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I followed a fairly convoluted path that led up to me reading this book - but I'm glad I did.? It has broadened my horizons. ? It's a book about anosog I followed a fairly convoluted path that led up to me reading this book - but I'm glad I did.? It has broadened my horizons. ? It's a book about anosognosia - or the fact that some people with certain medical conditions can be completely unaware that they are ill - and therefore they often are non-compliant when it comes to taking medication.?? The people it affects the most are people with dementia, then people with schizophrenia, then people with bipolar disorder and finally, a small percentage of people who have had strokes. It's caused by damage to the frontal lobes of the brain.?? It used to be regarded as people being in denial about their condition, but no, it's caused by brain damage.?? The patients are genuinely unaware that they have problems.?? Amador, the author and an experienced psychologist,? illustrates this with the following example. One 42-year-old man I evaluated had been in a car accident and had suffered a serious head injury that damaged tissue in the right frontal, parietal, and temporal lobes of his brain, leaving him paralyzed on the left side of his body. When I met with him about a week after the accident, I asked if he could raise his left arm for me and he answered ¡°yes.¡± When I asked him to do it, he lay there expressionless, unable to move his paralyzed arm. I pointed out that he had not moved his arm. He disagreed. So, I asked him to do it again while looking at his arm. When he saw that he could not move his arm, he became flustered. I asked him why he did not move it, and he refused to answer at first. When I pressed him, he said, ¡°I know this is going to sound crazy, but you must have tied it down or something. Similarly someone with schizophrenia, who's been hospitalized with hallucinations and delusions, may have no idea why he's in hospital, and will think it's been done as a whim on the part of his parents, or whoever arranged for him to be there. ? To him, his delusions are reality. ? If asked why the doctors decided to keep him in hospital, he might use confabulation - a term to describe the innocent creation of a false memory to explain something.? He might say "I think I've had a cold and they felt I needed to recuperate."?? (Like the man described earlier, who thought the doctors might have tied down his arm.) The area where anosognosia matters the most is when it comes to medication.?? Why should people take meds when they know they're not ill??? Yet taking meds can be the most essential part of staying well.?? Research has shown that amongst most people with schizophrenia and bipolar, only about 25% take their meds as prescribed.?? Most only use them partially, or sometimes not at all. Amador had a brother, Paul, that he was very close to, who then got schizophrenia.?? This book is also about LEAP - an acronym for Listen, Empathise, Agree, Partner -? a form of communication that Amador evolved to use with his brother, and which eventually resulted in him taking his medications, in spite of thinking he had no need to do so.?? Unlike the first 7 years of his illness, when he would end up in hospital 4 times a year on average, over the next 18 years Paul stayed on the meds and out of hospital.?? It took about three months of them discussing the meds before Paul agreed to comply.?? This doesn't seem to be a 'snap your fingers' for results, sort of approach. Amador has a very helpful website which can be found by googling "LEAP Institute".? There are links to various videos there which give you an excellent idea of what his methods involve.? There are also tributes from various people saying how much their relationships with their loved ones have improved since using LEAP. Did I have any takeaway qualms??? Yes I did.?? The LEAP method, whilst it stresses respecting and listening to the client, is at base manipulative and is based on a hierarchical relationship, where the person using LEAP knows best.?? Having said that, under these circumstances I think it is nevertheless valid.?? If I was going to slip into psychosis or become delusional next week would I rather get the help I needed, even if my helpers were being duplicitous, or would I rather be left to fend for myself? ?? Personally, I would rather get the help.?? Most of all I think of Amador's brother, and the fact he managed to stay out of hospital for 18 years.? To me that was a triumph.? (He sadly later died in a car accident.) All in all a very enlightening read, especially if you augment it by also visiting the LEAP Institute website. One more thing.?? I HATE the book title, which I feel is sensationalist and belittling.? Thumbs down to whoever came up with that.?? But I hope people can push past the title because it's a book well worth reading. ...more |
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**spoiler alert** This short book is about REBT (Rational Emotive Behavioural Therapy), which was the precursor to CBT, but some of us prefer this ear
**spoiler alert** This short book is about REBT (Rational Emotive Behavioural Therapy), which was the precursor to CBT, but some of us prefer this earlier version, which I see as being more Stoical in its approach - and I like that. In my review I'm simply going to do a brief synopsis of the points I found interesting in the book and would like to have noted for future reference..... Basically, REBT states that many of our problems stem from our demands, musts and shoulds. Life must be easy / and it's awful if it isn't. My husband must be on time / and it's awful if he isn't. My friends must like me / and it's awful if they don't. Instead we need to be winding down the intensity of these statements to 'preferring' rather than 'musting'. Preferring opens the door for more realistic and helpful solutions. I would prefer it if life was easy / but I can handle it if it isn't I would prefer that my husband was on time / but his time-keeping issues are his responsibility. I'd prefer it if my friends liked me / but I can accept it if they don't like me all the time. Preferring isn't a toothless option. For instance if your husband's tardiness was causing major disruption in your lives you could suggest he went to see a therapist about it. If it continued to be really disruptive, as a last case scenario you could divorce him. Edelstein gives us the recipe for working through difficult situations with this example. A Activating