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“My friendships have stopped being so exclusive and the guidelines have simplified.

Does knowing me help someone I know become a better person?


Am I becoming a better person knowing someone?

Here’s how I know a relationship is working. When I’m with that person, I am happy. I look forward to seeing that person. I’m not afraid that that person will hurt me intentionally. I’m not hesitant to speak up if I do feel hurt. Knowing that person, challenges me to grow. Being around that person gives me comfort when I feel sad. That person is someone I want to celebrate with when things are great.

I’ve let go of expecting people to behave a certain way or to treat me a certain way. However, I feel I’m more idealistic about my relationships than I’ve ever been. I want the most difficult thing you can ask a person and that is for them to be themselves, the good and the bad. I want authenticity where many find it hard to be authentic with themselves. It’s from our authentic selves where true connections are made.

It’s from those true connections where I finally feel understood.”
― Corin

“Stop wearing that mask that is trying to be a match for everybody, and realise that you have to have more of a 1s and 10s model. A 1s and 10s model means that if you want to be a 10 for somebody you have to risk being a 1 for somebody else. [...] You wanna express who you really are.”
― Steve Pavlina

“She didn't understand how other people did it, how they just strolled right up to strangers and started conversations -- how they made themselves into people strangers would ever want to meet. She wasn't shy, not exactly. She was afraid.”
― Katie Cotugno, Top Ten

“My views in my early 20’s and kept me separate from those around me. Those views were all about making myself feel significant by bringing other people down. I thought having special problems made me special. Problems don’t make people special. Solving them does.
My views created an Us-vs-Them perspective of the world. Solving my problem required finding more Us people and to avoid Them. I wanted a special club of Us people. The problem was that all the Us people I found thought that their problems were more unique than the other Us people. We never bonded. We were still separating ourselves by one-upping each other about the uniqueness of our problems.
The upside to Us-Vs-Them is that we feel special being Us. Unfortunately feeling special doesn’t outweigh the significant downside.
There will always be more Them than Us
There has to be. Otherwise, the exclusively club of Us wouldn’t be exclusive. So to maintain the exclusivity, we make more rules in our head to keep others out. We become more dependent on less people and are devastated when those people don’t reciprocate by valuing our friendship with the same mindfulness.
Finding more people to connect with seems beyond our control because we automatically put everyone in the Them column and wait for people to work their way into the Us column. The problem is no one wants to have to prove themselves in order to become friends. We end up waiting and waiting.”
― Corin

“He could have been invisible and it wouldn’t have made a difference to them. He didn’t care, so long as he felt at ease, which was his original intention. He wasn’t there to make friends, nor did he want to.”
― Jason Medina, A Ghost In New Orleans

“Laugh, and the world longs to be your friend.”
― Richelle E. Goodrich, Slaying Dragons: Quotes, Poetry, & a Few Short Stories for Every Day of the Year

“Every single thing in the world has its own personality, and it is up to you to make friends with the little rascals.”
― Bob Ross, Happy Little Accidents: The Wit and Wisdom of Bob Ross

“If you really want to get along with somebody, let them be themselves.”
― Willie Nelson

“Walking with my doggy is so much fun!
And she makes me laugh, she makes me run.
Licking she likes to make some good new friends,
Kindly enough with cyclists who spin with no end.”
― Ana Claudia Antunes, ACross Tic

“One of the parrots was very friendly with...Master of the Robes. He used to feed it nuts. As it nibbled from his fingers, he used to stroke its head, at which the bird appeared to enter a state of ecstasy. I very much wanted this kind of friendliness and several times tried to get a similar response, but to no avail. So I took a stick to punish it. Of course, thereafter it fled at the sight of me. This was a very good lesson in how to make friends: not by force but by compassion.”
― Dalai Lama XIV, Freedom in Exile: The Autobiography of the Dalai Lama

“A shared cup of laughter, dear Reader, is the sunbeam that causes the flower of friendship to open its petals and peep out.”
― Millie Florence, Lydia Green Of Mulberry Glen

“Ganix didn't need to make friends. Everyone was a friend!”
― C.J. Milbrandt, On Your Marks: The Adventure Begins

