 ...
September 20, 2021
丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘貙 丕诏乇 賳賴 亘賴鬲乇蹖賳 丕賲丕 賯胤毓丕賸 賲賮蹖丿鬲乇蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘蹖賴 讴賴 亘賴鈥屫官呚辟� 禺賵賳丿賴鈥屬� 賵 丿乇 乇丕亘胤賴 亘丕 禺賵丿賲貙 丕賳爻丕賳鈥� 賵 丕卮禺丕氐貙 噩丕蹖蹖 賳蹖爻鬲 讴賴 賲胤丕賱亘卮 亘賴 讴丕乇賲 賳蹖丕賳. 讴丕卮 賴賲賴 亘禺賵賳賳卮 鬲丕 亘鬲賵賳蹖賲 亘賴 夭亘丕賳蹖 讴賴 丿乇 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 蹖丕丿 丿丕丿賴 賲蹖鈥屫促囏� 氐丨亘鬲 讴賳蹖賲.
September 23, 2008
丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 亘賴 賳賵毓蹖 毓氐丕乇賴 賲卮乇亘 乇賵丕賳卮賳丕爻蹖 賲毓丕氐乇 丌賲乇蹖讴丕爻鬲 讴賴 丿乇 鬲賯丕亘賱 噩丿蹖 亘丕 賲讴鬲亘 丕乇賵倬丕蹖蹖 賱讴丕賳 賯乇丕乇 丿丕乇丿.
鬲丕賲爻 賴乇蹖爻 亘丕 賲丨賵乇 賯乇丕乇 丿丕丿賳 毓賱賵賲 乇賮鬲丕乇蹖 亘賴 鬲丨賱蹖賱 乇賮鬲丕乇 丌丿賲蹖 丿爻鬲 賲蹖 夭賳丿 賵 鬲賯爻蹖賲 亘賳丿蹖 丕賵 卮丕賲賱 讴賵丿讴-亘丕賱睾 -賵丕賱丿 丕爻鬲 讴賴 亘賴 夭毓賲 賳賵蹖爻賳丿賴貙 毓賱蹖 夭睾賲 卮亘丕賴鬲 亘賴 鬲賯爻蹖賲 亘賳丿蹖 賲卮賴賵乇 賮乇賵蹖丿 (賳賴丕丿-賲賳-賮乇丕 賲賳) 亘丕 丌賳 賲鬲賮丕賵鬲 丕爻鬲.
丕夭 噩賲賱賴 亘乇噩爻鬲诏蹖 賴丕蹖 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘貙 讴丕乇亘乇丿 丌賳 亘乇丕蹖 丕爻鬲賮丕丿賴 丿乇 丕丿亘蹖丕鬲 賳賲丕蹖卮蹖 丕爻鬲貙 趩賳丕賳讴賴 丕亘乇丕賴蹖賲 賲讴蹖 丿乇 讴鬲丕亘 "卮賳丕禺鬲 毓賵丕賲賱 賳賲丕蹖卮" 禺賵丕賳丿賳 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 乇丕 亘賴 毓賳賵丕賳 倬丕蹖賴 丕蹖 亘乇丕蹖 鬲丨賱蹖賱 乇賮鬲丕乇 賴丕蹖 丕賳爻丕賳 賵 丿乇 賳鬲蹖噩賴 丿乇丕賲貙 鬲賵氐蹖賴 讴乇丿賴 丕爻鬲.
鬲丕賲爻 賴乇蹖爻 亘丕 賲丨賵乇 賯乇丕乇 丿丕丿賳 毓賱賵賲 乇賮鬲丕乇蹖 亘賴 鬲丨賱蹖賱 乇賮鬲丕乇 丌丿賲蹖 丿爻鬲 賲蹖 夭賳丿 賵 鬲賯爻蹖賲 亘賳丿蹖 丕賵 卮丕賲賱 讴賵丿讴-亘丕賱睾 -賵丕賱丿 丕爻鬲 讴賴 亘賴 夭毓賲 賳賵蹖爻賳丿賴貙 毓賱蹖 夭睾賲 卮亘丕賴鬲 亘賴 鬲賯爻蹖賲 亘賳丿蹖 賲卮賴賵乇 賮乇賵蹖丿 (賳賴丕丿-賲賳-賮乇丕 賲賳) 亘丕 丌賳 賲鬲賮丕賵鬲 丕爻鬲.
丕夭 噩賲賱賴 亘乇噩爻鬲诏蹖 賴丕蹖 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘貙 讴丕乇亘乇丿 丌賳 亘乇丕蹖 丕爻鬲賮丕丿賴 丿乇 丕丿亘蹖丕鬲 賳賲丕蹖卮蹖 丕爻鬲貙 趩賳丕賳讴賴 丕亘乇丕賴蹖賲 賲讴蹖 丿乇 讴鬲丕亘 "卮賳丕禺鬲 毓賵丕賲賱 賳賲丕蹖卮" 禺賵丕賳丿賳 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 乇丕 亘賴 毓賳賵丕賳 倬丕蹖賴 丕蹖 亘乇丕蹖 鬲丨賱蹖賱 乇賮鬲丕乇 賴丕蹖 丕賳爻丕賳 賵 丿乇 賳鬲蹖噩賴 丿乇丕賲貙 鬲賵氐蹖賴 讴乇丿賴 丕爻鬲.