Event.....................................Jack doesn't admire me. B Irrational belief........................................Jack MUST admire me. C Emotional consequence..........................Anger D Disputing/Substituting..........................Why MUST Jack admire me? Is there a law that says he must? E Effective new thinking............................I PREFER that Jack admire me but I can survive quite well if he doesn't F New Feeling...........................................Disappointment, rather than anger or rage. He suggests that we apply this technique to situations that are upsetting us. He also stresses that it is much more effective to write out the whole thing, rather than just running through it quickly in our heads. "It is important to dispute your musts actively. Pick up a pen and write out material. You need to practice, practice, practice these things every day, like brushing your teeth." He stresses that anger is not a helpful emotion. He shows how we can respond to difficult situations in three different ways. With anger With meekness With calm assertiveness or reasoned compliance. The first two aren't constructive. Getting rid of your anger does not mean liking what you see, nor does it mean being resigned to it. Furthermore, in some situations we need to accept that behaviour which causes you to feel negative may never change. You may well just have to accept it, or move on (eg as a last resort, in order to effect change you may have to leave your husband or change jobs.) The essence of all anger is musts, demands and shoulds. "We have a right to preferences, but no right to godlike demands. Demands create emotional disturbance and there is no reason at all why anyone must behave as we demand." This is a slippery point, but Endelstein argues that it is always you making yourself angry. No other person, experience or situation is doing that. No matter how obnoxious the object of your dislike, the anger is your responsibility. It's never warranted by external circumstances. Here Endelstein differs from one of my favourite REBT practitioners, Walter Matweychuk, who argues that there is "rational anger", but this quietly leads us to constructive action - it doesn't result in explosive behaviours. Endelstein also says that problems have two components. - An emotional response - A practical response The more we reduce our emotional response the more we can concentrate on practical and positive solutions. He gives examples of people who have handled life without showing anger - the Dalai Lama, Nelson Mandela and Ghandi. The book also talks a lot about "low frustration tolerance", and ways in which we can try and become more resilient, better able to handle frustration. Basically the message is all about taking action rather than avoidance. It gives us ploys we can use to get things done, rather than procrastinating. Things like setting yourself a time to start something, on the understanding you only have to do it for five minutes. After that time you can check if you want to continue. He also stresses the importance of practising these new ideas. For instance when you feel yourself slipping into 'awfulizing' mode, he suggests using a knock-out statement to counteract that feeling. "I have hassles, too damn bad" or "Hassles are only hassles, never horrors" or "Next week this will be nothing". He suggests using the knock-out phrase up to 100 times a day! "We need to keep using the knock-out statement or the musts will creep back." He also points out that what we want is unconditional self acceptance, rather than good self-esteem. Self-esteem can all too easily go up and down like a yo yo, depending upon how people praise or ignore us, or upon how we rate our behaviours. You are at the mercy of your latest performance. "There is also an inherent tendency for self-raters to move towards a low self-rating. Most human intentions don't work out quite as planned, and there's a natural tendency to focus on shortcomings." Self-rating also leads you to compare yourself pointlessly with other people. My best takeaways from the book? Firstly the recipe for challenging things that upset us, and secondly the idea that we use knock-out statements to argue with our tendency to slip into awfulizing or other negative ways of thinking - which is something I'm prone to. He really conveys the need to work on these things, over and over again - and I found that helpful. I have gone back to this book on several occasions. He encapsulates ideas that I've heard about elsewhere, but does so with a lot of impact, which I find helpful. Highly recommended for anyone interested in the basics of REBT. ...more |
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**spoiler alert** I'm a fan of the Hourly History series of books. There are many people and historical events that I don't want to read about in full
**spoiler alert** I'm a fan of the Hourly History series of books. There are many people and historical events that I don't want to read about in full length books, nor do I want to read about them in the condensed wedges of information you find on Wikipedia. These Hourly History books are a great alternative. You get a brisk outline of relevant events - peppered with more emotional descriptions which bring the books to life. The latest one I've just read was about Louise M Alcott, born in 1832, and the author of Little Women. Her story is fascinating. Her father was an extraordinary man who had a great influence on her life. He was a member of the Transcendentalist movement and great friends with people like Henry David Thoreau and Ralph Waldo Emerson. They believed that everyone was entitled to freedom and equality, and supported the abolishment of slavery and women's suffrage. They also had a great reverence for nature. All good stuff you might think, but Bronson Alcott was a total fanatic - and fanatics are hard work. Bronson spent most of his life teaching, or at least trying to teach, as school after school that he opened ended up being closed. He was so extreme in his ideas that parents eventually refused to let their children attend his classes, and eventually every school closed. He also tried to open a commune called Fruitlands on a farm in Harvard, Massachusetts. Its members were only permitted fruits and vegetables for food, and tilled the land without animal labour. Fruitlands was abandoned within a year of its opening. His immediate family led a harsh life throughout these years, as they were often drastically short of money. This meant wearing old clothes and often there wasn't even enough money to