“Back then, we were all still willing to take the “risk,â€� if “riskâ€� is the right word to describe entering into the lives of others, not merely in symbol but in reality.”
― Zadie Smith, Feel Free: Essays

“He was scared and he felt vulnerable and the last thing on earth he wanted was to try to make friends with these strangers. He wished with all his heart that Joyce were here with him. After all, it was always easier to meet new people if there were two of you. It gave you confidence and made you feel at ease. Look, it said to the world, I already have one friend so I can't be all that bad. And Joyce always made him feel like his best self anyway, so there would be no resisting him.”
― Mike Gayle, All the Lonely People

“Our friends are siblings we discover, while our siblings are friends gifted to us by fate.”
― John Joclebs Bassey, Night of a Thousand Thoughts

“Smile! Make them comfortable with your size. Deal with their fears and your fears will go away.”
― Allan Dare Pearce, Paris in April

“Part of the problem is that people at our school don't listen. They just put on the headphones and tune out the world. It's intimidating.”
― Alexandra Robbins, The Geeks Shall Inherit the Earth: Popularity, Quirk Theory and Why Outsiders Thrive After High School

“If you are completely surrounded by the enemies, this proves that you are damn stupid in matters of making friends and such a stupidity, such a miserable clumsiness is your biggest enemy!”
― Mehmet Murat ildan

“Building fruitful and lasting relationships starts with abandoning the conventional ‘‘me’â€�-based thoughts that are so prevalent in the business world and so easy to slip into in our personal lives.”
― Michelle Tillis Lederman, 11 Laws of Likability

“You win more friends by granting a favor than by asking for one.”
― Frank Sonnenberg, Soul Food: Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life

“She let him get away with it. That's how people make friends.”
― Michael Poore, Reincarnation Blues

“My philosophy to life is very accommodating. I am okay to make friends with all manners and classes of people. I am more concerned about what is on the table.”
― Vincent Okeke

“Passionate people always protest in airy voices about the significance of having meaningful conversations. “We shall speak to each other with profundity! No time for small talk! I want deeper!â€� But to be fair, what could possibly come out of thirty seconds in a café? It would be quite uncomfortable if two people were to race and pour their deepest sorrows on the other. Though perhaps the depth is in the trust. In peculiar sharing. That to have satisfaction in a conversation doesn’t
mean spilling your problems on the floor, or violently expressing how wiggly the tables are, but instead asking you to admit that the table reminds you of the long wooden bar you had at home with silver lining, back in Wyoming.”
― Karl Kristian Flores, The Goodbye Song

“Sammie says, "Happiness from a joyful walk, is sharing friendship, laughter, and talk.”
― D.R. Gallardo, Sammie the Support Shepherd

“Make sure you know someone somewhere, who knows someone somewhere. Somehow, you will need someone to get somewhere.”
― Geoffrey Ocaya

“Making enemies is the skill of fools and stupidity; making friends is the skill of clever people and the wisdom!”
― Mehmet Murat ildan

“I've come to realize my market gig is like therapy for me. I've always loved being surrounded by food, but what I have come to cherish most at these markets is the sense of community. I know Frank the cheese guy and Barbara the mushroom lady. I swap muffins for raspberry jam with Josie at Jefferson Family Farms and ciabatta for apples with Maggie and Drew at Broad Tree Orchards. They've started to accept me as one of their own, at a time when I could use the company.”
― Dana Bate, A Second Bite at the Apple

“I want a place with stories and genuine laughter, Dollars on crossbeams, bra’s strung from the rafter

No focus group menu and sanitized spaces,
I’ll settle for friends in old seedy places!

Nick Schlonski”
― RB Conch, Seedy Places: Key West Comedies Book 1

“That other people found a community easily struck him as mysterious; the city was a wide network of generic streets and buildings, among which small figures were suspended in casual segregation. The space between them was air and metal.”
― Lydia Millet, How the Dead Dream

“I wish making friends was as easy as the books and movies make it seem.”
― McCaid Paul, Sweet Tea & Snap Peas