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“All people cross the line from childhood to adulthood with a secondhand opinion of who they are. Without any questioning, we take as truth whatever our parents and other influentials have said about us during our childhood, whether these messages are communicated verbally, physically, or silently.”
― Heyward Ewart, AM I BAD? Recovering From Abuse

“I had some peculiar ideas about love. I’ll tell you what I thought on the subject back then: it’s about as much use as a barrel with no bottom. When I fed the pigs and two of them got to scrapping over an old soft onion, I thought: that’s love. Love is eating. Love is a snarling pig snout and long tusks. Love is a dress like the sun. Love is the color of blood. Love is what grown folk do to each other because the law frowns on killing.

I said I loved her back. I put my hand on the door and I said I loved her back and when I said it I thought of kissing her and also of shooting her through the eye.”
― Catherynne M. Valente, Six-Gun Snow White

“The hardcore drug addicts that I treat, are, without exception, people who have had extraordinarily difficult lives. The commonality is childhood abuse. These people all enter life under extremely adverse circumstances. Not only did they not get what they need for healthy development; they actually got negative circumstances of neglect. I don’t have a single female patient in the Downtown Eastside of Vancouver who wasn’t sexually abused, for example, as were many of the men, or abused, neglected and abandoned serially, over and over again. That’s what sets up the brain biology of addiction. In other words, the addiction is related both psychologically, in terms of emotional pain relief, and neurobiological development to early adversity.”
― Gabor Maté

“A leader without a clear vision and plans only abuses his power because visions, dreams and plans are the fulcrum along which the loads of success will spine by your own efforts. And where power is abused, there is manipulation instead of inspiration.”
― Israelmore Ayivor

“It is really exhausting to live in a dictatorship of 'Me', which is basically a tyranny of others.”
― Stefan Molyneux

“I recently consulted to a therapist who felt he had accomplished something by getting his dissociative client to remain in her ANP throughout her sessions with him.
His view reflects the fundamental mistake that untrained therapists tend to make with DID and DDNOS. Although his client was properly diagnosed, he assumed that the ANP should be encouraged to take charge of the other parts at all times.
He also expected her to speak for them—in other words, to do their therapy. This denied the other parts the opportunity to reveal their secrets, heal their pain, or correct their childhood-based beliefs about the world.

If you were doing family therapy, would it be a good idea to only meet with the father, especially if he had not talked with his children or his spouse in years? Would the other family members feel as if their experiences and feelings mattered?
Would they be able to improve their relationships? You must work with the parts who are inside of the system. Directly.”
― Alison Miller, Healing the Unimaginable: Treating Ritual Abuse and Mind Control

“What daily life is like for “a multipleâ€�

Imagine that you have periods of “lost time.� You may find writings or drawings which you must have done, but do not remember producing. Perhaps you find child-sized clothing or toys in your home but have no children. You might also hear voices or babies crying in your head.
Imagine that you can never predict when you will be able to have certain knowledge or social skills, and your emotions and your energy level seem to change at the drop of a hat, and for no apparent reason.
You cannot understand why you feel what you feel, and, if you are in therapy, you cannot explore those feelings when asked. Your life feels disjointed and often confusing. It is a frightening experience. It feels out of control, and you probably think you are going crazy. That is what it is like to be multiple, and all of it is experienced by the ANPs.
A multiple may also experience very concrete problems, even life-threatening ones.”
― Alison Miller, Healing the Unimaginable: Treating Ritual Abuse and Mind Control

“Sometimes you get so tired of each day, you wish it was over. But it just goes on and on, like the silent prayers that forever go unanswered." - excerpt from: freefalling”
― Darlenne Susan Girard, freefalling

“Men with high baseline levels of testosterone marry less frequently, have more adulterous affairs, commit more spousal abuse, and divorce more often.”
― Helen Fisher, Why We Love: The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love