feed the family. But none of this persuaded Bronson to climb down from his high horse and do the sort of work which would have enabled him to provide for them properly. Louisa saw the difficulties that her mother and siblings experienced in the face of her father's intractable high-mindedness, and swore she would never marry. However his behaviour didn't put her off Transcendentalism and its ideals, and her books frequently reflect these, and the values shared by her parents. When she was older Louisa worked as a teacher. She also took in sewing for people. She had been dabbling in poetry for a few years, and this gradually extended into writing. However in 1861, the Civil War broke out, and she immediately went to Washington to train as a nurse. It was a rough and very dirty city then, many people, especially escaped slaves, were living in squalor. It had no sewage system until 1863. But Louisa persisted with her training and hospital work until the Battle of Fredericksburg, when the hospital was drastically over-filled with patients. She became ill and was diagnosed with typhus pneumonia, and she had to go home. The medicine she received for the typhus contained mercury, which later on her in life caused mercury poisoning and finally her death. Meanwhile, back at home she continued with her writing. She became the main financial support of her family, which was very important to her. Surprisingly to modern readers - at this stage she was writing bodice rippers under the pseudonym A.M. Barnard. It was her publisher who persuaded her to write a book for children, and thus Little Women came into being. It was immediately a fantastic success. This was followed by three more books in this series. All this time Louisa was keenly aware of her family's financial needs, and saw her writing as a way of keeping them comfortable. She never did marry. On March 6th 1888, two days after the death of her father, Louisa died, aged just 55. Ever since its initial publication Little Women has never been out of print. I thoroughly enjoyed this book, which I got for free. The Hourly History publishers run a scheme whereby every Friday they offer free kindle books as an enticement to check their website. Not all the books in the series that I've read have been hits with me, but this one scores 5 stars. Very interesting and enjoyable. ...more |
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The author of this book is mostly known for his very popular YouTube blog, titled like the book, "Abroad in Japan."?? I'm sure most of the people who
The author of this book is mostly known for his very popular YouTube blog, titled like the book, "Abroad in Japan."?? I'm sure most of the people who come to the book have done so via his blog.? Well, I am different, I'd never heard of it until I read the book, and my few experiments with the blog would never have led me to read the book.?? He comes across in the book as quite laddish (a sort of beer, crisps and jokiness kind of guy), but this is intensified in his blogs, or at least the ones I've seen, to an extent I didn't find funny.? ? Anyway thankfully I came to the book as a completely fresh new reader - and I'm so glad I did that - as the book is excellent. Broad came to Japan under the JET scheme, an initiative which was started in 1987, which invites over 5,000 English speakers to Japan every year, to help school children in their English classes, alongside the teachers.?? In Japan English doesn't get a good rap - "it's seen as a soft, almost girly subject, whilst also being seen as a very difficult language to learn, and ultimately useless."?? Many of the English teachers in Japan hardly speak English themselves - so the JET scheme must have made a valuable improvement to the classes. Broad went to an unusual part of Japan for tourists.?? The northern region of the largest island - T¨hoku.?? It has extremely harsh weather.?? Very hot and humid in summer, and freezing in winter, with copious amounts of snow.?? He talks about looking out into the car park by his flat, and being unable to see his car as it was completely buried in snow.?? ? He also felt very much a foreigner.?? In T¨hoku, there were very few people from the West and the Japanese were wary of them.?? "Renting apartments is one of the few areas in Japan where discrimination is openly allowed.?? The 265 years of the Edo era and Japan's isolationist policy has left a legacy of mistrust.?? In 2016, a study by the Ichhi Group real estate agency showed that 40 per cent of foreign respondents to a survey had been rejected for rental housing because they weren't Japanese." Broad noticed a big difference between the teaching methods used in England and those used in Japan and how these differences were reflected in people's working lives and culture later on. (view spoiler)[ (hide spoiler)] As time goes on though, Broad makes some good friends. ? This was helped by the efforts he made to learn Japanese - properly learn it - which wasn't an easy task.?? He also became very fond of T¨hok, the area where he lived. ? His open-mindedness towards his new environment and the people who live here is one of Broad's most attractive traits. During the book he covers general life in Japan, but also some major issues, like his experience of a public warning about a nuclear bomb from North Korea (which thankfully never materialised), the terrible Tohoku earthquake and tsunami of 2011, when over 19,000 people died,? and the Fukushima earthquake resulting in a nuclear accident.?? He talks about the courage of the Japanese people and their determination to recover from these devastating events. He also talks about two highly contrasting visits to Kyoto.?? The first with the city "bursting at the seams" with tourists....it was like "an overcrowded theme park"? The second visit was shortly after the world's experience of Covid shut downs, when he describes the city as empty of tourists - and how he fell in love with its ancient beauty and charm. Towards the end of the book he speaks of his enjoyment of living in Japan, but also his one great fear - earthquakes.?? As is well known, Japan is one of the most seismically active countries on earth.?? A bit later on, when living in the city of Sendai, Broad experiences a small one himself, which lasted about 10 seconds.?? He was up in his flat on the 10th floor.?? Everything shook, then it all stopped, then glass started breaking.?? He said it was terrifying.?? The thought of being caught up in a more violent one fills him with dread.?? He continued to live in Sendai, but it was a major incentive to move, as seimologists had predicted future earthquakes in the area.?? All in all I thoroughly enjoyed this book.?? I shall end with a few notes (mostly taken directly from the book), of odd things I want to remember. (view spoiler)[ (hide spoiler)] ...more |