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September 24, 2010賲賳 賴蹖趩 賵賯鬲 丿賵爻鬲 賳丿丕卮鬲賲 賵 賳丿丕乇賲 讴賴 讴爻蹖 亘乇丕蹖賲 賲毓賱賲 亘丕卮丿 賵 賲毓賱賲鈥屫ㄘж槽� 丿乇 亘蹖丕賵乇丿. 賴賲蹖卮賴 丕夭 賳氐蹖丨鬲 賲鬲賳賮乇 亘賵丿賲. 亘賴 賴賲蹖賳 禺丕胤乇 賳賴 丕夭 讴爻蹖 賳氐蹖丨鬲 賲蹖鈥屫促嗁堎� 賵 賳賴 亘賴 讴爻蹖 賳氐蹖丨鬲 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗁�. 丿賵乇賴鈥屰� 丕蹖賳 丨乇賮鈥屬囏� 诏匕卮鬲賴 丕爻鬲 丿蹖诏乇
蹖丕丿賲 賲蹖鈥屫й屫� 趩賳丿 賵賯鬲 倬蹖卮 亘丕 蹖讴蹖 丕夭 丿賵爻鬲丕賳 氐丨亘鬲 賲蹖鈥屭┴必�. 賲蹖鈥屭佖� : 賲賳 賴乇 賵賯鬲 亘賴 讴爻蹖 讴鬲丕亘 賴丿蹖賴 賲蹖鈥屫囐� 亘乇丕蹖卮 亘賴 毓賳賵丕賳 鬲賯丿蹖賲 賳丕賲賴 蹖讴 噩賲賱賴鈥屰� 賯氐丕乇 蹖丕 鬲讴丕賳鈥屫囐嗀� 蹖丕 爻賳诏蹖賳 賲蹖鈥屬嗁堐屫迟�. 亘賴卮 诏賮鬲賲 賲賳 賲鬲賳賮乇賲 丕夭 丕蹖賳 讴賴 讴爻蹖 讴鬲丕亘蹖 亘賴 賲賳 賴丿蹖賴 亘丿賴丿 讴賴 亘賴 毓賳賵丕賳 鬲賯丿蹖賲鈥屬嗀з呝� 亘乇丕蹖賲 噩賲賱賴鈥屰� 賯氐丕乇 亘賳賵蹖爻丿 賵 丕夭 丕蹖賳 鬲蹖倬 丨乇賮鈥屬囏�. 賲孬賱 亘趩賴鈥屫ж� 蹖賴 鬲賯丿蹖賲 賳丕賲賴 賯卮賳诏貙 卮毓乇蹖貙 丕丨鬲乇丕賲蹖 賵 蹖丕 丕賲囟丕蹖蹖 乇丕 亘賴 賴夭丕乇丕賳 丨乇賮 賵 爻禺賳 賮蹖賱爻賵賮丕賳賴 賵 賯氐丕乇
卮賲丕 鬲氐賵乇 讴賳蹖丿 讴賴 賲賳 毓丕卮賯 讴鬲丕亘 賴爻鬲賲 賵 毓丕卮賯 丕蹖賳 讴賴 讴鬲丕亘 賴丿蹖賴 亘诏蹖乇賲 賵 賲鬲丕爻賮丕賳賴 讴賲鈥屫臂屬� 趩蹖夭蹖 讴賴 賴丿蹖賴 賲蹖鈥屭屫辟� 讴鬲丕亘 丕爻鬲 趩賵賳 賴賲賴 丿賵爻鬲丕賳 賵 丌卮賳丕蹖丕賳 賳賲蹖鈥屫з嗁嗀� 趩賴 讴鬲丕亘蹖 乇丕 亘乇丕蹖賲 亘诏蹖乇賳丿 讴賴 賳丿丕卮鬲賴 亘丕卮賲 賵 賴賲蹖卮賴 诏賮鬲賲 亘乇丕蹖賲 讴鬲丕亘 賴丿蹖賴 亘诏蹖乇蹖丿 丨鬲蹖 丕诏乇 丿丕卮鬲賴 亘丕卮賲 讴鬲丕亘 賯亘賱蹖 禺賵丿賲 乇丕 亘賴 丿蹖诏乇丕賳 賴丿蹖賴 賲蹖鈥屫囐� 鬲丕 丕賳乇跇蹖鈥屫ж� 亘趩乇禺丿 賵 亘毓丿 丕夭 賲丿鬲鈥屬囏� 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 禺賵亘 乇丕 賴丿蹖賴 賲蹖鈥屭屫辟� 賵 亘賴 毓賳賵丕賳 鬲賯丿蹖賲鈥屬嗀з呝� 蹖讴 噩賲賱賴 丕夭 丌賳 丿爻鬲 噩賲賱丕鬲蹖 讴賴 丕夭 丌賳 賲鬲賳賮乇賲 丕亘鬲丿丕蹖 讴鬲丕亘 亘乇丕蹖賲 賳賵卮鬲賴鈥屫з嗀� 賵 讴鬲丕亘蹖 亘賴 丕蹖賳 禺賵亘蹖 賵 賲賮蹖丿 乇丕 亘乇丕蹖賲 鬲亘丿蹖賱 亘賴 讴鬲丕亘蹖 賲蹖鈥屭┵嗀� 讴賴 丨爻 禺賵亘蹖 賳爻亘鬲 亘賴 丌賳 賳丿丕乇賲. 趩乇丕 丕讴孬乇 賲丕 丿賵爻鬲 丿丕乇蹖賲 賲毓賱賲鈥屫ㄘж槽� 丿乇 亘蹖丕賵乇蹖賲 賵 丿蹖诏乇丕賳 乇丕 卮丕诏乇丿 賵 亘趩賴 賮乇囟 讴賳蹖賲責 賳賲蹖鈥屫з嗁�. 卮丕蹖丿 丕蹖賳 蹖讴蹖 丕夭 禺氐丕蹖賱 丕賳爻丕賳 丕爻鬲. 賳賲蹖鈥屫з嗁�
February 26, 2018
鬲毓乇蹖賮 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 乇賵 亘爻蹖丕乇 卮賳蹖丿賴 亘賵丿賲 賵 禺蹖賱蹖 禺賵卮丨丕賱賲 讴賴 亘丕賱丕禺乇賴 禺賵賳丿賲卮.