“Incest, rape and abuse is rampant everywhere, even in our churches, but society is silent. It is a silent epidemic. One in three women will experience a sexual assault in her lifetime and one in six males, yet we don't speak of it, even in our churches!”
― Diane Chamberlain, Conduct Unbecoming: Rape, Torture, and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder from Military Commanders

“Love doesn’t conquer all; it’s a powerful tool to overcome everything because it means you’re not alone.”
― Stephanie Witter

“I love you, Skye. You’re in my heart, in my head, under my skin. You’re my present and my future.”
― Stephanie Witter, Patch Up

“Evil ethicists are the holocaust of humanity; if philosophy can be the instant sunlight to their endless vampirism, it will save more lives than all the doctors who have ever lived.”
― Stefan Molyneux

“I understand true life doesn't happen when I constantly gaze backwards, mulling over all the injustices others have done or I have done to others.”
― Mary E. DeMuth, Thin Places

“Lyall's face went deadpan as he relayed the details, as those who are tortured or raped will become when they retell the pattern of abuse”
― gail carriger, Timeless

“Maybe Duke was just the kind of person you don’t keep in your life, but the kind of person that changes your life forever.”
― Stephanie Witter, Patch Up

“I know the difference between right and wrong. Right is when I do everything he tells me to. Wrong is when I question why. But every now and then a simple slap across the side of the head is a good way to remind me." - excerpt from: freefalling”
― Darlenne Susan Girard, freefalling

“If he’s hitting you now, stop contemplating leaving him, and just leave.”
― Osayi Osar-Emokpae, Because You Deserve Love

“Happiness was an evasive emotion that could not be fabricated, duplicated, or happened upon. It was something that was only handed out to a select few, but just like his mother, Ethan realized that he was never meant to have it.”
― Belinda G. Buchanan, Seasons of Darkness

“Life’s just another blowjob. And just because I let you cum in my mouth, doesn’t mean I’m going to swallow it!" - excerpt from: freefalling”
― Darlenne Susan Girard, freefalling

“You know she’s a liar if she says she’s never done it for ten bucks. We’ve all done it. Practically giving it away. But sometimes you can’t even give it away." - excerpt from: freefalling”
― Darlenne Susan Girard, freefalling

“On the street there is no tomorrow. There is only here and now and nothing else. And yesterday is just another day you’re trying to forget." - excerpt from: freefalling”
― Darlenne Susan Girard, freefalling

“On a nightstand in a teenager’s room, a glass vase filled with violets leans precariously against a wall. The only thing saving the vase from a thousand-piece death on the hardwood floor is the groove in the nightstand’s surface that catches the bottom of vase, and of course the wall itself. The violets, nearly a week old, droop in the light of a waning gibbous moon. Wrinkled petals are already piling up on the floor between the nightstand and the wall, and a girl only six days sixteen stares at the dying bouquet from her bed.”
― Jay Nichols, Emily Smiles for April

“An insult bestowed on your interior and exterior personality; for causes beyond control, kills you innumerably, till the last breath.”
― Aniruddha Sastikar

“I wear the word victim like a badge of honor â€� my own purple heart. I see what others do more than I see what I'm capable of.”
― Mary E. DeMuth, Thin Places

“Sometimes you just have to be there to understand, even if being there makes no sense at all." - excerpt from: freefalling”
― Darlenne Susan Girard, freefalling

“Love is a funny thing. It’s not at all what you expect it to be. But if you have to stand out on the corner to prove it, then maybe it’s better not to be in love at all." - excerpt from: freefalling”
― Darlenne Susan Girard, freefalling

“Today I’m going to pretend I’m dead. I wonder if anyone will notice." - excerpt from: freefalling”
― Darlenne Susan Girard, freefalling

“Sometimes you have to stop and ask yourself who’s really stupid, the guys who stop and pick you up, or you, for being out here in the first place?" - excerpt from: freefalling”
― Darlenne Susan Girard, freefalling

“Some people think it’s a jungle out here. It’s notâ€� It’s a fucking zoo!" - excerpt from: freefalling”
― Darlenne Susan Girard, freefalling