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I found this book very wordy and detailed - and for that reason sometimes quite boring, but on the other hand I'm extremely glad I read it. Its repeti
I found this book very wordy and detailed - and for that reason sometimes quite boring, but on the other hand I'm extremely glad I read it. Its repetitive nature helped drum into me the rather counter-intuitive idea of harm reduction. The authors are associated with one of the few places in America, which does therapy based on harm reduction instead of full abstinence (although that is sometimes suggested as a solution too.) They say that problems with drugs develop from three scenarios. 1. A person's unique interaction between the drug and its compelling qualities. Person A may find drug X hugely more attractive than Person B, and their propensity to end up having a problematic relationship with it might therefore be that much stronger. 2. A person's unique needs and characteristics - eg one person may be infinitely more prone to anxiety than the next person, and will therefore find a calming and soothing drug that much more attractive than someone who doesn't suffer with anxiety. 3. The environment, with its combination of stressors and sources of supports. Obviously someone in a happy relationship, with a supportive family and a satisfying job is going to find drugs less attractive than someone whose life is full of loneliness, insecurity and stress. I think a lot of recovery organisations treat their participants with a sort of one size fits all recipe for recovery. 'Whatever your problems, come into our organisation, follow our tools and ideas, and we will transform you into someone who leads a better, (abstinent) life." This approach with harm reduction is the opposite - it goes into the minutiae of each person's life, and works with someone's specific personality and situation. It also has a much more generous attitude towards moderating (harm reduction), than do most of the traditional recovery approaches. I found the life stories given in the book (an amalgamation of various clients' experiences) to be particularly interesting. One woman is shown to have stopped taking heroin, and she now just uses weed at weekends, to allow herself to relax. That is seen as a good example of harm reduction working well. The book also give a chart listing a continuum of alcohol and drug use. No use...Experimentation....Occasional.....Regular.. ..Heavy.....Abuse.. ..Dependence... ...Chaos. If you are dependent on a drug you will probably need medical supervision to help you slowly taper off. At least 50% of heavy drug or alcohol users "mature out" of their using as they grow up, without any outside help. If you're a chaotic user it may well be that you do have to practise abstinence with that particular drug, although you may be able to continue with one or two other substances that don't affect you so badly. This book sees little difference between legal and illegal drugs - it's well known that cigarettes cause great physical harm and alcohol can be abused in ways similar to the abuse of many illegal drugs. (This is not the same as saying that all drugs should be available without restriction.) Time and time again, the book returns to the needs of each specific person, as they work towards leading their best possible life. It also emphasises the success of harm reduction - which something we seldom hear about in our society. For people who have had a problematic relationship with drugs or alcohol, most of us have been brought up with the idea of addiction versus total abstinence. However there are now various organisations showing an increasing interest in the idea of harm reduction. I've had both in my life. I gave up smoking some years ago, and I'm convinced that complete abstinence was necessary (and still is), in order for me to do that. On the other hand I've had eating disorder issues which I stopped five years ago. Obviously I haven't been able to stop eating, instead, by using various strategies, I practise harm reduction - and the results have affected my quality of life immeasurably. The book has also made me think about other areas in my life where I might practise harm reduction. I could develop strategies for less screen time for instance.... All in all I found this book an eye-opening and useful read. ...more |
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This is part of The War Diaries series, produced in association with the Imperial War Museum. It's the sort of thing I usually enjoy a lot. The diary was kept during the Second World War. Unfortunately the author, who was also a journalist, didn't really contextualise enough, either with the friends she mentioned or with the various war initiatives she described - she was probably writing the diary for her own immediate satisfaction, with no plans to get it published later on - so why should she? But I found it very bitty. Her writings were backed up by copious footnotes in tiny type, (written by the person who edited the book), which regrettably is also something I dislike, and after a few pages I gave up squinting in an effort to read them. It would have been good if they could have been done in larger type, but perhaps that goes against publishing protocols. The book did give us glimpses of things like the fear and worry that everyone was feeling, the challenges of taking on evacuee children, and the punitive restrictions of foot rationing - but it was just too disjointed, and the characters described were not fleshed out enough to be people that mattered to me. I read about half the book and was left thinking what a pity it was that she hadn't written a memoir based on her diary. To learn about the experiences of an intelligent woman living in a Surrey village during the war is just the sort of social commentary that I find interesting. I haven't awarded the book a rating because I never read the footnotes. I may well have had a different experience if I done so. ...more |
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I thought this was well written - I liked the minimalism of the writing. I also thought think that von Schirach created some wonderfully strong characters. However I didn't understand the plot and the denouement left me scratching my head.