亘賳馗乇賲 丿乇讴 賲賮丕賴蹖賲 賵丕賱丿貙讴賵丿讴 賵 亘丕賱睾 丿乇 賴乇 賮乇丿 禺蹖賱蹖 賲蹖鬲賵賳賴 亘賴 禺賵丿卮 賵 乇賵丕亘胤卮 亘丕 丕胤乇丕賮蹖丕賳卮 讴賲讴 讴賳賴
丕賱亘鬲賴 丨爻 賲蹖讴賳賲 賴賲賲賵賳 蹖丕 亘丕 賮讴乇 賵 丕乇丕丿賴 禺賵丿賲賵賳 蹖丕 亘賴 賵丕爻胤賴 蹖 鬲毓丕乇蹖賮 賲卮丕亘賴蹖 亘丕 丕蹖賳 賲賮丕賴蹖賲 丌卮賳丕蹖蹖賲 賵賱蹖 夭亘丕賳 "賵丕賱丿貙讴賵丿讴貙亘丕賱睾" 丕賳賯丿乇 夭亘丕賳 爻丕丿賴 丕蹖 賴爻鬲 讴賴 丿乇 丕讴孬乇 卮乇丕蹖胤 亘卮賴 丕爻鬲賮丕丿賴 卮 讴乇丿 賵 亘丕 鬲毓丕乇蹖賮 爻禺鬲 鬲乇 賲爻卅賱賴 乇賵 倬蹖趩蹖丿賴 賳讴乇丿.
丕鬲賮丕賯蹖 讴賴 亘毓丿 丕夭 禺賵賳丿賳 讴鬲丕亘 丕賮鬲丕丿 丕蹖賳賴 讴賴 賲賳 鬲賲丕賲 賲讴丕賱賲丕鬲 丕胤乇丕賮賲 乇賵 丨丕賱丕 亘丕 夭亘丕賳 噩丿蹖丿蹖 讴賴 蹖丕丿 诏乇賮鬲賲 鬲丨賱蹖賱 賲蹖讴賳賲 賵 氐丿丕蹖 讴賵丿讴 賴丕 賵 賵丕賱丿 賴丕 乇賵 亘蹖卮 丕夭 趩蹖夭蹖 讴賴 丕賳鬲馗丕乇 丿丕卮鬲賲 丿丕乇賲 丕胤乇丕賮賲 賲蹖 卮賳賵賲. 胤賵乇蹖 讴賴 丨爻 賲蹖讴賳賲 亘丕賱睾 丕讴孬乇 丕胤乇丕賮蹖丕賳賲賵賳 蹖丕 禺蹖賱蹖 讴賲 賮毓丕賱蹖鬲 賲蹖讴賳賴 賵 賯丿賲 噩賱賵 賲蹖匕丕乇賴 蹖丕 讴賱丕 賮毓丕賱蹖鬲鬲 禺丕氐蹖 賳賲蹖 讴賳賴!!
賲賵乇丿 亘丿鬲乇 丕蹖賳讴賴 讴賵丿讴蹖 讴賴 丿乇 卮禺氐蹖鬲 賴丕 亘乇賵夭 賲蹖讴賳賴 乇賵 丕賳鬲馗丕乇 丿丕卮鬲賲 亘賴 氐賵乇鬲 趩賴乇賴 賴丕蹖 卮丕丿 賵 賲讴丕賱賲賴 賴丕蹖 禺賵卮丨丕賱 亘亘蹖賳賲 賵賱蹖 亘蹖卮鬲乇蹖賳 賮乇賲 亘乇賵夭 讴賵丿讴 乇賵 丿乇 禺卮賲 賵 鬲乇爻 賵 诏賳丕賴 丿蹖丿賲.
丕賱亘鬲賴 賲卮丕賴丿丕鬲 賲賳 趩蹖夭蹖 賳蹖爻鬲 讴賴 亘卮賴 亘賴 毓賳賵丕賳 丿丕丿賴 丌賲丕乇蹖 亘賴卮 乇噩賵毓 讴乇丿 賵賱蹖 卮禺氐丕 亘乇丕賲 毓噩蹖亘 亘賵丿 讴賴 亘蹖卮鬲乇 丨丕賱鬲 賴丕蹖 亘丿 賵 賳丕賲胤賱賵亘 乇賵 丕胤乇丕賮賲 倬蹖丿丕 讴乇丿賲 鬲丕 丨丕賱鬲 賴丕蹖 禺賵亘
讴鬲丕亘 禺賵亘蹖賴 賵 禺賵賳丿賳卮 乇賵 鬲賵氐蹖賴 賲蹖讴賳賲. 卮丕蹖丿 丿乇 丕賲鬲丿丕丿 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 丿蹖诏賴 丕蹖 亘賴 賳丕賲 "亘丕夭蹖 賴丕 乇賵 亘禺賵賳賲.
亘賳馗乇賲 丿乇讴 賲賮丕賴蹖賲 賵丕賱丿貙讴賵丿讴 賵 亘丕賱睾 丿乇 賴乇 賮乇丿 禺蹖賱蹖 賲蹖鬲賵賳賴 亘賴 禺賵丿卮 賵 乇賵丕亘胤卮 亘丕 丕胤乇丕賮蹖丕賳卮 讴賲讴 讴賳賴
丕賱亘鬲賴 丨爻 賲蹖讴賳賲 賴賲賲賵賳 蹖丕 亘丕 賮讴乇 賵 丕乇丕丿賴 禺賵丿賲賵賳 蹖丕 亘賴 賵丕爻胤賴 蹖 鬲毓丕乇蹖賮 賲卮丕亘賴蹖 亘丕 丕蹖賳 賲賮丕賴蹖賲 丌卮賳丕蹖蹖賲 賵賱蹖 夭亘丕賳 "賵丕賱丿貙讴賵丿讴貙亘丕賱睾" 丕賳賯丿乇 夭亘丕賳 爻丕丿賴 丕蹖 賴爻鬲 讴賴 丿乇 丕讴孬乇 卮乇丕蹖胤 亘卮賴 丕爻鬲賮丕丿賴 卮 讴乇丿 賵 亘丕 鬲毓丕乇蹖賮 爻禺鬲 鬲乇 賲爻卅賱賴 乇賵 倬蹖趩蹖丿賴 賳讴乇丿.
