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“Gen Xers are in 'the prime of their lives' at a particularly dangerous and divisive moment,' Boomer marketing expert Faith Popcorn told me. 'They have been hit hard financially and dismissed culturally. They have tons of debt. They're squeezed on both sides by children and aging parents. The grim state of adulthood is hitting them hard. If they're exhausted and bewildered, they have every reason to feel that way.”
― Ada Calhoun, Why We Can't Sleep: Women's New Midlife Crisis

“A meta-analysis of almost two hundred studies conducted in more than fifteen countries found that women are more physically and emotionally exhausted than men, accounting for their higher rates of burnout in many sectors, such as media. "An awful lot of middle-aged women are furious and overwhelmed," wrote Ada Calhoun in a 2016 article titled "The New Midlife Crisis: Why (and How) It's Hitting Gen X Women." What we don't talk about enough is how the deck is stacked against their feeling any other way.”
― Soraya Chemaly, Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger

“Generation X women, who as children lacked cell phones and helicopter parents, came up relying on our own wits. To keep ourselves safe, we took control. We worked hard and made lists and tried to do everything all at once for a very long time without much help. We took responsibility for ourselves--and later we also took responsibility for our work or partners or children or parents. We should be proud of ourselves.”
― Ada Calhoun, Why We Can't Sleep: Women's New Midlife Crisis

“A meta-analysis of almost two hundred studies conducted in more than fifteen countries found that women are more physically and emotionally exhausted than men, accounting for their higher rates of burnout in many sectors, such as media. 'An awful lot of middle-aged women are furious and overwhelmed,' wrote Ada Calhoun in a 2016 article titled 'The New Midlife Crisis: Why (and How) It's Hitting Gen X Women.' 'What we don't talk about enough is how the deck is stacked against their feeling any other way.”
― Soraya Chemaly, Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger

“Maybe the Generation X story need not be: We're broke. We're unstable. We're alone. Maybe it can be: We've had a hard row to hoe. We've been one big experiment. And yet, look at us: we've accomplished so much.”
― Ada Calhoun, Why We Can't Sleep: Women's New Midlife Crisis

“If our generation has been told for decades that we have so much freedom, so many choices, such opportunities, the question women with young children face is: how free are we to reach for the stars in midlife if we have someone else depending on us? Especially when our concept of good parenting involves so much more brain space and such higher costs than it did for our mothers and grandmothers? And when we expect ourselves to be excellent, highly engaged parents while also being excellent, highly engaged employees?”
― Ada Calhoun, Why We Can't Sleep: Women's New Midlife Crisis

“We’ve also, at our age, honed incredibly sharp bullshit detectors and are in possession of a hormonal balance that renders us unwilling to suffer fools yet prepared to take no prisoners.”
― Jennie Young

“A meta-analysis of almost two hundred studies conducted in more than fifteen countries found that women are more physically and emotionally exhausted than men, accounting for their higher rates of burnout in many sectors, such as media. "An awful lot of middle-aged women are furious and overwhelmed," wrote Ada Calhoun in a 2016 article titled "The New Midlife Crisis: Why (and How) It's Hitting Gen X Women." "What we don't talk about enough is how the deck is stacked against their feeling any other way.”
― Soraya Chemaly, Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger

“One night in December 2018, the Tony-winning actress and singer TOnya Pinkins talked onstage about her experience of menopause adding: "Things are so much better than they were decades ago, but they can be bad and better at the same time." "Bad and better" is one way to think about our prospects at this stage of life too.”
― Ada Calhoun, Why We Can't Sleep: Women's New Midlife Crisis

“Listening to other women's stories this year has given me confirmation, finally, that our expectations have been absurd. So many women I spoke with--objectively successful women--felt ashamed of their perceived failures.

What if we're not failures? What if what we've done is good? At any rate, maybe it's good enough.”
― Ada Calhoun, Why We Can't Sleep: Women's New Midlife Crisis

“I'm not knocking choices, just saying that having so many of them with so little support has led to a great deal of shame. Being a full and equal partner both at work and at home, having a rich social life, contributing to society, staying in shape - doing all that is exponentially harder than doing any one thing. We asked for more, and did we ever get it. I firmly believe it's fairer. Easier? No.”
― Ada Calhoun, Why We Can't Sleep: Women's New Midlife Crisis

“The people I know who are happy realize they can't care about everything," says Deal. "You have to decide what you care about. If everything matters to you, you're going to go nuts.”
― Ada Calhoun, Why We Can't Sleep: Women's New Midlife Crisis

“As a Gen-Xer I had gotten used to abuse. That had to change. As I walked around, I rearranged my life and formulated a secret battle plan. Setting boundaries would upset those who benefited from me not having those. I had to develop what I wanted my future to be. To dream. Then only allow those who shared that vision into my life. This plan was one of the best things I ever did for myself.”
― Nobo (Not A Hobo), Homeless On Purpose: Boston 1997

“In between one heartbeat and the next, I know my time in Boomertown is at an end.
And not even for my sake or Bailey’s, but for Ace’s. I came, I saw, and unlike Caesar, I did not conquer. But then, I never could have done that, anyway.
I think that’s the real secret to the Boomer generation.
They gave us a rigged game from the start. Gen X, Millennials and Zoomers played against the house. We were told we could win if we just worked hard enough, but most of us have lost out in some way or another.”
― I.M. Millennial

“Cobain is not the voice of our generation. He’s the angst. He is our frustration. Our anger.”
― Scott Thompson, Lost in â€�96

“Sex was the rewind button when you were alone and the fast-forward button when your parents got home.”
― Heather Babcock