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DNF Just not my cup of tea. I know it sounds a weird thing to say, but it's as if she was speaking an alien language. Sometimes you meet people, you t DNF Just not my cup of tea. I know it sounds a weird thing to say, but it's as if she was speaking an alien language. Sometimes you meet people, you talk, and there is an instant sense of connection and understanding - but this was the complete opposite. I couldn't even bring myself to make the effort to comprehend what she was discussing. Many of my friends think that Bren¨¦ Brown is superb - plus she has been given outstanding ratings and reviews here on GR. I think I will try some of her TED talks or You Tube lectures. It may be that these will be more accessible to me. ...more |
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This book is a gentle, humorous description of Clare Balding's enjoyment of people, walking and the countryside. For fifteen years she led the BBC Rad This book is a gentle, humorous description of Clare Balding's enjoyment of people, walking and the countryside. For fifteen years she led the BBC Radio 4 series called Ramblings, walking with people all over Britain. In this book she concentrates on a walk she does near the family home, along the Wayfarer's Walk in Hampshire, with her brother, mother and various dogs for company. During the walk we learn that in spite of her frequent television appearances (she's a well-known sports commentator too), her favourite medium is radio. "One of the joys of radio is that you don't have to dress up, you don't have to put on a costume or pretend to be someone louder, brighter and more colourful. Radio listeners don't want an act or what you think is an improved version of yourself. They like genuine people, warts 'n' all. They want you to share the real you, and on radio you can do that, in a way that television doesn't allow. She also discusses some of the wonderful people and groups she has met whilst doing Ramblings. From David Sedaris, humorist, author and ardent litter collector - whose ambition whilst litter picking is to discover a dead body. To a bunch of middle-aged people she met in China walking backwards up a hill. "It was like a scene from a zombie movie. She also met some less eccentric groups - like the "Walk and Talk" group for people with mental health problems, or the "Forget Me Not" group for people suffering with dementia. Both these groups had a great sense of community and were doing much to help the people who took part. Most of all I enjoyed her quiet sense of humour, shown here where she discusses Lucy, her co-producer and sound recordist on Ramblings. "Nice boots," says Lucy. "Are they new?" All in all I thought this book was an excellent read - for me it was perfect for bedtime - as it puts you into a lovely mood. I read Balding's autobiography some time ago, My Animals and Other Family, and I sincerely hope she is going to write more books for adults in the future. ...more |
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**spoiler alert** This small book is about Mark, a young Anglican vicar. He is terminally ill, but only his bishop has that information - he himself d
**spoiler alert** This small book is about Mark, a young Anglican vicar. He is terminally ill, but only his bishop has that information - he himself doesn't know it. The bishop assigns him to work in a small Indian village on the coast of British Columbia, belonging to the Kwakiutl tribe, called Kingcome. He feels that if Mark is to make his peace with death, learning to live in this tribal community will be the best path for him to achieve that. At first the villagers mistrust him, but as time goes on his understated manner, his honesty and straightforward ways of dealing with people breaks down their reserve. He too slowly becomes comfortable adapting to their culture, rituals and life - centred as it is around a river and near the sea - and the villagers become his friends. At one stage the bishop offers to send along a prefabricated house replace the existing vicarage, which is extremely rundown, but Mark decides he'd prefer to try and fix the existing one, with the help of the villagers. This proves to be a very bonding experience for them. We see first hand the benefits and problems caused when Indian culture bumps up against Western culture. The village children are taken away to be educated in a white residential school in a town down the river, where they will learn a different way of life. Many villages see this as a great loss. We see Western medicine being brought up the river in hospital boats - but also a licence for the sale of alcohol is given to the village, and the fear this will cause havoc, which for some people it does. No explanation is given as to how the village came to be Christian (albeit alongside other spiritual beliefs), but the role of the church seems an accepted part of village life. Eventually Mark's health starts to fail and one of the villagers calls the bishop to tell him that he is becoming unwell. Shortly after this Mark is out in his boat, when he hears an owl call his name. In the village this is understood as a portent of imminent death. Then a nearby tree is struck by lightening and it falls on the boat - and Mark is killed. For some time now the village has regarded him as part of their family - and so the the burial ceremony and celebrations to honour the dead are held for him in their traditional fashion, ending with him being brought to the church. The bishop is also there to share in these rituals. That night, one of the villagers stays up all night, sitting on the steps outside his house, just in case Mark's soul returns to the village he had loved. He felt it would be inhospitable if no one was awake and waiting to greet him.... All my review has done is lay down the bare bones of the story - in truth the book is quite enchanting and evokes strong feelings. I found it deeply moving, and as soon as I had finished it I had a strong desire to read it again. ...more |
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I found this book quite difficult to read. The author presented us with so many different areas of research and experiments with regard to child/adult