丕鬲賮丕賯蹖 讴賴 亘毓丿 丕夭 禺賵賳丿賳 讴鬲丕亘 丕賮鬲丕丿 丕蹖賳賴 讴賴 賲賳 鬲賲丕賲 賲讴丕賱賲丕鬲 丕胤乇丕賮賲 乇賵 丨丕賱丕 亘丕 夭亘丕賳 噩丿蹖丿蹖 讴賴 蹖丕丿 诏乇賮鬲賲 鬲丨賱蹖賱 賲蹖讴賳賲 賵 氐丿丕蹖 讴賵丿讴 賴丕 賵 賵丕賱丿 賴丕 乇賵 亘蹖卮 丕夭 趩蹖夭蹖 讴賴 丕賳鬲馗丕乇 丿丕卮鬲賲 丿丕乇賲 丕胤乇丕賮賲 賲蹖 卮賳賵賲. 胤賵乇蹖 讴賴 丨爻 賲蹖讴賳賲 亘丕賱睾 丕讴孬乇 丕胤乇丕賮蹖丕賳賲賵賳 蹖丕 禺蹖賱蹖 讴賲 賮毓丕賱蹖鬲 賲蹖讴賳賴 賵 賯丿賲 噩賱賵 賲蹖匕丕乇賴 蹖丕 讴賱丕 賮毓丕賱蹖鬲鬲 禺丕氐蹖 賳賲蹖 讴賳賴!!
賲賵乇丿 亘丿鬲乇 丕蹖賳讴賴 讴賵丿讴蹖 讴賴 丿乇 卮禺氐蹖鬲 賴丕 亘乇賵夭 賲蹖讴賳賴 乇賵 丕賳鬲馗丕乇 丿丕卮鬲賲 亘賴 氐賵乇鬲 趩賴乇賴 賴丕蹖 卮丕丿 賵 賲讴丕賱賲賴 賴丕蹖 禺賵卮丨丕賱 亘亘蹖賳賲 賵賱蹖 亘蹖卮鬲乇蹖賳 賮乇賲 亘乇賵夭 讴賵丿讴 乇賵 丿乇 禺卮賲 賵 鬲乇爻 賵 诏賳丕賴 丿蹖丿賲.
丕賱亘鬲賴 賲卮丕賴丿丕鬲 賲賳 趩蹖夭蹖 賳蹖爻鬲 讴賴 亘卮賴 亘賴 毓賳賵丕賳 丿丕丿賴 丌賲丕乇蹖 亘賴卮 乇噩賵毓 讴乇丿 賵賱蹖 卮禺氐丕 亘乇丕賲 毓噩蹖亘 亘賵丿 讴賴 亘蹖卮鬲乇 丨丕賱鬲 賴丕蹖 亘丿 賵 賳丕賲胤賱賵亘 乇賵 丕胤乇丕賮賲 倬蹖丿丕 讴乇丿賲 鬲丕 丨丕賱鬲 賴丕蹖 禺賵亘
讴鬲丕亘 禺賵亘蹖賴 賵 禺賵賳丿賳卮 乇賵 鬲賵氐蹖賴 賲蹖讴賳賲. 卮丕蹖丿 丿乇 丕賲鬲丿丕丿 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 丿蹖诏賴 丕蹖 亘賴 賳丕賲 "亘丕夭蹖 賴丕 乇賵 亘禺賵賳賲.
April 16, 2011
I'm still trying to figure out why a psychiatrist thought this was a good book to give a deeply depressed 12-year-old.
December 18, 2019
"Another thing that makes people want to change is a slow type of despair called ennui, or boredom. This is what the person has who goes through life saying, "So what?" until he finally asks the ultimate big "So What?" He is ready to change".
Thomas A. Harris, I'm OK - You're OK
It was really a terrific book. I read it a long time ago so details are fuzzy but I loved it. I still remember the four different modes and check myself sometimes. At times I think I have been in them all.
This is a book for people who like Psychology and like reading about it and reading about the human mind. Four modes:
"I'm OK, your not OK"
"I'm not OK, your OK"
"I'm not OK, Your not OK"
"I'm OK, Your OK".
The last one is what he attempts to get us to.
Well at least I remember that much! This book seriously needs a reread which I fully intend to do. Highly recommended but it's "OK" if the book is not for you!
Thomas A. Harris, I'm OK - You're OK
It was really a terrific book. I read it a long time ago so details are fuzzy but I loved it. I still remember the four different modes and check myself sometimes. At times I think I have been in them all.
This is a book for people who like Psychology and like reading about it and reading about the human mind. Four modes:
"I'm OK, your not OK"
"I'm not OK, your OK"
"I'm not OK, Your not OK"
"I'm OK, Your OK".
The last one is what he attempts to get us to.
Well at least I remember that much! This book seriously needs a reread which I fully intend to do. Highly recommended but it's "OK" if the book is not for you!
February 22, 2022
賯胤毓丕賸 賵 丨鬲賲丕賸 蹖讴蹖 丕夭 亘賴鬲乇蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘鈥屬囏й� 乇賵丕賳鈥屫促嗀ж驰屸€屫й� 亘賵丿 讴賴 鬲丕 亘賴鈥屫з� 禺賵丕賳丿賲. 亘丕 鬲賵噩賴 亘賴鈥屫官傐屫団€屰� 賵丕賲鈥屭辟佖団€屫簇団€屫з� 丕夭 賮乇賵蹖丿 賲亘賳蹖 亘乇 夭賳丿丕賳蹖 丕賳爻丕賳 丿乇 讴賵丿讴蹖 禺賵蹖卮貙 禺賵丕賳丿賳 讴鬲丕亘鈥屬囏� 賵 賲賯丕賱丕鬲蹖 讴賴 亘賴 丕蹖賳 賲賵囟賵毓 禺丕氐 亘倬乇丿丕夭丿貙 亘乇丕蹖賲 噩匕丕亘 賵 趩丕賱卮 亘乇丕賳诏蹖夭 丕爻鬲. 丕賱亘鬲賴貙 卮丕蹖丕賳 匕讴乇 丕爻鬲 讴賴 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 賳蹖夭 丕賳丿讴蹖 氐亘睾賴鈥屰� 鬲丨賲蹖賱蹖賽 禺丕氐 讴鬲亘 乇賵丕賳卮賳丕爻蹖 乇丕 丿丕卮鬲. 丕賲丕 亘賴 賴乇 乇賵蹖貙 倬乇 丕夭 賲胤丕賱亘 賲賮蹖丿 亘賵丿 賵 亘蹖卮 丕夭 賴賲賴 爻毓蹖 丿丕卮鬲 鬲丕 賮賯胤 賳鬲丕蹖噩 鬲丨賯蹖賯丕鬲 賵 鬲噩乇亘蹖丕鬲 禺賵丿 乇丕 亘賴鈥屫ж簇必и� 亘诏匕丕乇丿. 氐丿 丿乇 氐丿 賲賮蹖丿.
September 6, 2019
鬲丕賲爻 賴乇蹖爻 丿乇 丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 鬲賵囟蹖丨 爻丕丿賴 賵 賳爻亘鬲丕 噩丕賲毓蹖 丕夭 鬲卅賵乇蹖 鬲丨賱蹖賱 乇賮鬲丕乇 賲鬲賯丕亘賱 丌賵乇丿賴. 賴乇趩賳丿 賳倬爻賳丿蹖丿賲 賵 讴賴 鬲丨賱蹖賱 乇賮鬲丕乇 賲鬲賯丕亘賱 乇賵 賲孬賱 卮丕賴讴賱蹖丿蹖 亘乇丕蹖 丿乇賲丕賳 賴賲賴 賲卮讴賱丕鬲 丨鬲蹖 賲爻丕卅賱 丕噩鬲賲丕毓蹖 賵 爻蹖丕爻蹖 賳卮賵賳 丿丕丿賴 賵賱蹖 丿乇 賲噩賲賵毓 亘乇丕蹖 賲賳 讴鬲丕亘 賲賮蹖丿蹖 亘賵丿.
February 15, 2018
亘乇丕賶 丿爻鬲 賷丕賮鬲賳 亘賴 賳丕卮賳丕禺鬲賴 賴丕賶 匕賴賳 賵 乇賮鬲丕乇貙 丕賮乇丕丿 賲禺鬲賱賮 丿乇 胤賵賱 夭賲丕賳貙 賲爻賷乇賴丕賶 賲禺鬲賱賮賶 丕乇丕卅賴 丿丕丿賳. 丕夭 "丕賷丿-丕賷诏賵-爻賵倬乇丕賷诏賵"賶 賮乇賵賷丿 賵 丌乇賰賴 鬲丕賷倬 賴丕賶 賷賵賳诏貙 鬲丕 胤乇丨賵丕乇賴 賴丕賶 乇賵丕賳賶 賵 賳丕禺賵丿丌诏丕賴 賰丕賵賶 賴丕賶 丕乇賵賷賳 賷丕賱賵賲.
賮賰乇 賲賷賰賳賲 丕夭 亘賷賳 賴賲賴 卮賵賳貙 丕賷賳 鬲丨賱賷賱 乇賮鬲丕乇 賲鬲賯丕亘賱 爻丕丿賴 鬲乇 賵 賲賱賲賵爻 鬲乇賴. 賵賯鬲賶 丿丕卮鬲賲 賰鬲丕亘 乇賵 賲賷禺賵賳丿賲 爻毓賶 賲賷賰乇丿賲 賴賲夭賲丕賳 鬲賵 丕乇鬲亘丕胤丕鬲 乇賵夭賲乇賴 賲 丕夭卮 丕爻鬲賮丕丿賴 賰賳賲 賵 丨賷乇鬲丕 賰賴 噩賵丕亘 賲賷丿丕丿. 賲賷丿賷丿賲 賰賴 趩賴 噩賵乇賶 賲賷鬲賵賳賲 丕夭 亘丕賱睾 亘賴 賰賵丿賰 卮賷賮鬲 賰賳賲 賵 丿乇丕賲丕 亘爻丕夭賲貙 賷丕 賰賴 丿乇 賵丕賱丿 禺賵丿賲 賮乇賵 亘乇賲 賵 賴賲賴 乇賵 賳氐賷丨鬲 賰賳賲. 亘賴 爻丕丿诏賶 賲賷卮賴 丿乇 賰丕乇亘乇丿 丕賷賳 賳馗乇賷賴 賲丕賴乇 卮丿. 賷賴 噩丕 賳賵賷爻賳丿賴 诏夭丕乇卮 賲賷賰賳賴 賰賴 亘丕 鬲賲乇賷賳 "賵丕賱丿-亘丕賱睾-賰賵丿賰" 鬲賵賳爻鬲賴 丨鬲賶 丿乇 乇賮鬲丕乇 賰賵丿賰丕賳 毓賯亘 賲丕賳丿賴 賶 匕賴賳賶 丕氐賱丕丨丕鬲賶 丿丕卮鬲賴 亘丕卮賴 賰賴 丨賯賷賯鬲丕賸 賰賱丕賴 丕夭 爻乇 亘乇賲賷丿丕乇賲 亘乇丕賶 丕賵賳 賱丨馗賴. 賵 丕賷賳 亘丕毓孬 賲賷卮賴 賮賰乇 賰賳賲 丕诏賴 賴賲賴 賶 噩賵丕賳丕賳 賲賷禺賵賳丿賳卮 賵 賲賴丕乇鬲卮 乇賵 賰爻亘 賲賷賰乇丿賳貙 噩丕賲毓賴 賶 賰賲 鬲賳卮 鬲乇賶 丿丕卮鬲賷賲.