I found this book quite difficult to read. The author presented us with so many different areas of research and experiments with regard to child/adult development that I got muddled. I didn't get the impression that the book was gaining momentum as it went along, building up to the summary, instead we seemed to go off on various tangents. As a result I ended up getting most satisfaction from some of the research described, rather than the overall book. The conclusions Tough came to about what is important when rearing a child. *More than anything else we need to form a good attachment with our children, especially when babies, in the first year of their life. We need to be aware of their needs and especially we need to learn to comfort them when they feel stressed. * As they grow older they need boundaries. * We also need to help our children develop grit and resilience - and part of that is letting them make mistakes - and to pick themselves up and continue. They need to learn how to negotiate "child-size adversity" without us stepping in to rescue them. They need learn that it's okay to make mistakes and move on. Tough is particularly concerned about the well-being of the very poorest children in society. Not only are they likely to be raised in stressful situations and neighbourhoods, but it is also very likely that they have never experienced the benefits of a secure attachment with their caregiver (good attachments greatly buffer the effects of stress and trauma.) Many of them exhibit problems related to stress - like depression, anxiety, or even trauma. Some have eating disorders, panic attacks or suicidal behaviour. At school they are hampered by poor concentration, impaired social skills, and inability to sit still or to follow directions and"what teachers perceive as misbehaviour". They are quite likely to end up spending time in foster homes or juvenile detention centres, and their quality of life outcomes when older are equally dire. Tough feels strongly that the needs of these children are not being properly addressed. He suggests a very thorough and comprehensive range of interventions throughout their childhood - from training young mothers how to form good bonds with their children to helping the children at both pre-kindergarten and school to learn resilience and self-regulation. They should be challenged to do high-level work rather than tracked into remedial classes. He acknowledges that a co-ordinated system like this would cost money. Ideally it would target the 10%-15% of children at highest risk of failure, and he feels that in the long run it would be cheaper than the "ad hoc system" we have now. I shall end with notes about the experiments which particularly interested me. (view spoiler)[ (hide spoiler)] ...more |
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Does money make you happy? Well, judging from this book it does. Especially when you've retired from being a in a famous rock band*, have married the Does money make you happy? Well, judging from this book it does. Especially when you've retired from being a in a famous rock band*, have married the girl of your dreams and are living on an idyllic farm in the Cotswolds - surrounded by other famous retired musicians and villages lauded for their beauty and charm. This was an excellent bedtime read - James seems genuinely to relish the countryside, his family and his farm. Plus he gets into cheese-making with a passion too and reading about that was fun. Everything he does is larger than life (for instance he goes to see Prince Charles at Highgrove to discusses cheese making with him.) He has a nicely quirky take on things and I enjoyed his writing. The only only bit I didn't like was when he talked about going on a couple of shoots to kill pheasants - which he appeared to relish along with everything associated with life in the countryside. Throughout the book there are also references to his love for music, and I shall end by giving a taster of his writing with one of these snips, when he goes to the midnight carol service at his local church at Christmas. "The stillness of churches is supreme at Christmas, a balm to calm the mad fizz, and I dissolved peacefully into the benevolence.... I was belting out the tune (of Hark the Herald Angels) without a care in the world and quite a big grin on my face already, when quite unexpectedly the girls in the row behind us started to sing the descant harmonies as the first chorus kicked in. *James was, and I think is now again, a guitarist with the band Blur. ...more |
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This is a wonderful memoir of a young childhood spent in Narayanganj, then part of India, now part of Bangladesh. The book was written by Jon and Rume
This is a wonderful memoir of a young childhood spent in Narayanganj, then part of India, now part of Bangladesh. The book was written by Jon and Rumer Godden. Rumer went on to become a successful author. There is one funny mention in the book of her talents as a child... "Rumer, it seemed, was the odd one out, the one left behind.... "Why can't I dance or paint?" No one pointed out that Rumer could at least write but then writers were two a penny in our family." Fortunately her writing was greeted with a bit more respect in the wider world and she went on to write sixty books over the course of her life. This book is incredibly engaging - evocative of childhood and a charmed life in colonial India. The entitlement of the Godden family is always there in the background and may be abrasive to some. The fact that everything is seen from the perspective of young children softens this, at least it did for me. Most of all the book introduces us to a different culture on all sorts of levels, particularly inviting us in to experience the priorities, joys and concerns of childhood. Here is a typical example of the unusual experiences we are introduced to. We flew kites too: we loved to fly them. Made of coloured paper and fine bamboo, Indian kites are as brilliant as huge butterflies and almost as light. The gatekeeper Guru bought them for us in the bazaar and showed us how to glass our strings, how to run the fine thread through a mixture of flour paste and ground glass until the whole string was armoured and then to wind the string round the polished bamboo roller that had a slim bamboo handle at each end and which our small hands could grasp. He showed us how to launch and fly our kites, how to send them higher and higher, standing with our legs well apart, holding our rollers in both hands, bracing ourselves against the tug and pull. He taught us how to make our kite bob three times as a challenge to the other kites in the sky and then, as a distant cry of 'Dhari, Dhari!' rose from an invisible roof top, to cross strings with our opponent until the vanquished kite, cut loose, floated helplessly away over the river. I gave the book three stars. Only because for me it was slightly disjointed, for instance Jon and Rumer were talked about in both the first and third person, which was mildly disconcerting. I also skipped a couple of mentions about animals which looked majorly upsetting. No criticism of the book at all in that respect - I just do best to avoid those things. All in all though I thought the book was a good read. ...more |