賴乇趩賳丿貙 禺賵卮 亘賷賳 賳賷爻鬲賲 亘賴 丕賷賳 賰賴 丕賷賳 賳馗乇賷賴 亘鬲賵賳賴 賲卮賰賱丕鬲 乇賵 丕夭 乇賷卮賴 丨賱 賰賳賴. 賳賵賷爻賳丿賴 賲賷诏賴 噩賱賵賶 倬乇禺丕卮 賰乇丿賳 賰賵丿賰 乇賵 亘诏賷乇貨 賵賱賶 丕賷賳 賰賴 丕氐賱丕賸 趩乇丕 賰賵丿賰 倬乇禺丕卮诏乇 卮丿賴 乇賵 趩賶 賰丕乇 賰賳賷賲責
賳賵賷爻賳丿賴 賲賷诏賴 "賴乇噩丕 卮賰 賰乇丿賶貙 賳賵丕夭卮 賰賳"
诏夭丕乇賴 賶 賯卮賳诏賷賴貨 賵賱賶 丌賷丕 賳賵丕夭卮 亘乇 賴乇 丿乇丿 亘賶 丿乇賲丕賳 丿賵丕爻鬲責
賳賲賷丿賵賳賲.
賮賰乇 賲賷賰賳賲 丕夭 亘賷賳 賴賲賴 卮賵賳貙 丕賷賳 鬲丨賱賷賱 乇賮鬲丕乇 賲鬲賯丕亘賱 爻丕丿賴 鬲乇 賵 賲賱賲賵爻 鬲乇賴. 賵賯鬲賶 丿丕卮鬲賲 賰鬲丕亘 乇賵 賲賷禺賵賳丿賲 爻毓賶 賲賷賰乇丿賲 賴賲夭賲丕賳 鬲賵 丕乇鬲亘丕胤丕鬲 乇賵夭賲乇賴 賲 丕夭卮 丕爻鬲賮丕丿賴 賰賳賲 賵 丨賷乇鬲丕 賰賴 噩賵丕亘 賲賷丿丕丿. 賲賷丿賷丿賲 賰賴 趩賴 噩賵乇賶 賲賷鬲賵賳賲 丕夭 亘丕賱睾 亘賴 賰賵丿賰 卮賷賮鬲 賰賳賲 賵 丿乇丕賲丕 亘爻丕夭賲貙 賷丕 賰賴 丿乇 賵丕賱丿 禺賵丿賲 賮乇賵 亘乇賲 賵 賴賲賴 乇賵 賳氐賷丨鬲 賰賳賲. 亘賴 爻丕丿诏賶 賲賷卮賴 丿乇 賰丕乇亘乇丿 丕賷賳 賳馗乇賷賴 賲丕賴乇 卮丿. 賷賴 噩丕 賳賵賷爻賳丿賴 诏夭丕乇卮 賲賷賰賳賴 賰賴 亘丕 鬲賲乇賷賳 "賵丕賱丿-亘丕賱睾-賰賵丿賰" 鬲賵賳爻鬲賴 丨鬲賶 丿乇 乇賮鬲丕乇 賰賵丿賰丕賳 毓賯亘 賲丕賳丿賴 賶 匕賴賳賶 丕氐賱丕丨丕鬲賶 丿丕卮鬲賴 亘丕卮賴 賰賴 丨賯賷賯鬲丕賸 賰賱丕賴 丕夭 爻乇 亘乇賲賷丿丕乇賲 亘乇丕賶 丕賵賳 賱丨馗賴. 賵 丕賷賳 亘丕毓孬 賲賷卮賴 賮賰乇 賰賳賲 丕诏賴 賴賲賴 賶 噩賵丕賳丕賳 賲賷禺賵賳丿賳卮 賵 賲賴丕乇鬲卮 乇賵 賰爻亘 賲賷賰乇丿賳貙 噩丕賲毓賴 賶 賰賲 鬲賳卮 鬲乇賶 丿丕卮鬲賷賲.
賴乇趩賳丿貙 禺賵卮 亘賷賳 賳賷爻鬲賲 亘賴 丕賷賳 賰賴 丕賷賳 賳馗乇賷賴 亘鬲賵賳賴 賲卮賰賱丕鬲 乇賵 丕夭 乇賷卮賴 丨賱 賰賳賴. 賳賵賷爻賳丿賴 賲賷诏賴 噩賱賵賶 倬乇禺丕卮 賰乇丿賳 賰賵丿賰 乇賵 亘诏賷乇貨 賵賱賶 丕賷賳 賰賴 丕氐賱丕賸 趩乇丕 賰賵丿賰 倬乇禺丕卮诏乇 卮丿賴 乇賵 趩賶 賰丕乇 賰賳賷賲責
賳賵賷爻賳丿賴 賲賷诏賴 "賴乇噩丕 卮賰 賰乇丿賶貙 賳賵丕夭卮 賰賳"
诏夭丕乇賴 賶 賯卮賳诏賷賴貨 賵賱賶 丌賷丕 賳賵丕夭卮 亘乇 賴乇 丿乇丿 亘賶 丿乇賲丕賳 丿賵丕爻鬲責
賳賲賷丿賵賳賲.
December 28, 2014
When my friend introduced me to this book, I was pretty sceptic about it. I had never tried any book of this genre. But my love for psychology made me read this book. And the first few sentences got me riveted to this book. Although Transactional Analysis in psychiatry is as complicated as psychiatry itself, the way this book introduces the reader to the concept of Super-ego, Ego and Id, is amazingly simple. Some may say it has been oversimplified, but i think it does a good enough job to get started with. This book completely changed my life. Helped me to get in touch with myself and in turn able to recognize the personalities of others.
A must read for everybody to know how to live life to the fullest and how to deal with ups and downs of life. No wonder this book is a bestseller..
A must read for everybody to know how to live life to the fullest and how to deal with ups and downs of life. No wonder this book is a bestseller..
May 7, 2013
讴鬲丕亘 亘爻蹖丕乇 禺賵亘蹖 賴爻鬲 亘賴 丌丿賲 禺蹖賱蹖 讴賲讴 賲蹖 讴賳賴 讴賴 亘鬲賵賳賴 讴賵丿讴貙亘丕賱睾 賵 賵丕賱丿 丿乇賵賳卮 乇賵 鬲卮禺蹖氐 亘丿賴 賵 亘丿賵賳賴 亘丕 讴丿賵賲 蹖讴蹖 丕夭 夭蹖乇卮禺氐蹖鬲 賴丕卮 丿丕乇賴 讴丕乇蹖 乇賵 丕賳噩丕賲 賲蹖丿賴 蹖丕 丨乇賮蹖 乇賵 賲蹖夭賳賴.
丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 亘爻蹖丕乇 亘賴 賲賳 讴賲讴 讴乇丿 鬲丕 亘鬲賵賳賲 賲賳胤賯蹖 亘丕 丕賮乇丕丿 亘丨孬 讴賳賲. 丿乇 讴賱 鬲賵丕賳丕蹖蹖 噩乇 賵 亘丨孬 讴乇丿賳 賵 倬蹖乇賵夭蹖 丌丿賲 鬲賵 亘丨孬 讴乇丿賳 乇賵 夭蹖丕丿 賲蹖讴賳賴 賵賱蹖 丌丿賲 亘丕蹖丿 丕夭 丕蹖賳 鬲賵丕賳丕蹖蹖卮 丿乇 乇丕賴 丿乇爻鬲 丕爻鬲賮丕丿賴 讴賳賴...
丕蹖賳 讴鬲丕亘 亘爻蹖丕乇 亘賴 賲賳 讴賲讴 讴乇丿 鬲丕 亘鬲賵賳賲 賲賳胤賯蹖 亘丕 丕賮乇丕丿 亘丨孬 讴賳賲. 丿乇 讴賱 鬲賵丕賳丕蹖蹖 噩乇 賵 亘丨孬 讴乇丿賳 賵 倬蹖乇賵夭蹖 丌丿賲 鬲賵 亘丨孬 讴乇丿賳 乇賵 夭蹖丕丿 賲蹖讴賳賴 賵賱蹖 丌丿賲 亘丕蹖丿 丕夭 丕蹖賳 鬲賵丕賳丕蹖蹖卮 丿乇 乇丕賴 丿乇爻鬲 丕爻鬲賮丕丿賴 讴賳賴...
January 14, 2020
This book about transactional analysis is one of the best selling self-help books of all time, so I thought it was interesting just to learn about this popular theory of psychology from a generation ago.
Although this was presented as a novel theory of human behavior when it was written, it seems to be very much based on Freud's ideas about psychology. The basic idea is that as very young children, we all develop feelings of "not OK" from having bad behavior corrected by our parents, and we all learn how to mimic our parents' behavior. We carry the "not OK" feelings with us through life as our "Child," and our inclination to mimic our parents as our "Parent."
We spend most of the time throughout our lives on autopilot. Some of the time we are just daydreaming and not really connecting with others at all ("withdrawal"). When we are interacting with others, sometimes it's just a kind of mechanical, pre-programmed polite interaction ("ritual") or fairly meaningless small talk ("pastimes"). Much of our time is filled up by work and other practical chores that need to be accomplished to maintain our chosen lifestyle ("activities").
The time that we think is devoted to interacting with others is really mostly devoted to playing "games," and I think this is the most interesting aspect of transactional analysis. Another book, Games People Play, focuses on the games that are part of everyday life.
When we are playing "games," we are really mindlessly acting out our "Child" and "Parent" selves. The purpose of transactional analysis is to get people to stop playing "games," and instead act as "Adults." The "Adult" self is not just acting upon the "not OK" feelings from childhood or copying the way you perceived your parents to be acting when you were a small child. Rather, the adult self is like a "computer" that takes in new data from the real world and makes independant decisions about how to be. By acting this way, a person can spend more time with other people engaged in "intimacy" rather than just playing "games."
Here are two examples of "games." One is "Why don't you/Yes, but" in which one person A talks about why person A is unhappy because of some problem that is making person A unhappy. Person B offers solutions to the problem (Why don't you . . ."), but no matter how many solutions person B offers, person A always just comes up with some excuse why that solution won't possibly work ("Yes, but . . ."). I thought this was interesting because I think it's almost become a cliche that men don't understand that when a woman is describing some problem that is making her unhappy, men show a lack of empathy by trying to solve the problem, instead of just being "supportive." I can just imagine the author of this book telling his female patients to stop acting like a "child," and to start acting like an "adult" by acting in a way that would actually solve the problem.