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Ryan Wilson, the author, is a good egg, and his book is a delight to read. Full of warm and often hilarious descriptions of life in the classroom. He
Ryan Wilson, the author, is a good egg, and his book is a delight to read. Full of warm and often hilarious descriptions of life in the classroom. He is obviously a very good teacher . He starts off his training in a highly rated school in Cambridge, but ends up choosing to teach at an inner city comprehensive in a deprived area of London. The enjoyment he gets from teaching flows out of every page. As his career blossoms - I think he ends up as deputy head teacher - his disillusion with the government and the heavy hand of Ofsted grows. I have taken my usual notes (see the spoiler), and nearly all of these concern his dissatisfaction with government funding and interventions. I read the book as a bedtime read and it was the perfect way to end the day. Highly recommended. (view spoiler)[
So, to summarise, every single piece of work a child produces is to be marked by the teacher.?? The leadership in many schools say that day to day classwork in students' exercise books can be 'acknowledged' rather than marked in detail - the so-called 'tick and flick' approach.?? The small but not insignificant question raised by this pronouncement is 'Why?'?? Does anyone really, in their heart of hearts, believe that it serves the interests of any child to have teachers leafing through several hundred exercise books every fortnight and ticking every page just to acknowledge that they have been glanced at??? Rather than using that time, say, planning lessons or creating resources? The answer, of course, is that nobody really thinks that.?? The reason they insist on it - seemingly the only reason they insist on it - is because they think it will look more thorough when Ofsted show up and have a look at exercise books. Special meetings to help teachers do anything?to achieve the highest academic standards with their pupils, in an effort to placate Ofsted. 207/8 The first meeting is in a very grand hall in London, with fancy lighting and professional projection and a top notch lunch. There is a charismatic leader who addresses his flock with the fervour of a preacher.? He exhorts them to do everything they can to make their schools' results better and better and better.?? One of the speakers starts to describe qualifications that schools can teach pupils very quickly, even in the last few weeks of the academic year, and that count towards a school's overall statistics.?? Another describes how she has experimented with different exam boards and found the one which gives the highest number of grades.?? Yet another tells of a loophole in the way a school's achievements are calculated which means you can enter pupils for a particular GCSE exam, not teach them anything about it, and it will benefit the stats.?? The children get absolutely nothing from it, but it will boost the school's numbers. The enthusiasm of the teachers attending, I reflected, was not because they loved doing these things either, but because they were under such enormous, crippling pressure from Ofsted to produce ever higher results. Michael Gove, when Education Secretary 212 Was Michael Gove a particularly bad Education Secretary??? I think he was just more proactive than some of his immediate predecessors and successors.?? Most seem content to keep things ticking over and are therefore fairly benign if rather ineffective.?? But Gove was a man determined to make dramatic changes, with seemingly little interest in the opinions or experiences of teachers.?? He was only in his post for years but we are still feeling the effects of his tenure. He is a prime example of the havoc that a political appointee can wreak on the lives of students, teachers and the health and stability of our national education system. Making exams more 'rigorous' 233 Not everyone is cut out for exams.?? Not being good at exams doesn't mean that you're inferior or even that you're not as good at the subject.?? And yet these reforms seem to perpetuate that belief.?? As usual, it's the weakest in society who suffer most, and it's all in the name of 'rigour'. This latest change is part of a wider pattern that has been troubling me.?? For some time I have been asking myself whether I want to stay working in a education system where the priorities of Ofsted can trump the priorities of children, where exam results are treated as more important than character development or nurturing a love of learning or providing a well-rounded education in the broadest sense of the word, and where stress levels continue to ratchet up and up unchecked by school leaders or politicians or anyone else. Knife Arch deterrent, after someone is stabbed at school 239 We also introduce random searches.?? The police bring in a 'knife arch', essentially a metal detector, and we collect classes from their lessons and escort them to the hall where they walk through it in turn.?? We think it works well as a deterrent.?? But what an environment for children, in the UK, in the twenty-first century, to go to school in. The government misleads about funding schools. 259 On the news that evening an Education Minister is asked about schools that are struggling for funding.?? 'The education budget is ring-fenced and we have not cut even a penny from the money that goes directly to schools.'?? His words could not have riled me more.?? While technically true about the overall spend, he conveniently omits the fact that the number of children on the school roll is going up, so keeping the funding the same is a real-terms cut.?? He ignores inflation, so the same is a real-terms cut.?? Then there's the new funding formula that means some schools, like ours, will receive a smaller slice of the pie.?? And he doesn't mention the fact that the government has required schools to stump up a significantly higher share of employees' pension contributions than they have done in the past, without any extra funding to do that.?? Another real-term cut. (hide spoiler)] ...more |
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I have ambivalent feelings about this book. It covers a large area, both in terms of history and geography - discussing a lot of issues that I want to