Married couples also play "games," such as "Now I've got you, you son of a bitch." If the husband or wife is acting like a "Child" (needy/insecure) or a "Parent" (insisting what "should" be done without real justification), bickering often escalates into drawn out arguments that get nowhere. If both partners could cast aside the baggage from their own childhoods, they could achieve "intimacy" as two adults in a committed relationship. I think think there is some truth to this theory.
I think one big problem with trying to apply transactional analysis is that in many cases it's not at all obvious what the "Adult" way of acting is. You try to do the right thing, but how exactly would you know that you're acting out your "Parent," rather than being an "Adult." In some cases it may be obvious that you're just perpetuating some prejudice that you picked up as a child from your own parents, but in other cases it's not. Also, according to this book "a relationship in which the Adult in both persons is in charge . . . allows for the emergence of the Natural Child." I kind of get what the author is saying: Once you achieve intimacy, you can relax with another person and allow your natural, fun, creative self to emerge. But in every day life, how would you know if you were being an Adult and allowing your Natural Child to emerge, or if you were just acting as the "Adaptive Child" and playing "games"?
Anyway, I thought it was interesting to read what white, middle class Americans thought was the answer to their angst in the late 1960s/early 1970s. These days, therapists have to "treat" people for a "mental disorder" on a list of diagnoses in order to get reimbursed by an insurance company. It is interesting to me that when this book was written, the author was just trying to create a theory of human psychology in general and felt no need to identify any particular diagnosis.
My guess is that this book was popular because it was both politically liberal while at the same time strongly advocating that people should have traditional moral values. I imagine that it appealed to people who supported civil rights and opposed the Vietnam War but also opposed rioting and thought the hippies should settle down and get a job and get married. I think the "peace sign" on the front cover is definitely a sign of the times. I notice that it was eliminated in more recent editions.
Although this was presented as a novel theory of human behavior when it was written, it seems to be very much based on Freud's ideas about psychology. The basic idea is that as very young children, we all develop feelings of "not OK" from having bad behavior corrected by our parents, and we all learn how to mimic our parents' behavior. We carry the "not OK" feelings with us through life as our "Child," and our inclination to mimic our parents as our "Parent."
We spend most of the time throughout our lives on autopilot. Some of the time we are just daydreaming and not really connecting with others at all ("withdrawal"). When we are interacting with others, sometimes it's just a kind of mechanical, pre-programmed polite interaction ("ritual") or fairly meaningless small talk ("pastimes"). Much of our time is filled up by work and other practical chores that need to be accomplished to maintain our chosen lifestyle ("activities").
The time that we think is devoted to interacting with others is really mostly devoted to playing "games," and I think this is the most interesting aspect of transactional analysis. Another book, Games People Play, focuses on the games that are part of everyday life.
When we are playing "games," we are really mindlessly acting out our "Child" and "Parent" selves. The purpose of transactional analysis is to get people to stop playing "games," and instead act as "Adults." The "Adult" self is not just acting upon the "not OK" feelings from childhood or copying the way you perceived your parents to be acting when you were a small child. Rather, the adult self is like a "computer" that takes in new data from the real world and makes independant decisions about how to be. By acting this way, a person can spend more time with other people engaged in "intimacy" rather than just playing "games."
Here are two examples of "games." One is "Why don't you/Yes, but" in which one person A talks about why person A is unhappy because of some problem that is making person A unhappy. Person B offers solutions to the problem (Why don't you . . ."), but no matter how many solutions person B offers, person A always just comes up with some excuse why that solution won't possibly work ("Yes, but . . ."). I thought this was interesting because I think it's almost become a cliche that men don't understand that when a woman is describing some problem that is making her unhappy, men show a lack of empathy by trying to solve the problem, instead of just being "supportive." I can just imagine the author of this book telling his female patients to stop acting like a "child," and to start acting like an "adult" by acting in a way that would actually solve the problem.
Married couples also play "games," such as "Now I've got you, you son of a bitch." If the husband or wife is acting like a "Child" (needy/insecure) or a "Parent" (insisting what "should" be done without real justification), bickering often escalates into drawn out arguments that get nowhere. If both partners could cast aside the baggage from their own childhoods, they could achieve "intimacy" as two adults in a committed relationship. I think think there is some truth to this theory.
I think one big problem with trying to apply transactional analysis is that in many cases it's not at all obvious what the "Adult" way of acting is. You try to do the right thing, but how exactly would you know that you're acting out your "Parent," rather than being an "Adult." In some cases it may be obvious that you're just perpetuating some prejudice that you picked up as a child from your own parents, but in other cases it's not. Also, according to this book "a relationship in which the Adult in both persons is in charge . . . allows for the emergence of the Natural Child." I kind of get what the author is saying: Once you achieve intimacy, you can relax with another person and allow your natural, fun, creative self to emerge. But in every day life, how would you know if you were being an Adult and allowing your Natural Child to emerge, or if you were just acting as the "Adaptive Child" and playing "games"?
Anyway, I thought it was interesting to read what white, middle class Americans thought was the answer to their angst in the late 1960s/early 1970s. These days, therapists have to "treat" people for a "mental disorder" on a list of diagnoses in order to get reimbursed by an insurance company. It is interesting to me that when this book was written, the author was just trying to create a theory of human psychology in general and felt no need to identify any particular diagnosis.
My guess is that this book was popular because it was both politically liberal while at the same time strongly advocating that people should have traditional moral values. I imagine that it appealed to people who supported civil rights and opposed the Vietnam War but also opposed rioting and thought the hippies should settle down and get a job and get married. I think the "peace sign" on the front cover is definitely a sign of the times. I notice that it was eliminated in more recent editions.
May 24, 2024
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