I have ambivalent feelings about this book. It covers a large area, both in terms of history and geography - discussing a lot of issues that I want to learn more about. Mostly concerning the origins of the 'war on drugs' attitude adopted by the American authorities, and also discussing the merits of decriminalizing and possibly even legalizing drugs. But then I found out more about the author, who had a real fall from grace some years ago for reputed plagiarism and making up quotes - and for leaving negative comments under a false name on the Wikipedia pages of people who had criticised him. At the time he was a journalist working for The Independent newspaper in London, (ie he was not just some hack/troll tapping away in a dark basement.) His behaviour really sounded quite extraordinary. So, I paused in my reading and checked out the reviews for this book in both The Guardian and The New York Times. Both had good things to say about the book - but both were concerned about the trustworthiness of his research. The trouble of course is that the research is the backbone of the book. Anyway I finished it and I think I'm glad I read it, but I didn't have the enthusiasm to work on taking a bunch of notes, like I usually do. I also found Hari's writing style a bit too flamboyant for my tastes. However even with questionable research, he put forward some very interesting ideas and arguments in favour of decriminalising drugs - and it was worth reading for that reason. During the course of his investigations he visited both Switzerland and Portugal, which are countries with very liberal drug policies. I shall end with some notes I took just about the situation in Portugal - as this particularly interests me. (view spoiler)[ (hide spoiler)] One more thing, for anyone wishing to find out more about the legalisation of drugs (which is different to the decriminalisation of drugs for personal use)..... ...more |
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What an interesting read! I've been zipping through this book with gusto. Basically dopamine is our "urge" neurotransmitter and hormone. It makes us W What an interesting read! I've been zipping through this book with gusto. Basically dopamine is our "urge" neurotransmitter and hormone. It makes us WANT. When we get what we want, we get another spike of it as a reward. If we fail to get what we want our dopamine drops down drastically. However dopamine operates like a seesaw - and our body seeks equilibrium. If the seesaw veers too much in one direction, we begin to experience the opposite emotion....the other side of the seesaw starts to rise, as if to compensate for too much of the first emotion. The author talks a lot about how pain is good for us. One example she gave was a man who was so determined to have freezing baths he got a meat freezer that he could fill with water - and when ice formed on the top he'd break the ice and submerge himself for several minutes. He felt so good afterwards that he persuaded friends and their families to join in! They'd have icy bathing parties, with hot baths following the icy submerging. The resulting dopamine hit was apparently worth it. People in Scandinavia are of course famous for having saunas followed by icy dips. Runners too experience a high as a reward for their hard work. Even walking for 30 minutes today can have great benefits to one's mood. On the other side.... People who regularly go sky-diving can suffer with anhedonia (a complete lack of enjoyment in their lives.) They get such a high from sky-diving it becomes the equivalent of taking a heavy drug - they are getting such big dopamine overloads when sky-diving that ordinary life seems without pleasure. Lempke also talks about how easy it is to get addicted to all sorts of things, from gambling to social media to shopping. She usually asks her patients to refrain from their drug or addictive behaviour for one month and then review the situation, to see if abstinence or moderation is the way forward. Meanwhile we do ourselves a lot of good by simply paying attention to the ordinary things in life, with a healthy mix of mild experiences of pain and pleasure. A walk in the park, doing the housework, going to an exhibition, or having supper with friends. Keeping that seesaw reasonably balanced. The odd bout of skydiving would be fine, but probably not a good thing to do on a regular basis. My one negative takeaway? I was upset by the mentions of unpleasant animal research. An unintended consequence of me reading the book has been to really bring this into my awareness and it's made me much more determined to do something positive about it. Anyway, all in all the book was very interesting, and I shall end with my usual notes. (view spoiler)[ (hide spoiler)] ...more |
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The author seemed like a horse whisperer, in terms of the empathy she has with her horses - and I greatly enjoyed her descriptions of her interactions
The author seemed like a horse whisperer, in terms of the empathy she has with her horses - and I greatly enjoyed her descriptions of her interactions with them and her observations of their relationship with her and with one another. Having said that, I wasn't sure how anthropomorphic her observations were, or maybe that was just my lack of an extra special relationship with any of the horses I have known. (I've only known them as a passionate hanger-on at riding stables as a child and teenager. I never actually had my own.) Even so, this is a lovely read for anyone who loves horses. Warning - it does end sadly.
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I think it's relevant to say that the edition I was reading was published in 2000 - and perhaps some of the more recent editions are presented differe
I think it's relevant to say that the edition I was reading was published in 2000 - and perhaps some of the more recent editions are presented differently. It basically consists of a book where each artist or aesthetic movement is given a page. Ideally I wish this book had been published as a series, say of two or even three books. In this edition I found the typeface very narrow and also light in tone, which meant that reading was a strain, so I gave up after a while. This was a pity as the book is for more than coffee table browsing and you want to be able to read the text. The short descriptions giving brief details about the pictures even require a magnifying glass in order to read them. In spite of all that negativity it's worth mentioning that this is currently being sold very cheaply second hand - and it does cover a wonderful range of 20th century artists. I got a copy from the library, but am fairly temped to get a copy on line. If you've got excellent eyesight and a good reading lamp it might be a good buy. ...more |
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